i've dated my bf almost 1 year and i really love him a lot.but there's a problem.I think he's ex still likes him because she goes around asking people if he has a gf.Then,she soon found out that im his gf and keep asking people about me.It's so damn annoying.whenever im with my bf she will keep looking at the both of us.sometimes she will take an oppurtunity to talk to him even though she knows that im his gf.her action has cause me and my bf to fight really often.i really hate her and my bf too hated her.i feel like slapping her and telling her off.should i do that?i hate people who mess up with me and my bf.i will let that person pay for what he or she does to our relationship.should i go ahead and slap her??
2006-10-26 02:39:45 · 15 answers · asked by chic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why do you care so much if she does still like him? I mean your with him right? He is your boyfriend? Unless of course you are worried that he might go back to her, Do you know how many guys like and want my girlfriend? I don't stress it at all because she is hot...We have been dating for 5 years and many many guys have proffessed thier love to her..but why worry. You shouldn't slap her or tell her off...you both should ignore it...why should you even let her issues be involved in your everyday life? Just because a person has a boyfriend or a girlfriend doesn't mean people aren't gonna like them. Im sure at some point in your life you have or will be attracted to someone who has a significant other and it sucks...but that doesn't mean you like them any less...I suggest you find a way to become more secure in your relationship because insecurity in it is not a good sign at all.
2006-10-26 02:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, if you let her know that she is getting to you there will be a bigger problem. You have to make her think that you are totally secure in your relationship and nothing she says or does matters. That will piss her off. Also, I know it's hard, but you need to make your bf think the same way...otherwise he may use her to make you jealous because some guys get off on that whole having two women fight over them thing. Good luck!
2006-10-26 10:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if your boyfriend isn't the one trying to chat with her, you shouldn't have a problem. She just can't get over him apparently and that is her problem and not yours. The next time you see her staring at ya'll just put your arms around him and give him a big hug and kiss. That alone will bug her to death, if she still likes him!!
Now, if he is wanting to talk with her and hang around her, then you need to tell him it bothers the crap out of you and he should respect you enough not to hang around her. He wouldn't want you to be chatting with your exboyfriend.
If he is still with you and doesn't seem to pay any attention to her, then just love him and let the ex look stupid all by herself. Just don't let her cause arguments between the 2 of you because then she'll have won. Just let her wallow in her own misery.
If she starts calling him and pressing her advantage, (and continues hitting on him)then ...yes, I'd knock her out.
2006-10-26 10:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice would be to try and ignore her. If this isn't viable and you are not comfortable confronting her, get your bf to approach her to inform her that he is no longer interested in her and that he is seeing you. If he isn't willing to do this than maybe you do not have the loyalty I think a couple after a year should be able to expect. If this is the case you have two options. Seek professional help or kick him to the curb. Jealousy is an ugly monster and not very conducive to a healthy relationship.
2006-10-26 09:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by jlsmith92104@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she is majorly jelous.
so u already have one big thing up one her, u have the guy!!!!
just speak to ur bf, but hes been with u almost a year so there must be some reason hes with u and not with her.
i would just ignore her and act like u dont give a toss
2006-10-26 10:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by katie c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to sound mean, but your problem lies with your insecurity, be confident, when you see her smile and know that he is yours, when she talks to him walk up next to them and pleasantly join the conversation, when you appear confident the situation will become better all the way around. Good luck!
2006-10-26 09:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by dannydolphin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about her, and no reason to resort to physical violence. If your boyfriend hates her, why all the fuss from you? You're letting her ruin your relationship. Trust in your relationship, trust in your boyfriend to keep his distance from his ex.
She is obviously jealous and has not gotten over him. But seriously, who cares. That's her issue, not your's...ignore the immature BS and get on with your relationship!
2006-10-26 09:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk with your bf and tell him you really love him and still want to be together, and if he agrees, you and your bf can tell his ex gf calmly that your going out with him and there's nothing she can do about it. So get on with her life.
2006-10-26 09:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Krystle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As much as you want to slap her I wouldn't. You don't want her to be the reason that your relationship with your bf doesn't work -she already made you and your bf fight right? Ignore her and be as gracious as you can.
2006-10-26 09:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so jealous. He likes you, right? I mean you ARE the one he's with. Just get over it. Next time you see her staring at you guys lean over and give him a big kiss. Don't fight with him for it, though - he can't control her actions.
2006-10-26 09:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by autumn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋