Even if you have small children and no way to support yourself, You should get a divorce if you?

Question

"fall out of love", want to cheat, your husband is an alcoholic, he cheated on you,

What other good reasons are there to "just" get a divorce?

Answer 1

Why did all of this happen--did you try counseling to find out what is behind all of this. It takes two to make things work or not to work. Try counseling first then decide if that doesn't work.

Answer 2

This is finicky. Why? Because to some, marriage is finalized and there is no way out of it despite the conditions. I disagree with the matter. The lives of your children should always be first. You have the right to become an animal to defend your offspring. That simple. If he is abusive, not just physically but in every way... you should defend your children and yourself! You cannot forget yourself.

Fell out of love? You should not hold him back or yourself. You deserve to be happy as does he. That can be a reason to be divorced. If you wanted to cheat (which I don't recommend) it won't be quite easy if you are single and divorced. You can't cheat on someone if you don't have someone. If your husband is an alcoholic, get him the help he needs and stay firm. If I were cheated on; Id be some tough cookie to get along with. If I had children to consider then I would get counseling and hope the marriage can pull through. It won't be easy to forgive and forget but certainly we can make the best of it and move on.

Divorce is serious and it's not always the only answer. But if you have no support it does not mean you have to stay forever married. Far from it. People stay married because of various reasons, it should be for love or the children but not because they cannot support themselves.

There should be help out there. It's a matter of finding it.

Answer 3

Has your husband or have you thought about getting him into some type of treatment program? Alcoholism is a disease just like drug abuse . .and he needs help. Perhaps his behavior (cheating) due to the drinking is what you dislike about him and feel as though you no longer love him. . if he's abusive you definitely need to take steps to either get him in a program or get yourself out of this environment - ESPECIALLY if you have small children, you don't want to subject them to this - your concern as a mother should be protecting them if that means getting into a shelter or staying with a family member until you can get a job and take care of yourself, I think it would be worth checking into it.

Answer 4

OK he drinks and you fell out of love. Well number one love is something you work and lets all face it you are not in Hollywood and everyone has problems but you need to really think before you just end it. One you are not in a financial place to up money for a divorce and maybe you need to try some counseling with your husband. It takes two to work on this and I m sorry but why is he drinking and have you really tried? look at the whole picture.

Answer 5

Don't believe in divorce before all methods of trying to work things out have been exhausted.

Answer 6

yeah do it
coz it is better than living with an alcoholic invaluable man these kind of men are moody
i pray for u to be successful don't worry
god is with u
gos blesses bye
take care of urself and ur child

Answer 7

I would stick it out until I get all my ducks in a row, and that is hard. get involved in other things so you don't have to go home until it's time to sleep.

Answer 8

yeah,, why stay in a dead end marriage,, think about this,, when the kids are grown up and gone, what do you have to do with your spouse,, sit and stare at them???
why bother with that

Answer 9

your husband is angry at home.
he won't work.
he insists on having dogs in the house.

Answer 10

All of the above.