OK. Here's the deal..i broke up with my boyfriend of two years in april to so-called "find myself". I ended up losing control and losing myself to other men. Soon after a horrible experience, i met yet another guy...well, by this time i was feeling miserable and had NO self esteem whatsoever. I honestly felt "at the end of my rope" and useless. I ended up becoming pregnant by this man. Thankfully, I have my mind back and I am now able to make sound decisions...however, i've realized that i am truly in love with my ex of two years. He knows that i'm pregnant, and we talk from time to time (i've apologized), but I don't know what to do. Should I just be miserable for what i did, or should I tell him how i feel? I don't want to hurt the guy anymore, i mean i already feel terrible. Someone please help me out.
By the way, the baby's father is aware of the situation. We're not together ( he was horrible to me),,,Once again, someone please help, i feel like i lost my soul.
2006-10-26 03:18:39 · 7 answers · asked by mzsouthernprincess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well,you have already created a lot of blunders,it'll be better for you to not create anymore for your ex specially....trust me its your guilty feeling and acceptance of the fact that he is genuine and that you are left with nothing but an unwanted baby that is taking you back to him but why do you expect him to accept you and someone elses baby,you were the one who walked over him and had all the fun then why should he pay for your fun.....it'll be better if you 1st come out clean,sit and analyse what you want in life and then decide.....good luck!!
2006-10-26 03:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Find myself" is an excuse people use to their loved ones to be able to be promiscuous without the guilt feeling. Unfortunately for you, the guilt feeling was there anyway.
Personally, just worry about your baby and yourself. If your ex wants you, he'll say so. If he doesn't, then keep your lips together. He deserves better than what you gave him.
Sorry to sound mean, and I truly don't mean to be, but I always found the excuse "find myself" as a cop-out.
2006-10-26 10:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is ALWAYS best. I would talk to your ex, and tell him how you feel. However, you have got to leave him room to make up his mind about how HE feels. He may feel the same as you, but he also might feel like you are using him to give your baby a "father", instead of truly loving him. Be truthful, but go slow, and allow him to work through his feelings.
2006-10-26 10:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by jonnis51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always be true to yourself and your feelings. You only get one life. tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way then GREAT! If he doesn't at least you will know and be able to move on.
2006-10-26 10:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by KARYN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What things in life are you going to regret the things you did or the things you didnt do. thats what i live by if you dont take that jump how will u know what might have been
2006-10-26 10:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur ex how u feel just to get it off ur chest.. but ur most concern should be about ur baby not over a guy. do what u think is best for u and ur baby!!!
2006-10-26 10:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed now SLEEP IN IT.
2006-10-26 10:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋