I have a bf friend but there is this other guy he really likes me
he say all these nice things about me and i find him drop dead. I
just like everything about. we have only kissed once and he wants me to dump my bf, me and my bf have been going out a year and a half
but my bf never says anything to me, he never says i look nice or that iam pretty. should i dump my bf or shall i stay with him
2006-10-26 01:31:14 · 20 answers · asked by Kelly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont love my bf we augue all the time and when we r dunk he picks fights with me
2006-10-26 01:48:25 · update #1
I'd leave your BF either way, if he's not giving you what you need. This other guy is just filling the gaps in your current relationship. Chances are he's a bit of a dick, asking you to dump your bf. That's a bit needy and desperate in my book. maybe not the perfect guy you think.
2006-10-26 01:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire right now. And if you don't stop playing around with this other guy you will get burned. Have you ever heard that before? That is what many people say to those who are cheating on their mate. Unfortunately that is what you are doing. You need to be a mature person, and stop kissing someone you are not really with. Sometimes Guys don't know that Girls are not happy in the relationship. You need to speak to your b/f about this. He probably thinks everything is okay. Even if you are not happy, you should end the first, before starting the second relationship. Maybe this new guy is with you because you are already attached to someone, and it is exciting to cheat, or to be secretive? Will it work out for you, honestly ask your self this? If so, then please don't hurt your b/f any more and give him a sweet goodbye. At least give him his dignity. He is just a guy, and some of them don't really know how to treat a girl. Maybe being that you both are still young, and need to learn alot about real relationships, that is why you have problems. If this new guy really cares for you he will not let you go behind your b/f back, that is so wrong.
2006-10-26 08:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly B. The only time a man ever gives you compliments is when he first knows you. For some reason they expect their girlfriends/wives to take it `as read` that they like you and that you look gorgeous! So unless your really want to finish with your boyfriend( for reasons other than the fore mentioned) you must think twice about it. Once you are married, there will be loads of guys like this new one,they will act in exactly the same way. but are they worth loosing someone special for? You learn to ignore them. It sounds as though you are in a good relationship now. You can always tell your boyfriend about this guy, you need not tell his name, it might just make your boyfriend `pull up his socks`......at least for a little while!
2006-10-26 08:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babes, if you have kissed this other man, be it once, you have cheated on your current bf.
Have you sat and chatted to your current bf about your relationship? Have things just got comfortable?
Dumping someone because they don't say as many nice things to you than someone else is madness. But as you cheated on him by kissing the other man is another thing (poor git)
1 - Work it out between your current man.
or
2- Go with the man who says nice stuff, and dump your current man.
2006-10-26 08:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not committed to your boyfriend if you have kissed someone behind his back. I dont think that you have any other choice now - break up with your boyfriend. Just cause he doesnt tell you all the time it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you. If you care for him then you must break it off so he can be with some one that is committed to him and love him the way he deserves. Most relationships fizzle out over time but remember the golden rule. Real love happens after lust.
Goodluck with your new fella.
2006-10-26 08:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
on this matter you realy have to make the decision for yourself.
a good way to work it out in your head is to list 10 bad and 10 good about each.
if the good out weigh the bad then stay, but with what you have said i dont think that it will.
Just remember that the other bloke may change once your with him, hes nice now, but what about in six month time. Just take your time dont rush into any decision.
you may also want to consider a break from boyfriends just for a short time.
Good Luck with your choice.
2006-10-26 08:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the important question is whether or not your current bf really likes you and wants to be with you. If he does, then the next question is whether you really like him and want to be with him. Depending on those two answers, you either talk to your current bf and ask him to express his feelings towards you more often or dump him for the other guy.
2006-10-26 08:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Biskit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't mean this to be mean. But you sound kinda young. Are you? If you are (and even if your not) your still young- live your life in which ever way you think will make you happiest. And be with which ever guy treats you the best. It doesn't matter how long you've been with your current boyfriend, if he doesn't treat you good and you don't feel that you will be happy then call it quits. And be young and have fun. Don't think you have to always have a boyfriend. But if this other guy treats you good and does really want to be with you then---make him work for it and prove that he really wants it. Good luck in making your decision.
2006-10-26 08:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by dixie011406 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only really be dumping your boyfriend if you don't like him or it's not working out, not because somebody hotter comes along that just makes you a ***** then. I bet when you first went out with your boyfriend he said nice things to you and when was the last time you said anything nice to him?
2006-10-26 08:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by walk like a panther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this all depends on how you feel, can you see a future with your current boyfriend.
All guys talk to you nice at first, i have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, and he doesnt say anything nice to me, buti know hes thinking it. Think about it, do you say anything nice to him.
I met a guy last year who nearly cost me my relationship with my boyfriend, i thought he was the one but it turned out he was knocking off 3 of the women who i work with, he was always saying i was gorgeous and how i should dump my boyfriend for him etc etc etc....i was so confused and messed up after he had worked his mind games on me that i ended up on anti depressants and nearly in hospital, and do you know who saved me...my boyfriend...i was so frightened of losing him over all this cr*p which was making my brain mess up. i told him all about it and my betrayal and why i was thinking about this other guy and all he said was
i may not be the best looking guy around or the one with the best personality but i love you.
and i made my choice, now you need to do the same, dont waste your time on that other guy, if your boyfriend didnt like or fancy you then he wouldnt be with you.
i hope this helps
2006-10-26 08:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by charlotte66621442000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋