my 16 year old son does not want to go to school, cries for money every day till he gets his way..and i cant take no more.
2006-10-26 02:06:26 · 15 answers · asked by candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to get some family counseling. check with the school counselor, or your local clergyman. also in your local yellow pages there should a listing for counselors that are paid on a sliding scale fee.
good luck
2006-10-26 02:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by island3girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
16 and not wanting to go to school and crys for money..sweetheart stand your ground! I don't care what he does (yelling ect.) Your his mother and you should have control over him not the other way around. I'd tell him if he don't go to school he doesn't get any money and he also is at the age where he needs to get up off his *** and get a job if he wants spending money not asking for money from you. You just have to stand your ground and make sure he knows your in control not him. Your letting him walk all over you and that is a big problem. Try talking to him, ground him, bust his *** if you have to..I mean really my parents were still busting my *** and grounding me at 16.
2006-10-26 09:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by fairy_tale_dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him on his way! No school no job no money that should be your mantra. Tell him no money unless he is in school and if not in school must have job then he wont need your money.If he doesnt want to comply then make the hard decision to kick him out. Why should you leave your home that you worked hard for? For a selfish child who refuses to do the right thing.
2006-10-26 10:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - YOU are the parent. What are you doing giving in and giving him money? Make him get an after school job. He doesn't want to go to school? Make it clear to him that if he doesnn't go it's called truancey and you can get in trouble. If he refuses to go still, than you have the right as a parent to call the police and have them escort him to school. My neighbor did it. It puts on record that you've tried everything you can to get him to do what he needs to as a minor. Stop giving in to him and be the grown up.
2006-10-26 09:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by puzzleraspie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to put your foot down. If you have to threaten to send him to a bootcamp or something. When my mom was having problems with my sister she had an officer come out and talk to her about going to some youth correctional camp or something. Try that. Dont give up on your son though.
2006-10-26 09:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by cici101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to go to school, you make him get a job. Don't give him money. If his father does not live with you have him live with him for awhile. Contact his school to see what help you can get for him. Be a parent.
2006-10-26 09:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP GIVING HIM MONEY HE DOES NOT EARN...LOOK AT THIS KID IN THE FACE AND TELL HIM YOU WILL NOT INTIMIDATE ME ANYMORE... IF YOU WANT MONEY GET YOUR SELF A JOB,,IT LOOKS LIKE TO ME YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF THIS BEFORE THIS KIDS RUNS YOU OUT OF YOUR HOME... AND YOU DONT HAVE TO GO NOWHERE THIS KIDS IS TO BE OWN HIS OWN IS ABOUT TWO YEARS.. IT MIGHT SOUND CRUEL BUT IN TWO YEARS YOU CAN TELL HIM THE HELL WITH YOU,YOU ARE GROWN BUT FOR NOW IF HE GETS TO BIGGITY CALL THE COPS ON HIM GET THE STATE YOU LIVE ENVOLVED DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO KEEP HIM CONTROL.. SOON HE WILL GET IT.. AND THINK TO HIMSELF I CANT F*** WITH MOM... AND HE EITHER SETTLE DOWN OR LEAVE AND MAKE HIS OWN LIFE..BE STRONG YOU ARE THE PARENT HE IS THE CHILD... HE EITHER ACCEPTS OR LEAVE..
2006-10-26 09:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no parent i know who hasn't felt the stress of taking care of a teenager....don't give up.....find a local helpline and talk to them...they can give you the support you need and maybe direct you to some counseling that will help you handle each day....remember that you have to realize being a teen sucks too....but, you are the parent and if you give up, he might give up too and that could be disastrous!
2006-10-26 09:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by m m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down and tell him that you are the parent and he is the child. Tell him he can't have it his way all the time and he needs to gethis lazy *** up and go to school.
2006-10-26 09:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kyshae B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that he does go to school, and say no if you don't want to give him money and don't argue just say no.
2006-10-26 10:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋