about the realationship between the two of them. The company is about to pay her off, because the affair happened at the work place.
I knew what was going on, because I confronted him several times.
My friends are urging me to sue her, for causing marital distress(since shes admitted it to her employers) needless to say my husband is being investigated (he was her boss) and demoted, he will probably be terminated after his employers finish the investigation. I 'm dealing with him in my own ways, but should I try to sue his gal-pal?? Serious answers please
2006-10-26 03:38:54 · 34 answers · asked by val l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not taking blame away from her, it takes two to tango, but, as her boss, your husband holds most of the responsibility. She had nothing to lose, and everything to gain. He had a family and a career to think about. Aside from the moral issues, this was very irresponsible of your husband. I can promise you that you have no case, nor is their a precedent in such a manner. Think about it, if there were precedent, any woman who has been the victim of infidelity, could sue "the other woman" for mental anguish and monetary loss. Sorry, but you do not have a case. Direct your anger towards your husband. I hope your marriage survives, and you are able to get past this.
2006-10-26 03:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't she that caused the problems you have now it was your husband. Suing her just makes you look petty and small. She doesn't deserve more of your time and attention than what she's gotten.
On the other hand, you need to deal with your husband. When you say "I'm dealing with him in my own ways," it sounds like you're playing mind or other games for revenge. If you don't want to be married to him, then divorce him. You knowingly made a choice to stay with him, even though you knew he was messing around. Are you really angry because he got busted by his job and how that's going to affect your lifestyle. Be honest.
Either be OK with someone who's going to be unfaithful to you, and don't care because of the money, or leave him. Whatever you do, don't kid yourself about what motivates you about the decisions you make.
Don't blame her; ask yourself why he cheated to begin with and why you didn't do something when you found out what was going on.
2006-10-26 04:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...you can't sue her for marital distress. All married couples have marital distress. Your husband was part of this affair too, and therefore you could argue he caused your marital distress.
A judge would laugh at you. Do you want that?
What are you hoping to gain? $100....go on Judge Judy or something.
How about you become more concerned about your husbands behavior, and the fact that he has put your financial security in jeopardy?
2006-10-26 03:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Softly, if you want to save the marrage. It is surprising how many couples find it difficult to really communicate with their mate. I would suggest teaching him to be a better lover, rather than insulting him for being inadequate. Tell him what you want: For example, "can you slow down [or speed up] a little honey, that felt good". Compliment him for what he does right, and direct him when he is missing the boat. If he is pulling your pubic hairs... trim or shave them. If you want him to treat you to some oral, and he is not that kind of man ( a great lover) then suggest some type of play that will lead him in the direction you want him to travel. I know that women are smarter than men when it comes to sex, many women have expressed that issue here on the net. The surprising thing that many women need to learn is that most men want a happy lover. I know I want to make my lover happy. When a woman is happy about what is happening life gets better in a hurry:-) I know there are some stupid men who don't care about doing it right. But I don't know of any smart men who wouldn't rather be guided in the right direction rather than have a woman who has to fake her feeling. To me that is a cop out!!! For not having the intellegence to get good sex. I know that I am not the worlds best lover, I'm not even close. But my woman known I love her passionately and will do anything that I can do to please her sexually. Great sex does not happen accidently every time. But you can make it happen.every time If you care enough to do what you need to do to make it better. Who knows... He may be faking it because you are not as good as he wants???? I am not saying that is the case, but I have faked it a few time to make a woman think she was better than she was. I am not saying you are not fabulous... I wouldn't know that without personal experience... one way or the other. But I can tell you this... telling a man or a woman he or she is a crappy lover is no way to make them better! I would bet you took offense when you thought I was saying something that would reflect that you were anything but a great lover. Now just think what he would feel if you told him "I'm tired of faking it"????
2016-05-21 22:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could, but what purpose would it serve? Your husband was just as responsible for the affair, if not more so. He caused the marital distress by sleeping with her. I don't think you would have much of a case.
I think what you need to do is sue your husband for divorce, and move on! Why put yourself through anymore of this drama??
2006-10-26 03:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. Sounds like your husband is the winner in all of this mess, he got to have his cake and eat it too. She may have been a victim, just as you are. If you've chosen to stay with your husband, then move on, but I don't think it's healthy for you to blame just her.
2006-10-26 03:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would sue her for what? All she has to say is that he used his position and authority to pressure her into the affair. This is a no win situation. That and I would think it would be difficult to find an attorney that would pursue this. Let her go and deal with that scumbag liar of a husband.
2006-10-26 03:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It will just cause stress and money. I doubt you'd win anything because all she was telling was the truth. You can sue for libel if malicious rumors are being spread, but I don't think you'd win in court on this one.
2006-10-26 03:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may not be worth it. You may pay more for expenses to get this done then any money that you would receive. If this goes to court you may get nothing and then be left with the bills for this expense. Look at all the options and maybe talk to a lawyer to see what can be done.
2006-10-26 03:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is legal way to gain and revenge, go for it big time. You are in fact suffering financial losses.
Go after her if your lawyer say it is a case.
Also think of a way to punish your husband.
2006-10-26 03:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Just_curious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋