I cheated on me fiance before we were engaged and thats been about 6 months ago!!! Should I tell before we get married or should I keep it a secret forever!!!!??????
2006-10-26 01:43:00 · 37 answers · asked by kawasakigurl1400 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Keep your mouth shut. The only reason to tell him is to make yourself feel better and less guilty. Why hurt him more than you already have?
2006-10-26 01:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chinese saying Paper can never covered with Fire. So have u settled everything (i mean what u have cheated). If everything done & over. hope u can keep this secret in order to retain a scar in the relationship. Make sure don't repeat cos' u dont wish ur behalf treat u in the same way, right. Lets bygones be bygones... Start a new life again. All the best...
2006-10-26 01:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by kudos Qi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secret
2006-10-26 01:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by hunter6543 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this something that is going to come up out of the mouth of anyone besides yourself? Is there a possibility that he could end up hearing about it through someone else, possibly the man you had the affair with? If there is then it is your responsibility to tell him about it.
Since you've already cheated there's no use in telling you that you shouldn't have. It's wrong and it not only hurts him, but it hurts you because it makes you lose some respect for yourself and it's not worth the hurt and the pain it will eventually with no exceptions cause.
Now. This is going to cause a huge issue when you tell him. But if there is a possiblity someone else could, then you need to, because if it comes from somebody else, it will be twice as hurtful and twice as unlikely to be dealt with properly.
2006-10-26 01:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means you dont like him like you should. Are you sure you want to marrie him? If so, better tell him, and hope he can forgive you, and face the consequences. Do you have an std from that relation 6 months ago? Its serious. Are you going to cheat again?
If it was a man cheating the reactions from females would be very cruel and even violent, double standards!
2006-10-26 01:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by f_vidigal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you feel like you can keep it a secret. Keep it a secret. It will be a constant reminder to never do it again. But, sometimes this thing called GUILT kicks in and you will drive yourself nuts until you tell. Good luck with that...
2006-10-26 01:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, I think keeping it a secret could lead to you having this on your mind the rest of your life with him/her. If you tell though there may be no marriage. If you dont though you might be thinking of this the entire day of your wedding and the rest of your lifetime. Maybe you could go be hypnotized to forget this. You can do it to quit smoking why not try to do it to forget something bad you dont want to remember.
2006-10-26 01:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will tell you to keep it a secret and I have to agree. Telling him would ease your guilt, but ruin your relationship. Just forgive yourself and move on. Your punishment might be the guilt you'll feel forever, though, which sucks.
2006-10-26 01:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by oliverbenji 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you keep it a secret your whole relationship will be based on a lie. I say tell him and explain it will never happen again. If he chooses to move then so should you.
2006-10-26 01:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your finance, you are the best to judge. Think carefully though coz one you tell him it cant be unsaid! Personally I would keep it secret sometimes too much info is a bad thing.
2006-10-26 01:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋