Later, called one of the young women thru' the number and found out he texted and called her reqularly but not sexual just to chat. Wonders, why he rather texted and talk to women around his daughter's age than talking to either the wife or his own daughters. He doesn't show interest in the wife these days for nearly a year and almost the same time he's been texting these women. Is there a problem with this marriage and should the wife worry?
2006-10-26 03:28:27 · 19 answers · asked by mchoh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wife worries but don't know how to approach him abt it.
2006-10-26 03:37:33 · update #1
Have talked to him about him ignoring and not communicating with the wife. Denies and said it's all her imagination. Now, don't totally ignores her and have some kind of relationship yet now that frequent. But, most of the time still runs away from the wife. Wife feels so heart-broken yet at a loose end. Still, not sure why he stills texting other girls-male menopause maybe and cannot accept he's aging and not as virile as before. Don't know how to approach about this particlar matter tho'. please help
2006-10-27 13:30:08 · update #2
I would worry very much. Once there is communication breakdown in a marriage that is a sure sign of trouble looming ahead. i think the wife should confront him - not in a shouting contest - but as one who cares to understand why the communication is suddenly lacking.
look for ways to bring back the magic, think of what you both enjoyed and try to bring these back. but most of all share your feelings, open honest communication works wonders. she must tell him in a mild way how she feels and how she would want both of them to spend more time together.Make improvements in herself, house lifestyle etc but still have time for the family.
2006-10-26 03:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is married. To you. No one else. He's half this girls age. He's feeling the male "menopause." Lots of guys are like this at 41 to about 48. Then it wears off. Usually the wife has had enough and is gone. The feelings you have are normal. Who wants to share her husband with a 20 year old. And the fact he doesn't want your son to be a friend to this girl who is closer in age than your husband is Absolutely nuts. Ask your husband is it ok for you to have 20 year old boys calling and texting you. How would he feel about that? Now the shoe is on the other foot. Hopefully he will stop this nonsense and act his age. Always have a back up plan. If you are working, save your cash. So when Romeo wants to leave you have enough to live on and your son.
2016-05-21 22:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are problems and yes you should worry. Assuming that these women are women and not children, then the biggest problem is communication between you two. Most men think about sex all the time. I think it's biological. What most men don't think about is that when they decide on a mate their biology doesn't change one bit.
What I have always done is to tell my mate what I want sexually, even if it's another woman. Sometimes she's not happy but it's the truth and I have a clean concience. I can't stop biology. I explain to her how sex and love are two different things. BTW, I also give her great sex. She responds by telling me her fantasies and we help each other fulfill them. We have a great relationship.
I see no alternative for you but to get everything out in the open. Lack of communication signals lack of trust. Maybe he doesn't trust that you'll accept how he feels. You're obviously not used to taking chances with each other so you have to take it slow and give yourselves a chance to get comfortable with being honest. You'll be amazed by how much this will stimulate your relationship. I just hope it's not too far gone. I'm not saying you should go as far as we do, but trust is what all good relationships are built on, and trust only comes with honesty. Good luck!
2006-10-26 04:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think the wife should worry. Sounds as if hubby has real problems with his identity and relationship with wife. I think they both need to talk, and I do mean talk calmly as possible to find out just what is going on and why he feels he can't talk to his wife. Could be a that he is having problems sexually and that is why has ignored wife. He feels if he just texts and talks to women he will not be challenged sexually and to put it crudely expected to perform! Where a wife would expect a more intimate relationship. Whatever the reason they both need help to try and keep this marriage together - try Relate.
2006-10-26 03:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Grannygrump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a problem with this marriage. It's called the "the wife won't leave". Why do women stay in these types of situations? Is it because they have a fear of being alone? Most women forget that they were alone before they met and married their loser husbands. Women are survivors and don't have to put up with crap. Get a grip, and then get out!
2006-10-26 03:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe a man would call another woman 'just to chat'. The wife must get worrried also because he has not been showing her any interest for the whole year. She could be trusting her husband, but never trust another woman with your husband, you do not know the other woman. I suggest she does something about this, they are definately doing more than chating.
2006-10-26 04:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know who any of these women are?How did he meet them?Do they know he is married?How did you discover he was texting other women?Did you go into his phone?He is allowed friends surely? On the other hand he needs to show more consideration to you and his daughters...Could be that he is having a mid life crisis.....If this is making you feel bad about yourself then tell him that its not exceptable that he prefers text relationships to a real relationship with people who care.Tell him to get a life and show you some god dam respect.....You deserve it take the phone out of his hand and make him explain what is going on.You need to know if he still loves you then make him prove it. best of luck
2006-10-26 07:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes talk to him and ask him about the text msg'g
2006-10-26 03:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him this "what is your wife wearing?" and give him 5 sec. to look at her if he can't answer then they are in some real trouble. He doesn't notice her anymore. they need go to counseling.
2006-10-26 03:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by jeleaya82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the wife deal with it.
2006-10-26 03:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Say It Like You Mean It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋