A strong person is always confident that he/she can always find & retain someone in throughout the life whenever he/she will need, so permanent association is not needed & it is a permanent liability !
2006-10-26 01:25:01 · 23 answers · asked by sk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well that is an interesting question, and truthfully I am on both sides of the fence here, I really think it depends on what stage of life you are in.
My feelings are that if you are interested in a relationship that will produce a family (children) a legal commitment ie marriage is necessary. Children are a huge responsibility both financially and emotionally, and if both people in the relationship are not confident enough in their *permanent association* then they should move on and find a partner that is truly willing to BE THEIR permanently.
Now on the other hand.....when entering a relationship later in life, possibly already having children who are grown and independent, I would be hesitant to become legally bound to another person. I would at the very least have a prenup (sp) singed by both parties before marriage. I have seen a few of my friends both male and female make poor decisions after working a lifetime to build up security, just to risk losing half, a legal will would also be a wise choice, so that the children you have raised would receive what you wish for them in the event of your death...you can't always count on your partner to do what is right in these situations.
I really do not feel this is a *confidence* issue at all...I thinks it is about loving enough to truly commit, but having wisdom as well.
2006-10-26 02:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true at all. Marriage is a commitment between two people to spend their lives together. It takes two strong people to commit to such a relationship.
The marriages that do not last are based upon people who have not really made that commitment or have made that commitment without truly knowing each other.
A strong person knows him or her self and therefor does a much better job at making that commitment. Strong people make just as many commitments as not so strong people. The difference is that the commitments of strong people are better thought out and more stable in the long run.
The concept of marriage being permanent and a long term liability is more a statement of fear than strength. If a person is afraid of long term commitments, they are more likely to believe the commitment to be a liability.
The other issue is that nothing is permanent. Even the best marriages end, if in nothing else in death. One party is most likely to be left alone.
The idea that a person has so much confidence as to believe that they can hold on to another person, but not doing so because it is a liability leads to failure. That person will always be alone with their arrogance, because no one has that much control over any situation, especially human relationships.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-26 02:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most asinine comment I've seen here yet. This remark was no doubt thought up by someone who hasn't the faintest idea of the sanctity and responsibilities of a relationship and marriage.
I do hope my good man that this is not your opinion. Anyone who even subscribes to this is clearly ignorant of life and is not nor ever will be ready for marriage. You marry for love and because you want to be exclusive to that one person. That children from the union are special because they're a part of each one of you...and that you're proud they are.
What this statement says is a "strong" person can find someone they need for whatever they deem necessary without having to commit.
From sex to having someone do your laundry of have your children huh? I would suggest to the (allegedly) "strong" people who subscribe to this belief to either stick with hookers, gigolos or get a goddamn dog if you want companionship.
2006-10-26 02:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a much stronger person to be married and stay married than to live a single life. When you get married, you have to adapt to another person that will be there day in and day out for the rest of your life (hopefully), thier habits, thier quirks and thier differiences. It is much easier to be single and when you find that there is something that you may not like about someone to just run and try again. Sounds like your confidence may be lacking, because it take a very confident person to get married. There will be so many additional demands and responsibilities when you get married, that confidence is a must.
2006-10-26 02:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rambling Rose! I've never been married even though I'm 40, so I don't know if these statements are true or not.However,I got a great laugh out of them-LOL! Did you make these up? If so, you have a terrific sense of humor! I especially like the one about the laundry!You deserve a star!
2016-05-21 21:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know you are single!!! It's actually the complete opposite. You have to be confident in order to make 1 person happy for the rest of their lives!! A weak person could never even attempt to pull that off. Let me guess you want to get married and your boyfriend is telling you that it's for weak minded people?!?!?! Tell him to give up his promiscuous life style and settle down with you. If not, then you need to keep it moving and find someone that love you almost as much as you love yourself. Marriage is a wonderful thing when you find the "right" person.
2006-10-26 01:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where on Earth did you hear that crap?
It sounds to me like some kind of justification or rationalization made up by someone who could not maintain a relationship.
What an unbelievably egocentric line of BS! Marriage is about being responsible for someone else, taking the responsibility for their future, their emotional and physical well being.
How could anyone do that with a lack of confidence?
2006-10-26 01:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A strong person can have a "permanent association" and not worry about what others will think nor will they loose their independence or their ability to be strong. To love and be loved enough to risk getting married makes you stronger...not weaker.
And you have to be confident to risk opening yourself up to another person and making a lifetime commitment to that person. My question to you is: What are you afraid of?
2006-10-26 01:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im not sure whether your talking purely for the liability reasons but i kind of agree with you.
I don't think it is very original for two people in love to do the same thing people who have been in love do for centuries..
surely we're individual enough to find our own unique way to express love and commitment to someone other than a ring on a finger.
Don't get me wrong, i think marriage is cool, i just dont think it leaves much to the imagination..life's about going mad with the possibilities.
2006-10-26 01:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normally marriage represents an official relationship ... Marriage means more than a perfect relationship .... From all points of view ....
A strong mentally health person will marry when she/he will find love ...I mean real love ...
2006-10-26 01:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by alina d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋