so im confused again i love this guy, he definately used to love me dont know if he does anymore. he moved away, smokes crack and mushrooms etc. dont know what to do about it because i really love him. i dont understand anything anymore! so confused!!
2006-10-26 04:13:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry hun, but you should really move on...as much as it hurts. He probably won't intentionally hurt you by using drugs, but believe me....they subconsciously come as #1 in his life....especially if he's smoking crack. It is highly addictive, and takes over people...even when they don't mean to hurt anyone.
Try not to imagine a future with this guy. You're obviously upset about what he does...you should not continue to persue him. I know you don't want to think of another guy right now because of your feelings for him, but eventually you will get over him, and meet someone clean, that will be all about you.
Sorry you're going through a rough time. Just remember to respect yourself, and ask yourself what will benefit from this relationship? I know the satisfaction of having him, but realistically, does he bring you more happiness or greif? I think you should move on from the confusion and enjoy yourself. Time truly does heal.
2006-10-26 04:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy really needs you. If not now, in the future. He will probably be broke from spending all his money on drugs. That's where you come in. You need to do them with him so that way when you are out of money and dope you can sell yourself for say, $20. You won't have to work hard for this just bob your head up and down or maybe ride the weenur. Anyway, this usually takes 10 - 15 mins. That's actually a good hourly rate isn't it?!? What other lifestyle allows you to get f**ked and f**ced up all day and all night?
2006-10-26 11:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you "have feelings" for someone doesn't mean you need to act on them.
This person is a known drug user, and you wonder if you should have a relationship with him?
You can be friends with him, but you know what you are getting in to.
If you choose to have a relationship with him down the road, you can't really complain about the problems you choose to ignore. Best to avoid heartache, upset and other potential problems by not looking at him romantically. If you can't be "just friends", then I would say stay away from him... and with his history of drug abuse, that might be the best thing anyway.
2006-10-26 11:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sister Jeanne Maria-Dolorosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. I'm sure you can do better. I moved from Chicago to Indianapolis to get away from a man I dated for 6 years who still smokes crack. Don't let that stuff get into your life, it is horrible. Mushrooms aren't so bad but crack definitely is.
2006-10-26 11:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to love someone who doesn't even love themselves? I am going to tell you what I went through (short Version)
I used to date this man about 7 yrs ago. I loved him with all my heart, he in turn loved crack with all of his. I stood by him because I loved him. I even stood by when he had bad highs and would kick me out of his apartment because to him I made him feel guilty and he didn’t want me around. It’s a horrible feeling when you’re being pushed away for a drug. I finally got fed up when, on his birthday, I planned a huge ordeal for him. When he finally showed up, 4 hours late, he showed up high and completely made a fool of himself. He begged me to take him home because he didn’t want to be around people. On the way home it hit me…why am I with someone who obviously doesn’t love himself or me for that matter. I pulled into a 7-11 parking lot and I kicked him out my car. I left him in the rain, high, and on his birthday. I know it sounds messed up but what he had put me throw for the pass year was enough to make any woman crack. At that moment in time, I just couldn’t or wouldn’t deal with it a minute longer. My suggestion to you is run. Run as far as you can in the opposite direction. It will hurt leaving him but it will hurt a lot more being pulled into the world of drugs. In the long run, you will suffer, you will hurt and he will not care. All he will care about is where his next fix is coming from. Take it from someone who has been there….love yourself more and move on.
2006-10-26 11:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he moved away be thankful that he didn't drag u down with him in his drug use love will make u do crazy things and by doing drugs u loose all sence of feelings for others doing drugs and finding ways to get more drugs is all thats on your mind for the most part.if he really loves u he will clean up and come back but better to just let go
2006-10-26 11:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by 38fsacramento 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a loser anyways... doing drugs is not something or anyone you want to be around if you want good for you. Please reconsidar if this is love you feel or you just do not want to be alone... I am sure you can find someone else who is drug free and living in the same town as you. Sounds like you rloser might end up in jail soon anyways... Move on!
2006-10-26 11:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously i dont know you but im sure that ur a really luffly person why wudnt you want to find someone who will love you back and if you arnt sure maybe you should just ask him and then if he stil wants the drugs more than you then im sorry but it luks to me like thats going to be the end of it ... gud luk xxxx sure ul find your perfect partner and be so much happier luk back on this and feel so stupid that you even concidered not moving on
2006-10-26 11:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by *!*Rach H*!* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's all "doped up" that means he's not thinking about anything in his head.
You should read the book called, "He's Just Not That Into You", by Greg Behrendt.
You can probably find it at your local library.
2006-10-26 11:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be with someone who uses drugs. It isn't safe and who knows what could happen. It's OK to love him, but it's also OK to stay away from him.
2006-10-26 11:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋