i am married but have made a choice to see someone else . i have known this person for 10 years and only now have decided to be with him as secret lovers . i didn't expect to fall for him like i have but i have fallen in love with him. so is it possible to love two people. my husband is a good man and father as well as a good provider, but i had the desire to see someone else.
2006-10-26 02:30:27 · 17 answers · asked by yoyoandwilliam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes...but one will always be deeper and more intense.
2006-10-26 07:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think It True But the real question is "does this other person see you more then just a "f-ing" buddy?" I been there it stopped maybe 4 months ago and I do still think about this other person but I dont think he thinks of me, After a year of being together with the "secret lover" He left me for someone else, when I most needed him in my life, I have come to realized Not only did i Play My Husband but I PLAYED my self Into thinking this guy really Cared........ But People do make mistakes and one that really hurt, but you need to learn and move on, Think twice about how he feels for you and take it from there, I used to ask question like this one but whats the use, In your Heart U are the only one who knows the answer!!!
Good Bless!!
2006-10-26 09:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saying you "love two people" is the cheater's way of trying to rationalize being selfish. Pure and simple, you are selfish and lazy. You want the good, stable comfy world your husband provides, but you also want to screw another man any time you want instead of working on the 1st relationship.
What cheaters forget in their selfishness is they are making huge, important decisions for someone else without informing them about those decisions or giving them a say in those decisions.
If you want to find out if it's possible for you to love 2 people at the same time, ask your husband if it's okay to french kiss him when you come home after going down on the other guy. Ask your husband if it's okay that you have decided -- without telling him -- to share your f-buddy's semen with him, and that you are using your vagina and mouth as the transfer points. Ask him if it's all right with him that you decided -- without asking him first -- to give him an incurable case of herpes by letting some other guy bang you in a Denny's parking lot.
You'll get an answer - but most likely not the one you are looking for.
Finally, women as a group scream and rant (and rightfully so) about men who cheat. Women who cheat deserve just as much disdain and public scorn as men who cheat. There should be no double standard here, despite how every LifeTime Afternoon Movie for Women paints women having affairs as light, easily fixed little innocent no-one-gets-hurt dalliances, and men having affairs as gruesome home-wrecking nightmares from hell.
Anyone who cheats has no respect for their partner because they are lying constantly to the other person with every word, kiss, hand hold, and night in bed. If you had a backbone you'd tell your husband and suffer the consequences.
2006-10-26 10:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is possible to love two people, but you need to look at the other side of the story, you have a child at home and plus a good faithful husband, if it was up to me I wouldn't mess up anything good, but do you have true love for that other man in your life, because if it's not true love you needs to leave it alone, you may don't agree with me but i'm speaking from my true point. It's okay to see what else is out their but at the same time thrie is a limit to that if you alredy have someone special in your life. Hope u understand where i'm coming from. Well good luck, I understand you is in a hard sitution rite now, hope you make the best and rite choice good luck.
2006-10-26 09:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, what you are doing is VERY VERY VERY WRONG!!!!
There is no other word for it. And you don't deserve to have your husband, becuase obviously you never meant it when you said your vows.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to actually love two people! What you are feeling is LUST and INFACTUATION!!! Not love!!! You are just into it for the excitement. If you had ANY feelings for your husband, then you should STOP. It's just not right to be sneaking around with another man, while your husband works his *** off to support his family. You are selfish. Sorry to be harsh about it...But how do you even look at yourself!!!
2006-10-26 09:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have desires at some time... question is what is stronger for you.. the love and respect you have for your family, or your sexual desires. Well you are thinking of yourself. You are very selfish. You said your hubby was good father and provider you are using him. HE deserves better than you, and you being a selfish CHEATER deserve nothing... Maybe you'll get what you deserve ,... maybe he'll find out and throw you out with the trash where you BELONG!!
2006-10-26 09:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband about your secret lover and see if it's really posible to love two people.
I'm thinking no.
2006-10-26 09:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by hardcoco 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if its possible to love two people. but you should decide who you want to be with because its unfair on both your husband and secret lover to be seeing them both. You can't have both of them you have to choose between one of them. just put youself in your husbands shoes how would you feel if he was having an affair you didnt know about, wouldnt you rarther him tell you and then decide who he wanted to be with or would you rarther him just see both of you. ask yourself this question and then decide what you want to do.
2006-10-26 09:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by pinkgirly135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's possible to love two people but it really wrong. try to be with one of them that is the right one for you before it's to late, because you'll never know what can happen when some one end-up getting hurt! just to let you know, there is a lot of crazy people out there but anyway follow your hurt it never lead-es you to the wrong direction good luck!
2006-10-26 09:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by mendi-boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're doing is wrong. Your husband is going to end up getting hurt so either come clean or forget the other guy.
2006-10-26 10:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you doing this to him. If your not happy then let him go. There are other women out there who can and will be faithful to a good man, Sounds to me like you only love yourself.
2006-10-26 09:34:36 · answer #11 · answered by Kim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋