About four years ago my step dad was murdered, me and my mum were the ones who found him.
The killers/killer has never been brought to justice.
Work pisses me off my girl pisses me off i don't sleep properly and don't eat properly. plus i drink two to three can of beer every night and have been doing so since he passed away.
Don't get me wrong i love my girl to bits but can't take all the aggro
she moans at everything ( Well it seems that way)
And i don't get along with my supervisor.
Baring in mind i haven't had any conselling cause i dont think talking to a complete stranger is gonna help any ideas.
I JUST WANT MY LIFE BACK!.
The only thing that keeps me sain is my two lille boyz!!!
2006-10-26 02:07:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you are running on very high stress level. You need to seek counseling to help you through this. The body can only take so much....hope you follow through with my suggestion
2006-10-26 02:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for everything you have gone through. Whenever you feel that bad just think of your two little boys they need you :). I hope they find whomever did that, thats horrible :(
Work pisses everyone off. Not all the time but id say most of the time myself. For me, going to school at night on top of it is VERY stressful...
Relationships are normally stressful. Ive been with my man for 4 years and we still have our moments. If you love her, tell her how you feel.
If i were you, since you have been drinking and all this stress, i would talk to a specialist..I know men are all "i dont need a shrink" sometimes things happen that really mess you up(mine was my childhood) but it works. You may be depressed also and they have medication for that. Even if you do not believe a shrink can help you, isnt it worth trying if it may work? i was skeptical but not anymore! im a whole new person now! please try it. If not for your, for your little boys.
God bless
2006-10-26 09:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life does sux and sometimes you feel that you have done something bad in your previous life that in this life everything seems to go from bad to worse.
They say time heals all wounds but the problem is it is the way you use the time that will heal, the death of your Step Father will never go away but it is the good times you remember that will make things in perspective.
I have 2 teenage daughters and yes they are a handful, my youngest who is 13 ( Miss Princess Bitchface) has just been recently diagnosed with bi polar with adhd, and everyday brings a new light on the situation as aggro is an understatement with her, she goes from being nice and placid to going through the walls literally.
My eldest who is 17 has had to deal with teenage suicide with 3 of her friends over the past 12 months as well as trying to complete yr 12.
Stress is only stress if you let all your emotions override your way of thinking.
I talk to my daughters everyday and let them know that I am there for them to talk to all the time even though sometimes it is goobly ****, it seems you need to talk to your girl and let her know how you feel about life and let her know you are there for her no matter what she wants to talk about.
Have a mother daughter day, go out and get your hair done and get a manicure together and just spend time together and spend the time to find out what really is going on in your daughters life.
And as for work it is obvious that you dont like where you are so make a change for the better, if you hate your job so much it will reflect in your home life.
To keep myself from going insane, I always think there is someone out there who has it worse and to thank god with what I have my girls.
2006-10-27 18:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cazz K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like the idea of talking to a stranger, but it really is a good idea. They deal with this kind of stuff all the time! There ia no harm in trying it, and if you love your boys and your girlfriend, please try it. You would be suprised how many people has sought counseling, it doesn't make you any less of a person, you are dealing with something that not many people could help you with. I imagine the frustration of not having closure is immense! There may also be meeting groups out there for people who are dealing with murdered family members. You need to do something, you don't want your little boys thinking that it's ok to bottle up things and lash out. Show you love and help yourself, my condolences..and best of luck.
2006-10-26 09:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by tonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you never truly dealt with the loss of your uncle, and the anger that went along with the fact that someone took him from you. Alot of people feel as you do about counseling, but that is only fear talking. The reason you hate to hear your girlfriend moan about everything is because you are in alot of pain and don't want to hear about hers. Get your life back and get some help with these issues, or they will consume you at one point or another in your life. There is bereavement groups, and ones also that deal with loss through violence. There are professional people who can help you, please do something to help yourself so you can be the best dad to those little boys that they can have.
2006-10-26 09:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to your girl about how you feel, instead of getting annoyed with her. You've been through a lot, so make sure you don't keep all those emotions inside.
As for work, get motivated to do some changing. Apply for a new position, or just ignore your boss. Boss's almost always suck, its just something we all have to put up with.
2006-10-26 09:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like to me as if you have given up on life and everything life has to offer,I know the lost of a loved one is painful but the people in your life they are not at fault,my advice at this point would be to seek counseling you need to stop grieving your lost learn to accept.. because your stepdad he past on to another life he aint dead really he is alive in your heart and in your memory and yet he couldn't be in more pain than what you are right now because soon if you continue acting like this towards everything or everybody in your life you are going to be alone wich is in fact a form of being dead too... is that what you want?? I suggest for you to get a therapy and stop doing what your doing.. You are going to loose more than your step dad you are going to loose the chance of living a good life. please get help if not for you do it for your sons they need you,they need all of you what is the good of being there physiclly and not mentally.. come on your kids need their playmate and they deserve a chance.. you deserve one too... Im real sorry for your lost but I think is time to move on.good luck.
2006-10-26 09:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone who will help you with your feelings. You're keeping alot of emotion bottled up in you and you need to let it go. You have 2 wonderful sons and you need to do something so you'll be there for them. If you don't want to talk to a shrink, then talk to me: mesierens@yahoo.com. You're holding on to too much anger and pain and it's time for you to let it go.
2006-10-26 09:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by mesierens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are keeping all the problems to urself... you should let all out... you need to share the problems... if u dun like to talking to a stranger like what u said earlier on, try blogging... at least, u will feel better after letting it out... drinking is bad for u... if u get addicted to it, it'll be difficult for u in later part of ur life... think of ur future... i'm sure ur late dad won't want this to happen to u... abt ur gf, i think she just need ur attention... try n give it to her once in a while... it'll help ur relationship... (",) good luck...
2006-10-26 09:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by ahsinoriahk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard of marajuana!!! Well my you should get to know mary jane she is something special that takes away all the pain!!!!
Best of luck
Stay away from heavy Machinery
2006-10-26 09:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by kawasakigurl1400 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋