It's been two and a half months since my ex left me and I still think about her. Even though I know that she kept me in the dark over so many things and I know we weren't right, I think I still love her. Does anyone know anyways of getting over someone? Or can give me advice or reassuring words?
Thank you
2006-10-26 03:31:48 · 13 answers · asked by chris0072k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It usually takes some time.....how long were you with her? I have heard that it takes a week for every month you have been with someone to get over it. Keep that timetable in mind.
Nothing can help you get over her but time. Make yourself busy with other things you love...tv, movies, books, sports, working out...whatever. Time will heal you. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it really will.
2006-10-26 03:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't just get over someone it is going to take a while. The worst thing you can do right now is start dating because you haven't healed from your lose yet. It will come with time. Meanwhile do keep busy, try not to sit at home. If there are children involved make sure that you center spare time around them whenever possible. I found when I went through my divorce that my married friends didn't know how to handle the situation so I just quit being around them. It's a great time to try something new that involves groups of people. There are groups for almost all kinds of hobbies so if you don't have a hobby find something that you think you might like and take some classes, become a Big Brother, help out at homeless shelters, fund raise for worthy causes. There are a million things to keep your mind busy and right now you need to keep your mind busy. It's not wrong to still think about her but you want the times you think about her to get farther and farther apart until you hardly think about her at all.
2006-10-26 10:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just lonesome right now. it hasnt been long enough for the 2 two of u to change who u r if u kept u in the dark then she would still now.
there really is no resonable reassuring words
it depends on what she was keeping u in the dark over if it was stuff like business and work there is no reason to be mad at her but if it was personal things then i can understand the break up.
but as far as moving on and getting over her that will take nothing but time.
2006-10-26 10:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can't get over her because you havn't yet found anyone else. You need to try n stop thinkin about how much ya miss her n try to think of positives from this situation. She obviously didn't appreciate ya as she didn't tell ya anything. There will be someone out there who will appreciate ya. There's no set way of gettin ova sumone, it jus takes time. Just go out with your mates, carry on as normal and hav a laugh. Keep thinkin about all the gud things in ya life, you'll soon find yourself ova her.
2006-10-26 11:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by X-krazee-X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its early days yet...you just need more time - it takes time you know - just have to go with it , all part of human relationships! Sounds like you will be fine :-)
If she 'kept you in the dark' about things that is not good , if you feel you weren't right for each other - thats not good , but saying you THINK you still love her...shows she was not the greatest love of your life.....that is yet to come!
2006-10-26 12:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok chris i know what you are going through. Its tough to get over a woman that you fell in love with. But seeing as you knew that she wasnt right for you are you sure that it isnt enfatuation. That sometimes is harder to get over than love.But My best advise is to start going out with the guys. Go to bars (depending on how old you are) flirt with women, pick up on women, have fun. Dont hold back. If are not good at talking to women... find a friend who is and take him with you, he can help you initiate conversation. All in all time heals all things but this will help keep your mind off of it for now. Good luck
2006-10-26 10:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard but the best thing is just to try and keep yourself as busy as possible go out with friends take up a hobby the busier you are the better and hopefully one day you'll realise you havent thought about her at all then it will get easier...
2006-10-26 11:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over someone is like grieving, but each day will get better though. Try to keep busy as this will take your mind off her. You dont have to forget her completely, the memories will always be there, but you need to move in with your life.
2006-10-26 10:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine, just keep busy, and don't think too much about getting over it! That just makes things 10x worse!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx kisses from me to make you feel better
2006-10-26 10:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,1st step toward getting over her is stop self pitying and acceoting sympathy from anyone.....accept the fact that she cheated and broke your trust and so why do you wanna waste your life and time behind someone who was not worth!!
start keeping your self busy,take up some sport that'll help you gain your self confidence back,make new friends n move on with life!!good luck!!
2006-10-26 10:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋