We met & married in church. Within a month of two into the marriage, Four or five times a week, he wanted anal sex, he said, or he would have to go somewhere else to get it. He would say he was in one of his moods! I hated it, but complied. I was raised, wives be subject to your husbands. He gave me claumidia later. It's been over 28 yrs since the divorce. I've been with many other men who werent' like this. I still feel affected by this. But now I just want to be alone. ? is do you think he was bi-sexual, or was this a way to control me? I wonder was he a sociopath?
2006-10-26 03:40:49 · 9 answers · asked by noface 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
you said it yourself... you were submissive to him... it was the way you were raised.. and he controled you with a threat of I will get it somewhere else..
of course you feel affected by it because you now feel more powerful in your life... you knew it was wrong the way he treated you and that you let it happen out of fear....
take this feeling you have about the situation.. look at it... own it and put it away.. don't let it creep back in and control your life.. it is over..
Good riddence to bad rubbish!!!!
you go girl!!!
2006-10-26 03:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Blondie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I have to agree with CHILDofGod here, even though I'm not very religious! Maybe that is what everybody's problem is : they don't want to "work" in a marriage. As soon as something happens that's negative, people say get a divorce. So now I guess I see why the divorce rate is so high. That's your answer right there. My grandparents married in 1935, when Grandma was 14 & grandad was 19. They are still married today. When people here about a 73 yr. marriage, the first thing they do is clap. They don't know what kind of marriage it was. They don't know the work that went into such a long marriage. And I hear people complain that people aren't getting married anymore because the divorce rate is so high. In my opinion, they are lazy; they don't want to committ & they don't want to work; they just want to get out quickly if something happens. I've never been married so I speak from observation rather than personal experience. It's up to you. If you choose to work on this marriage than I don't think you should feel guilty about it. If you choose to walk then you shouldn't feel guilty about it. I think a professional could help him with his "problem", because I think it is some kind of psychological problem he has there.
2016-05-21 22:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. it's Chlymidia
2. If you didn't like it, You shouldn't have taken it in the can, you're not Pringles.
3. IT has nothing to do with being gay. Many straight men like to penetrate a woman's @ss because it is tighter, and since it is a taboo, they get off on it more.
4. Try taking it in the @ss again now, 28 yrs later. You might discover you like it again, with a different partner who is nice. but only once a week, i'd say. I'm surprised you can keep your sphincter closed after getting it in the @ss 5 times a week for 28 years!
2006-10-26 03:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by bigmarcus 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no reason to believe he was bisexual. Enjoying anal sex, or oral sex for that matter, has nothing to do with enjoying sex with other men. The male-male repertoire is just more limited, that's all.
Was he controlling? Sure. Was he a sociopath? You probably know better than we do. Anyway, just get the guy out of your head - he isn't worth the time it takes to think about him, especially since he isn't even in your life anymore.
2006-10-26 03:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 10 years... and have no desire for anal sex. I sorry to hear of your miss fortune. Some people have psychological problems with control... could be from a bad childhood, abusive parents???? Who really knows.... Excuses are far overused for peoples bad behavoir now a days. If all people were normal we wouldn't need psychologists today. Be very careful in choosing your spouse, and don't rush into relationships.-- take care
2006-10-26 03:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Darren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he was just a creep. some men are just complete pigs. i would def try not to think about it so much. just like u have met men who are especially sweet and good men, u just happened to first find one who was a disgusting selfish dog. dont let him ruin your life now that u are not with him anymore.
2006-10-26 03:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he has gay terndiencies any man who can do it to a woman anally is quite capable of doing it to a man. Get over it please pack it down to a learning experience and don't let it make you judgemental of men ; have faith you will meet a real man and not a mannie.
2006-10-26 05:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by GARN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a bit excessive an amount. i am lucky to 'get any' once every six months (thats another story ha ha ha )
Yes he was definitely gay...
You just stay cool though. be YOU and live YOUR life dont fret about the past...
2006-10-26 03:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave evrybody alone and recover urself and start life again
2006-10-26 03:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋