in regards to the teen either a) keeping/raising the baby, b) putting the baby up for adoption, c) teen's parents' adopting/caring for baby, or d) abortion. Not sure if there's laws on this topic or not? Who gets to decide what happens - the minor or the parents? I would HOPE that the teen and parents could work it out together and make a decision, but I'm sure that isn't always the case - just look at that recent couple from maine who tried to force their daugther to get an abortion.
2006-10-26 03:54:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Big Rudy lol are you calling ME a skank? I'm 26 years old, married, and have no children yet. Also, may I add, I waited until marriage to have sex. So why are you calling me a skank? lol good grief
2006-10-26 03:58:32 · update #1
HI my name is Justine and i am 17 years old and i have a little girl Lillian Rose and she is only a couple months old. Yes I know how it is to go thru this ,it was difficult but i decided to keep my baby and i am gald i did she is the best thing that ever happened to me shes is a..miracle , i got to decide if i wanted her or to give her up for adoption my parents had no part of it and didnt want to get involved. They thought i was ..a skank ..but the thing is they didnt realize i loved this guy , i really loved him and hes loves me but he is going to the army and i was afraid i would never see him again and i wanted him to be my first so thats how it happpennd, im okay now living in my apartment by myself without my paernts or a husband /boyfriend(hes in the army)my daughter and i are great :] so thanks for asking my opinion yes it is hard and difficult but i worked thorugh it :]
i hope i helped
2006-10-26 07:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Justine B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision legally falls to the pregnant teen in most states, however, the teen should be fully educated on all options before the decision is made. The problem is that most young teens aren't mature enough to weigh options. As a parent of 2 girls and several boys, I would tell my pregnant teen that if they do decide to keep the child, I'm not raising it. I would also tell them that they will be finishing school at all costs. There are many school programs that are developed for pregnant teens. If my child decides they are an adult and can make up their own minds, I would have to use the tough love method. However, I would hope that my child and I could work out the situation for everyone's (including the unborn child) benefit.
This is a difficult question with even more difficult answers and I hope that I never have to face it.
2006-10-26 06:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by TheresaE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's complex. regardless of the laws it's a delicate balance between parental supervision and the bodily automony of the pregnant teen.
i think the best compromise is to try and reach a decision together. many say that the girl should just "have the baby and place for adoption." that's easy to say until one has been pregnant and experienced labor and delivery. it's also been suggested that the girl should terminate. once more, abortion is not a cake walk either. and then there's parenting. we can argue the pros and cons of adolescent parenting.
i think it's a situation that requires a ton of discussion and compromise. regardless what people might think about a young woman who is pregnant ("what a skank?" how rude!) she is still in need of support and understanding.
2006-10-26 06:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by tish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Final decision should rest eith the teen. BUT all parties should be informed and involved. In the UK the laws/system is really odd. A schoolgirl (and up to 16 that is a school girl) needs parental permission for such things as school trips etc, and has to have parental/guardian consent for non emergency medical procedures. Except for abortion!! she can visit the school nurse or family planning or her GP and discuss contraception (no problem except that legally shes below the age of consent) and abortion, and actually have an abortion without her parents even being informed!
IMHO this is just plain wrong. I can understand the thinking that if various authorities said that they would involve parents then pregnant children wouldnt go and see them at all, but the fact is it should be the parents right to be involved.
Its not fair, on one hand, to tell parents that they are responsible for their kids, and then go behind their backs and completely disempower them in this way.
Its entirely possible that young girls are having abortions out of fear of the conseqences, both at home and in their own lives, but if they informed their parents, they might find more support than they expected.
No one should EVER be forced to have an abortion, unless the pregnancy directly threatened their own life.
One thing that you have not mentioned is the father. Who and Where is he? Whilst he has no rights, he at least deserves to have his opinion heard, plus he has responsibilities to fulfil. He needs to be called to account. If older (especially much older) there are potential legel issues. If another teen, he needs to be taught that life isnt a free ride, and he needs to support this girl (and his kid) in the decision process and afterwards.
2006-10-26 04:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by agtfos 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol sweetheart Big Rudy is always a jerk.
anyways, It's the teen's body, so why shouldn't they decide??
I know parents who mentally force their reluctant kids into having an abortion. Just sayin here, abortion is wrong in my eyes, and its very difficult for ANY teen or older to get over once they lose that little miracle
2006-10-26 04:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by cattys_cats 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe 2 would be totally wrong, and i feel bad for the girl of the parents in Maine. I would say b or c. I would say c if the parents who don't mind taking care of the baby until the parent turns 18. I would say b if the parents were poor or were really angry and are going to stay that way.
2006-10-26 10:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jesse T. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The teen should be the one to decide, but the parents should ensure they are fully educated on all of the options!
I became pregnant when I was 16 years old, my son was born shortly after I turned 17. My parents, while upset at the situation, made sure I was well educated on my options and let me make my decision. My son is now 16 and is healthy and happy!
2006-10-26 05:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by tweeteebrrd 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My 16yr old sister went through the same thing with my mom. My sister was 15, during her first pregnancy. Her doctor had told my mom that even though she's a minor, by law, it's her decision what she's going to do with the baby. But my mom convinced her to get an abortion. My sister and I were against it but somehow my sister ended up with the abortion. My sister fell under depression and suffered from guilt. So she ended up pregnant again. This time she kept the baby and now my mom and I are helping her take care of him with the support from her 16yr old boyfriend. She's also receiving government's help for the supplements/food. Atleast he's working part-time and goes to school (from what she tells us). The good thing about this state, is that there are programs (special schools) who help pregnant teens/teenage moms to graduate high school. There's daycare in the school she's in. So she takes the baby with her every day to school with her. She's doing well in school, too. Thank God. I hate to say it but from our experience, it's up to the teen to make that hard decision, by law...according to my sister's doctor. Good luck with the decision.
2006-10-26 04:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The teen should be able to decide what happens to her baby and her body, Only if she expects to raise it completely by herself. Though she should be open minded to listen to the people around her and think of the many experiences they have gone through. The parents though should have a say in the baby's and mothers future for they are binded to law for taking care of the mother if still a minor. My opinion
2006-10-26 03:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
i'm getting quite aggravated while a youngster says they want to get pregnant. i think of there could be some variety of toddler-lending provider to those young people could desire to confirm what its like for some week or so. cause them to stay to tell the tale their very own and guard that toddler for a on an identical time as and see in the event that they nevertheless sense the comparable way. I grew to alter right into a mom at 19 and that i quite desire that I had had the time to easily be on my own and stay my own existence and do my own element.
2016-10-16 10:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋