i have a boyfriend and were planning to get married... he has a son to other woman who is separated to her husband. ofcourse im willing to accept his son... I just want to know how can i make him totally happy and contented w/me??? Sometimes i know that he's calling the mother of his son, ofcourse i feel quite jealous. But it's ok! i just want to make sure that everything will be ok and that when we get married he'll be contented w/me!!!!
2006-10-26 01:11:53 · 19 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Happiness comes from inside. You can not make him happy. Just be yourself, show that you love him and never compromise your dignity. It's you that he's marrying so don't worry about the baby mama.
2006-10-26 01:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE him be happy and contented. He's either happy and contented now and looking forward to marrying you, or he's not. You need to communicate your worries to him and have an open discussion. If you can't talk openly to each other about anything and everything, you're marriage will be in trouble from the start.
He's going to talk to his son's mother quite often because they have a child together. If you can't let go of your jealousy, that will become a big problem eventually. Premarital counseling may be a big help to both of you.
2006-10-26 01:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your boyfriend has a son with another woman,the tendency is that they really will have communication with each other... the thing is if he really does not feel anything for his previous wife then, be relaxed, what you have to do is be a good wife to him, cook for him, make your life not husband and wife, treat each other as girlfriend and boyfriend still because this relationship is much sweeter than that of a husband and wife, they say that when a man marries the one he loves there is a tendency that the man gets tired of his wife, and so you have to be creative and imaginative in dealing with your husband, it is hard to be like that but for the sake that the eyes of your love one will not be set away from you, you have to be sweet and sweeter to him everyday. make each day of your life juust like your honeymoon night, and always make him special... in return he'll be so happy and contented and that whenever he is about to finish his work, he cant wait to see you and that you'll see he always want you around him...hehehehe
2006-10-26 01:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be a happy contented individual. you may make quite some money doing some thing you adore lots which you may do it for no longer something. you've gotten a stunning companion that worked complicated at appealing you in each way. you've gotten a relatives that adore you. you've gotten dogs that think of you are the beginning up and the top of each little thing. And a cat that thinks you're no longer and he or she is :o)
2016-10-16 10:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...he will be calling the mother of his son on occasion....she's the child's mother, they have every right to communicate. However, if they're spending lots of time together, and leaving you out, that could be a problem. As far as you making him content....unless he's made up his mind that he loves you with all his heart, you can't do anything to make him happy. He's gotta make up his own mind to be happy/content with you. This is something you really need to sit down and discuss with him.....instead of discussing it online.......
2006-10-26 07:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control the jealousy at all costs, its a relationship killer! Course he will NEED to talk to the mother of his child, he has part in the childs life and things need discussing sometimes. Relax and stop stressing coz that can muck things up too.
2006-10-26 01:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seen an issue like yours on the Jerry Springer show.
!st you have to ask yourself, if he his phoning his ex-wife, whom is now seperated, what exactly is the topic of conversation. There is a lot of variables here...Like is your boyfriend behind on his child support payments, and does his ex-wife have it in for you.....you may need to be more specific about your situation, plus sounds like you have a lot of un-knowns in this equation.
You may want to do some research, and read up on what SIGMUND FREUD says about the subject
2006-10-26 01:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by AD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people think that to make a man happy is sex but that is not not always true. To get to a man is via his stomach. Make him a great dinner and he will always be content.
2006-10-26 01:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ali-Baba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why don't yo wait a while before you get married and so a longer engagement time ? that way you can see how things will go . naturally he has to talk to the mother of his child , but only child related . so take it easy untill you are sue
2006-10-26 01:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always adopt him if he wants a mother around to let him know you love him. If your fiance doesn't like that idea, then I don't know if there is anything you can do... maybe be his friend because if you try to act like a motherly figure, he'll only say " YOU'RE NOT MY MOM!" when he gets angry.
2006-10-26 01:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by bevey_jane263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋