2006-10-26 01:05:47 · 42 answers · asked by IRIS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There was a time in my life, that i would never have had a live-in boyfriend. However, i think it is quite important...it helps you realize if the two of you can get along. I guess the way i think about it is this, i would rather live with my boyfriend, than get married, then divorced because we couldn't get along at home.
However, i don't think its imperative to live together...and actually in some cases, it might just slow things down in your relationship. Basically you have to realize that there are positives and negatives to each aspect...so if you are thinking about it, remember, each relationship is different, think about what is right for the two of you.
2006-10-26 01:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Patience 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is a sin.. but setting aside religious convictions. Studies show the divorce rate in the USA is like 52% however those stats go up quite a bit to like 68% when the couple has lived together before marriage
2006-10-26 01:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together before getting married is a must! Then you know if you can handle living together, If you can handle all the pain in the *** things your bf does that you don't know about. I live with my bf and we've been living together for quite a while. I know everything I need to know about him and we get along perfectly.
2006-10-26 02:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by fairy_tale_dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon old,too soon smart.
Morally it is a taboo hence the platform for mirrage is there. Time has deemed it necessary to live in with your partner because our generation holds not mirrage in high esteem. There is an issue of spirituality to consider as well.
In my country we call living together b4 getting married - VAT EN SIT - meaning just take for your pleasure & sit with it.
To be honest with you, there are benefits of staying together, like rental, utilities, groceries,etc; which saves money. Despite all the above, too much emotional connection opens room for too much expectancy disappointment because usually an issue of needs is attended more than that of wants.
At first the reality of living together is tantalizing, but soon the fantasy of a perfect relationship creeps in because you end up being bored, monotonously cramped with chores, no more exhilarating love making, but above all, room for no commitment because no matter how much the fridge is empty, you will always find ice in it. In so saying, you know that whatever you do out there, you will find him/her @ home.
Many might try to convince you of their opinion, but what I say is take heed to the conviction of your heart & mind. If they are not in agreement, then don't.
I basically live with my fiance, because I live a street away from her. Some days are extremely good, some are bad, but our choice of being together stems from the fact that we have been together for six years and our love keeps us together.
The choice is yours to live with it. If it's to suffer, then suffer. But if it's to explore the possibility of endless love and joy, then so be it. Don't let anyone coerse you into anything yu don't want.
All the best.
2006-10-26 02:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ralesabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not live with my husband before we got married and i think it was a great choice because everyday is a new adventure. We learn new things about eachother and it is fun. I think if we had movedin before it would have lost some of the mystery and fun of that newlywed phase. My friends who did move in before they were married thought i was crazy. They would ask me things like what if you can't live with eachother or what if he does things you can't stand, but i knew in my heart that he was the one and it would be fine. and it is. I guess it is just a choice you have to make for yourself. I know i made the right choice for me. i enjoy the daily adventures.
2006-10-26 01:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Times has changed from the past, you meet a guy, date for a while, get engaged, then live together....NO...Now it's, meet a guy, check his background, talk to ex-girlfriends (make sure they are still alive), spy (make sure he is not living a double life), then plan to live together (see how he works his finances) then get married........It's a must!! Today's days are so terrible, people have lost the desire to love one another, they only seek for people to take care of them and become their slaves.
2006-10-26 01:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that, not good.
each to his/her own.
but from experience. it leads to heart ache and frustration.
getting to know someone is best done with a little mystery. Living together takes the fun out of marriage when or even if it happens. and apparently statistically, 60% of people who live together before marriage, either never marry, or divorce.
the fun is in the getting-to-know-you... looking forward to seeing them the next day/week etc. not falling asleep next to them when u dont even know them properly yet thing.
it may seem cool for a while. but its a bad idea.
2006-10-26 01:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you ought to completely stay mutually previously getting married. BTW i think of you're off on your reasoning for the better divorce cost between people who cohabitate merely before marriage. i think of that persons who come from an fairly strict religious upbringing tend to no longer stay mutually previously tying the knot and so as that they're a similar team who's far less probable to divorce or might acquire annulments as an entire using fact it extremely is not any longer as desirable. I certainly have been with my husband now on account that i became sixteen. We moved in mutually whilst i became 18, married whilst i became 21 and are nonetheless fortuitously committed to one yet another and our marriage at 30. We have been given married as quickly as we desperate to have infants yet on reflection you're perfect, it replaced no longer something. We nonetheless sense precisely a similar approximately one yet another as we did previously we wasted money finding out to purchase somewhat paper that asserts we are "married".
2016-11-25 21:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my wife for 2 years before we were married, and I think it was a smart thing to do. We've been married 24 years now!
2006-10-26 01:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by yanbarumuku 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i personally think its a great cause believe me you dont really know a person til you live with em . i didnt live with my ex husband before we married and he was great while we were dating but i couldnt live him he was the nastiest / sloppiest person i have ever met he thought nothing of eating something in the bed and then just leaving what he didnt finish in the bed or just tossing it on the floor we were married for 3 months before i realized he wasnt gonna change mind you i never seen this side of him til after we lived together after the marriage
2006-10-26 01:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by t b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋