Say your in your 2nd yr of college, you have a roommate, who’s “special friend” comes over about 3-4 nights out of the week and stays over. In the same room as your roommate, which is the same room that you sleep in? What would you do? Should you offer to give them the room alone some nights? Should I just say just give a heads up when you want him to stay over and you want the room alone? I'm willing to sleep on the couch ever so often, maybe once every 2 weeks. Do I have even have to offer? What should you do when the slightest noise wakes you up? Such as 2 people kissing? Are ear plugs a good investment?
Should I just be a ****** and say “I’m trying to sleep and I’m sort of tired of your friend coming over all the time and staying”? Should I start looking for a single room?
If you have any advice on the awkward situation, please give it. Please give.
2006-10-26 04:20:14 · 24 answers · asked by Raziel 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I'm a guy, he's a guy and his friend is a guy. I have no prob with that.
2006-10-26 04:26:38 · update #1
it depends on how good of a "friend" you see this person. r u really willing to sleep on the couch some nights..i mean geez. but if u've known them for awhile and r real cool w/ em... i'd say sacrifice urself for a little bit. let them have there fun. if it's just a roomate friend like..eh.. then.. u can afford to be an ****** if it's bothering u enough.
2006-10-26 04:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Beyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't specify if you're in a dorm room or an apartment. I'll assume that you're in a dorm. I would tell her the truth that 3-4 nights a week is a little excessive and inconsiderate. You both need ground rules in order to co-exist in one room. Be reasonable and offer say Tuesdays and Thursdays and then you can plan to either bunk on the couch or be out of the room.
It's your room and you have a say!
2006-10-26 04:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dorm room is just as much yours as it is his, and your roommate should be respectful of you and your needs as well. I would talk to him and explain the situation, and try to work it out on your own. If you just move over for him on this now, he and his girlfriend will take advantage of you for the rest of the time you two room together. I remember a similar situation back during my college days, and the guy let it go on until it became a major problem (He'd walk in the room in the middle of the afternoon and they were in the sack doing it, and pissed off at him because he didn't knock ahead of time). Be polite, but be firm. If he refuses to at least try to work out a solution with you, then I would take this to your RN right away. It may cause some tensions between you and your roomie, but, in five years from now, you'll look back and be happy you didn't let him walk all over you.
2006-10-26 04:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't TELL him exactly how you feel, then how WILL he know how you feel about it? I would tell him the truth (3 or 4 nights a week sounds a little too often). If it bothers you, maybe they should get a hotel room, sleep at the "special friends" house, etc.
2006-10-26 04:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by TJD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they can have the room sometimes. But 3-4 times per week is not fair to you. I would ask if maybe they can go to the other person's room sometimes.
2006-10-26 04:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tony M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up honest with your roommate when their "special friend" isn't around. Tell him/her that you feel awkard when their guest stay over and you can hear them. Ask to give you a heads up or signal so you'll know.
If you don't say something a) their friend will move in and just take over. b) all of your anger/rage will build up and you'll yell one night.
best wishes.
2006-10-26 04:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could invest in some of those Bohse (sp?) headphones and play soft music while trying to sleep. They are supposed to keep out all kinds of noise. Personally i think i would try talking to her and if that doesn't work i would look for a single room!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-26 04:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to limit it to 1 or 2 nights a week because you need your sleep. If you have to get cranky about it remind your roomate that you are paying for the room so you shouldn't have to have your sleep disturbed.
2006-10-26 04:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
somepeople are very inconsiderate of others space. Offer to sleep on the couch sometimes but tell your roommate that if he wants privacy he should look for a single room. it is not fair for you to have to move.
2006-10-26 04:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by marilee w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋