2006-10-26 02:32:20 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd prefer only married or once married people answer this question and not teens or those who never plan on getting married answering this.
For everyone else,
Let's level. I don't want your prissy idealistic side,
Deeply search yourself, if you've ever been married, and tell me what you think one or two special circumstances would be?
2006-10-26 02:34:51 · update #1
In a word, no. If you feel the need to cheat on your spouse, then
you need to get divorced first or get professional help if you want
to cheat and yet remained married.
2006-10-26 02:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There's no such thing as 'special circumstances'. If you are wanting to cheat on your husband, than at least show him the respect of divorcing him. And it's pretty oblivious that you've already made the decision to involve yourself in a different sexual relationship, and you're looking to us to validate it. That wont happen here. Remember your vows. If you're that unhappy, or if things have gotten to the point in your marriage where you're needing outside entertainment, then you should not be married. But don't cheat. It's morally wrong. And if you have children, you will only teach them to cheat.
2006-10-26 02:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think there are any circumstances where it is okay to cheat. There is nothing in your vows that say if either person acts a certain way then you can sleep with someone else. This is just an excuse for doing the wrong thing. Believe me, I know how things can happen and you lose touch with the one you married and someone else comes along...... but realistically - no, its just not right.
2006-10-26 02:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its ever ok.... but I do think that there are some circumstances that would make it seem more understandable than others... but none that are really justifiable.
Physical, mental, or sexual abuse would be examples of what I mean... the hurt, strain, lack of self esteem in situations like these are enough to make anyone vulnerable to seeking comfort or positive attention elsewhere, but it would make more sense to get out of the relationship first, since an affair would probably only worsen the abuse.
If its just boredom, revenge, or sexual dissatisfaction.... those are superifical... and can be dealt with in a much better way.
2006-10-26 02:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason I would find it acceptable for my husband to cheat on me is if I were dying of some long term illness and could not sexually please him for years. If he were to cheat I wouldn't fault him for it and I wouldn't be angry. And that is purely for the sex. If he were in a relationship with this person I'd have a problem. Its one thing for you to just have sex with someone and another to share you heart with them. A spouse can put you in a situation where you feel like cheating by neglecting you or just not being around for months on end. But you did take a vow of commitment and that should mean something. Now days that commitment doesn't seem to mean much and obviously I'm not referring to this as a religious commitment but one between two people who respect each other. If you're having issues where your husband isn't being there for you you need to talk to him about it. You can always go out and buy a million cats for companionship and a dildo for the sex.
2006-10-26 02:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As PO'd as I've been at times with my spouse (and vice-versa I'm sure) I can't think of a good, solid basis for infidelity. There are times you may FEEL that you'd want to. Especially if you've been slighted or angered or hurt by them. However I consider this a sign of immature thinking and any excuse that can even be given would be unacceptable.
I would have to say that maybe if you were in a mishap that put you in a desolate place with a member of the oppoiste sex and the possibilty of your rescue is remote...oh...and it appears you'll be there for some time then yeah...may as well when you've come to the conclusion that this is it.
But...because you've either drank too much, fallen for the bullshavinsky lines of a seducer/seductress that makes your groin tickle? Nope...sorry....inexcusable.
You'll find that most people will say that its because something is lacking in their lives. If they say...love, affection, communication it means it will eventually lead to sex. Guarenteed. So now we come to that silly question "Can a man and a woman just be friends?". Yeah...I'm sure they can. But in most circumstances...things begin to unravel...slowly maybe but unravel just the same. Sooner or later you'll be screwing.
"Platonic" relationships? Its possible...but remember...Plato preferred little boys. He wasn't saddled with a male/female friendship that is prevalent now.
2006-10-26 02:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No - Never you took the vows so consider them. Tell him what your intentions are, no matter what the situation is and get your husbands permission before you do something like this, later your guilt will eat at you and repairs will be harder to make....
Is he cheating on you? Well still the answer is no- don't stoop to his level if that is what is going on just be honest and up front and then go on about you business!
Red what you added and still No! There would be no reason and maybe it is because of the person I am inside and the things I believe in. No matter how bad he has hurt me or could hurt me and no matter how loanly I could get or be the answer is no, buy a toy!
2006-10-26 02:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you ask an interesting question, because i was faced with that same thought when i found out my x had been cheating on me. i found all sorts of reason that i could use to justify myself doing the same thing. but i found the most of them where because i just wanted revenge. i had been hurt badly. when some one cheats on their spouse they are saying that they no longer see the relationship, or their spouse as worth being honest to, they have destroyed the trust, and what they have worked for so long to build together. what stopped me from cheating on her to get even was that two wrongs don't make a right. the question i had to keep asking myself was. do i lower my standards principles and morals, because my spouse did. my spouse had acted on her desire for something different and new in her life, as a result she got the new , a divorce a family torn apart for good because of it, and a lonely loveless existence afterwards.so no its not right under any circumstances to cheat on ones spouse.
2006-10-26 02:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought about this for awhile because I wanted to be open minded. I can't think of any reason or circumstance to cheat on your spouse. NOW this is what's wrong with our society, attempting justification for wrongdoing. The only circumstance it would be okay is if you were seperated and going through a divorce.
2006-10-26 02:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may be better off getting a divorce. You have to ask yourself under what circumstances you may feel as if it is ok for your husband to cheat on you. Turning the tables usually helps me with relationship issues.
2006-10-26 07:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is if you want and need it do it. I think that every married woman should go out and have as much sex as they want with as many partners as the want. Tell your husband and you may be surprised that he wants you to do it also.But dont get upset if he does the same thing. I wish I was married to a woman like you so I could watch and film you f**king other men. Your husband is a lucky man.
2006-10-26 04:12:55 · answer #11 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋