Who will be made poor and fatherless?
Should people automatically file for divorce when they want to cheat even if it means tearing a family apart with small children and taking the father out of the house?
2006-10-26 02:43:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to figure out why you want to cheat in the first place. if you simply dont love the man, then you should get a divorce. If you are just bored, then you need some counseling. Your kids dont have to be fatherless just because you divorce, you should let the father see the children as much as they or he would like to. anyway, divorce is easier on children than living with parents that are always fighting and arent ever happy. good luck.
2006-10-26 02:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce should be the last thing that happens. You need to figure out why it is that you want to cheat and then try to work on it with your husband. There are not a lot of things that can't be fixed and wanting to cheat is one of them. You married for a reason just try and get back what it was that made you want to marry this person. You haven't done anything to destroy your family yet so they to keep from doing that. I am a firm believer that as long as there is no abuse then you should try to make it work like there is no divorce possible and then only if you have tried everything go down that road.
2006-10-26 10:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, you've asked the same question searching for justification. It's not going to happen. and frankly, my belief is that the laws are too laxed when it comes to this. I disagree completely with the 'no contest' laws. To be 'allowed' to cheat and then get divorced and get a fair split of the assets is just absurd. I think that EVERY state should punish for infidelity. If you cheat, you lose. The cheating spouse loses custody of the kids, the cheating spouse loses the home, the cheating spouse then must pay monetary support for the other spouse etc. etc. etc. Do you want your children to know what type of woman you are? I am 32 years old, with two children and a husband. My father cheated on my mother. I lost respect for him a long time ago, and although they have a stable relationship now, I have no respect for him. Think about that. And if you think for a minute you can hide it from your kids, you're wrong! They will find out. And then they will lose respect for you. If you're unhappy, get out. But leave your children with the most reliable and supportive parent.
2006-10-26 09:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. Just because you feel like cheating doesnt mean that is what you get to do. In a marriage and as a mother(or father), you have to make sacrifices for the sake of your family. If you are truly unhappy and counseling has not worked, then a trial separation is something to think about. but not if your just going to go cheat. A trial separation is for both parties to think hard about what they want and focus on the matter at hand. I dont believe in staying together just for the children's sake, so please dont think that is what i mean when i say that sacrifices need to be made. Marriage is work and should not be thrown out so easily.
2006-10-26 09:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by kris10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds pretty selfish to tear a family apart because you want to cheat. I think there are other issues going on here - such as lack of communication. You need to start talking to your husband about what you want. You need to figure out what your problem really is. You have small children who need both parents. How do you think they would feel looking back years from now??? My mom wanted to be a whore so she left our dad. Sounds pretty harsh, but one day they will be teens with attitudes. You need to work on your marriage - through counseling or something. You are not doing the right thing here, and part of being a parent is putting your kids first, not your so called sexual needs.
2006-10-26 09:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your marriage just can't be saved, file for divorce. It depends on WHY you want to cheat.... If there's serious problems in the relationship and you've already tried working on it, then divorce may be the answer. But if the reason you want to cheat is just to cheat, then no... don't cheat and don't divorce...
2006-10-26 09:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get a divorce. Think of the children first. Talk to your husband and explain that you need more than one man. If he loves you he will be understanding and allow you to have sex with as many people that you need.Suggest that he join in and service you along with another man or woman and he may be happy to oblige.
2006-10-26 11:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It is o.k. especially if they are gay and having a sex change! What are you telling your children! It's o.k. to want to be someone else and it's o.k. to have sex changes. Your husbnad doesn't like himself and probably never will! I hope you teach your children to like themsleves and to learn from their other mothers/ fathers mistakes and stupidity. He should have never had children in the first place I feel really bad for the kids that they have to put up with his choices and live with seeing their father as a women for the rest of their lives.... I don't even think I'd let them have a realtionship with him, I think they'd be more mixed up besides their father is dead now! They have no father figure to look up to just another women, a hand made one at that! He has given up his life as a father and your children will be better off knowing the truth and with you dating and possible having a real man and relationship in your life they might even end up with a step father that isn't going to ditch them and thier life like their father has.
2006-10-26 10:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find the root of the problem, as to WHY you want to cheat.
And no, divorce isn't worth cheating, but cheating is worth a divorce!
2006-10-26 09:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, if you want to cheat you should get into marriage counseling because something is wrong with your relationship. You should fix what's between you and your husband, not risk ripping your family apart over sex! How would your kids ever forgive you for being so selfish?
2006-10-26 09:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋