It might seem like a common scenario, when all is going good and you do realise that you are having a good time but fear the unknown and the unknown happens. Your circumstances (medical illness in the family) force you to move away and you discover that you need to move on fast ...so you get married to this guy you have known long distance for 3 years because logically he seems like marraige material. However, within a years time you realize that something very wrong has happened and that you are not enjoying the company of this man in your life and yearning to be with someone you were forced to leave. to make matters worst, a close family member dies and now there is no one to emotionally depend on ....you still continue to do what is socially right. try to work on your existing marraige. But no connection there...you dont miss him when he's away instead you are drifted off into reliving moments with your bf in the past. what happens then? what should be done?
2006-10-26 03:31:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It might seem like a common scenario, when all is going good and you do realise that you are having a good time but fear the unknown and the unknown happens. Your circumstances (medical illness in the family) force you to move away and you discover that you need to move on fast ...so you get married to this guy you have known long distance for 3 years because logically he seems like marraige material. However, within a years time you realize that something very wrong has happened and that you are not enjoying the company of this man in your life and yearning to be with someone you were forced to leave. to make matters worst, a close family member dies and now there is no one to emotionally depend on ....you still continue to do what is socially right. try to work on your existing marraige. But no connection there...you dont miss him when he's away instead you are drifted off into reliving moments with your bf in the past. what happens then? what should be done?
2006-10-29 17:20:58 · update #1
You have to make up your mind. You can't have your cake and eat it.
2006-10-26 03:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is so short, don't spent it being unhappy! Whether or not you get back with the ex, don't stay in a situation that will ultimately end anyways. Live, Love, and BE HAPPY. Especially if there are no children involved, the only ties you have to this man is a piece of paper. Make the most of your life, you only get one.
One thing - if the ex is your only reason for not giving this man a chance, you may need to look inside of yourself. You may be holding yourself back and blocking your blessings. Think about it, why is your heart closed to your husband? And who's fault is that? Some matches are not good matches, but weigh your decision before you make it.
2006-10-26 03:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's MARRIED chica and if he quite loved you he does not have married the different woman. Taken men are a huge no-no because no count number how a lot love you provide them they are not in any respect going to go away their woman for you. So contained in the best you'll in basic terms finally end up used, damage, and thoroughly on my own. Have some self-understand and flow on to a guy who will cherish you and easily you, not you and somebody else.
2016-12-05 06:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up and learn that lesson. Never marrie with someone for fun, and for any reason besides love. Thats a very important move in a person's life. Better to stay single that badly married.
Give up from the marriage and go on with your life. As less you expect you will find someone who really means something to you.
2006-10-26 03:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by drawingyoureyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does not sound common to me. I think you need to go to marriage counseling or get a divorce and let this man move on to a woman that truly loves him. Something is missing for you here and it is not good for either one of you for you to stay out of "social" concerns. Please do both of you a favor and break things down. It may even help your current relationship if you can figure out what is really missing. Good luck!
2006-10-26 03:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Teufel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all want what is just out of our grasp, eh? You might end up in the same boat (worse off even) if you were to go after your ex-beau. And then where would you be. Probably missing your ex-husband like crazy and feeling guilty for what you've done to everyone involved.
My advice . . . work on your marriage. Go all out to make it work. Your husband will respond. If you are not enjoying his 'company' it's because you are not allowing yourself to become committed. If one doesn't allow oneself to be happy - one won't be happy. It is inside you to allow yourself to be happy and content with your marriage.
Let your memory of your ex-beau stay a memory.
2006-10-26 03:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation indeed. My take on that is to dump the guy you're with now and go back to where your heart is. To fufill society's idea of what's right will only make you miserable. Plus, it isn't fair to the guy you are currently with. Now, you must answer this question. Will the guy I left behind take me back after what I've been through? Remember not to change horses in the middle of the stream.
2006-10-26 03:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're prone to commit cheating. That's very bad. Learn to love your husband very soon and make it easy for him to see. Your drifting mind will not be kept to yourself forever... it will be noticed sooner or later and you'll end up faultered. I assume you're actually hoping for the slightest hint of getting back with your x-bf... or worse, seeking encouragement on here to leave your husband, follow your heart and win your x-bf back. I strongly suggest for you to let your x-bf go.
2006-10-26 03:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live your life wondering. Find out if it's worth moving on. I am a firm believer in not leaving things in limbo. Find your ex and figure out if you need to make a life changing decision.
2006-10-26 03:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you marry your husband? Seriously, how do you even know that your ex hasn't moved on. I bet he has. And you're thinking of leaving your husband for something so trivial.
2006-10-26 03:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy leave him, just tell him how you rreally feel about the whole situation. If he cares about you enough he'll listen to you and help you out. Marriage is about love, not friendship or social responsibility.
2006-10-26 03:34:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋