My mother died in 2004 only 3 months after being diagnosed with cancer. I have these dreams that she is back, that she just left the family for awhile. In some of the dreams I am really mad at her for leaving, and others I am so glad that she is back. I dont understand why i keep having similar dreams. Will it stop happening? When I wake up angry at her, I feel like I am betraying her.
2006-10-26 03:15:30 · 14 answers · asked by kris10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry for your loss, it is always hard to loose a loved one, but think of it this way. Maybe your momma is trying to tell you that she never left. That she is just in a different form watching over you and not to be so sad about her leaving because she is ok. she is your angel now and try to open your mind and your heart to realize that.
2006-10-26 03:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a Chinese saying that goes like this: in the day you have thoughts for this person; in the night, you dream about this person.
My belief is that your subconscious mind is thinking of her and that is manifesting itself in dreams. Perhaps, you have some unresolved issues with her and would really long for the chance to do so.
It is hard to lose someone. I can understand your pain. I went through the loss of a family member last year. Before she passed away, I did not even reconcile with her. Can you imagine the guilt and remorse that I feel?
The only way to find peace is to meditate. Hopefully that can help you still your mind.
2006-10-26 03:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by mindalchemy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm told that dreams are just your brain processing information while you're asleep. Maybe you are dreaming of your mother because you were so used to having her and now you don't. Maybe your brain is still trying to grasp that concept. Subconciously you could also still be mourning her death. This might be how your brain is coping. No sure way of telling if it will go away but you are definately not betraying her. You are at least thinking about her.
2006-10-26 03:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw your question and I just wanted to give it a shot by trying to answer your question. I have just lost my son 3 months ago in a truck accident. He was 20 years old and he was only 1 minute from our home. This has killed my once so happy family! I know this is more like a question on a question but I just wanted to share with you how I have handled this. My Grandfather whom was my father he raised me. Died of Cancer 5 yrs ago. I never thought I would GET OVER this as people try to tell you. I am here to tell you that there is NO getting over it. These are people who you love and cherish all of your life. What you have to do is get up each morning and tell yourself this is going to be an OK day! There are no good or bad days they just become ok. I still think dream and want my grandfather who raised me. But with my son I am still not sure what is in store for me. But what I do know is no matter what my son would want me to remember and love him as I did when he was here on earth. You have to find a purpose and give it wether it be your time, money, love, or just an ear to someone. Share yourself and your fears and joys with friends and family. As far as the dreams go I have dreams about my son Brooks and I feel like he is trying to tell me that he is ok. You dream in your first part of your sleep what you are feeling or thinking about when you first go to sleep is going to be a map to your dreams. They may not end up as you feel but the road is there just trust yourself and don't be afraid to dream. You may find answers in your dreams you could not find here awake. My prayers are with you and I hope you find peace.
Missy
2006-10-26 03:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by mysticalme76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sure why you are having these reaccuring dreams. Maybe your mother is trying to help you change some aspect in your life. Think positive that she is not on this earth suffering and in pain because of cancer. Think of all of the good things she accomplished in her life. She is in a better place! Writting has helpt me deal with the losing some of my loved ones. Also talk to someone about it. Your in my prayers.
2006-10-26 03:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite normal for you. As you love your mother so much it is obvious you are very possessive about her. Since you love your mother madly ,in your subconsious mind that is in your dream she always comes to you. Since you feel bitter to miss her for such a long time all your love and concern makes you a bit annoyed with your mother's sudden disappearance. You are no doubt very much happy that she is back, but it is your strong love, concern and sheer possesiveness about her that makes you feel in this way.
2006-10-26 03:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by manojit s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother's mom died 29 years ago and she still dreams of her. It's normal, as she was an intrical part of your life.
2006-10-26 03:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Former baseball star Ted William's family has kept his head in cold storage hoping to do something with the genes or somethin.
2006-10-26 03:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grieving. Its OK. Your missing your mother and angry she got sick and died. Your normal. Maybe you need to forgive your mother? I'm sure she would have loved to stay with you forever.
2006-10-26 03:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shows that you still miss your mother alot. keep a photograph of her next to you or try writing all your dreams in a diary then decode them on the internet.
2006-10-26 03:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋