I'm doing my head in.
I'm happy in my relationship, my bloke couldn't be more perfect. However, I recently found out that my ex is seeing someone. Now, I split up with him because things didn't work out, why do I feel weird about it and why is it annoying me? I'm definitely not still in love with him but I feel a bit weird about it!
Why is that?
2006-10-26 01:23:06 · 17 answers · asked by Vicky A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh god it must be a 'girl thing' I feel the same about my ex. We were together 7 years and split 2 years ago, we stayed best friends I went out on dates (he didnt) and finally met my new husband. Recently however my ex started seeing someone, I felt a little strange about it but the feeling got worse when he started to do things with her that he never did with me (he took her to Ireland, and I had always wanted to go there)and my friends said he was affectionate with her all the time (he wasnt with me thats why we broke up). I know im not in love with my ex because im now happily married, but i think its weird because i suppose i didnt expect him to move on. I know this doesnt give you any answers butat leastyou know your not on your own. xxx
2006-10-26 04:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by looby1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, sometimes we can all be a little selfish. I'm sure you are happy with your new guy, maybe it's just that you made the break with your ex, didn't expect him to be happy again, and possibly the thought that he still cares bout you made you feel better? Cuz he's not moping around nemore and that's disappointing for you? Also if you still see quite alot of him that may make things feel a little weird. Girls are sometimes a bit backward, we love what we have but the thought of our ex still holding a flame can be a confidence boost. This guy I'm going with still lives wiv his ex and her mum, she split wiv him and said she didn't want him back and went out enjoyin herself. Except now he's doin the same and she didn't like it, then they argued and she told him she felt uncomfortable around him. He recently went out n slept wiv a random girl and she knows and was I guess a little upset. I myself can't help but feel bad for her cuz I'm just his bed buddy, and I felt horrible about it, so I can't imagine how it must of felt for her as they were together 4 years. My point is if you really don't want him back then you have to let go and let him be happy, just as he has you, but if you feel there's more too it than that then maybe you should talk to him? Although you did split up for a reason so maybe it's best left alone? Hope you find the answer your looking for babe and good luck xxxx
2006-10-26 05:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by crazychicklisieloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe in some kind of way you feel as someone has step in your territory,are you really jelous when you are in a relationship?
That could be it....my adivce is not to let those felling interfere in what you have going with this new guy if he finds out you have this unresolve fellings he might take it the wrong way and dump you...... you might end up alone,and then what?? this bad fellings about this other guy with another girl will pass... in life you have to learn to win and loose cant have both! good luck.
2006-10-26 01:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I finished with my ex girlfriend I literally hated her for cheating but still had feelings for her somewhere, they eventually went in time.
I think it all depends on how long you was with your ex boyfriend and how recently you broke up with him.
Best thing to do is just stay clear of your ex and get on with your own life, don't let it bother you at all, the main thing is you're happy with your relationship.
2006-10-26 01:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by crash2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! i am in ur same shoes. im ahppy with my bf but when my ex told he he had a gf i felt the same way. im kinda over it now tho. u feel that way bcuz if it aint love then its bcuz since he was urs for a while or how long u dated, you not used him being with another girl. just focus on ur guy now bcuz trust me when i tell you u dont want this to get in the way of your relationship, it will just cause dumb arguement btween u adn ur guy. focus on the present the past will pass.
2006-10-26 01:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by boricuaspot21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its either you're still in love with him and keep lying to yourself that you are not or you don't wish him well. Come on, take a listen to your heart, what exactly do you feel. The worst lie you can tell is that which you tell to your self.
2006-10-26 01:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to think that he's over you is all. Just try to put those feelings to the back of your mind, and enjoy the new man in your life.
2006-10-26 01:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your proberly just abit upset that he's moved on. It will soon past dont worry about it, you seem to be happy in your current relationship so dont ruin it just over an ex!! !! !!
2006-10-26 01:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god i have the xact same thing. Even with ex's who i absolutly hate, you hear they have a gf and you cant imagine it...what ther like together etc. Youll just have to get over it. I found seeing them together made it easier. Good luck hun
2006-10-26 01:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jenni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from experience i can tell u this is totally normal. the feeling will pass but it will take longer if u still have any contact, best to cut loose completely if u are sure u dont love him
2006-10-26 02:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋