he acts and talks like a 16 yr old so little boy tactics don't work he can control both mum dad and nan he throws things breaks doors and hits, kicks ,and bites me.
2006-10-26 00:54:01 · 30 answers · asked by darrenwroe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-26 00:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by jonti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boy handicapped in any way? If not, I'd put your foot down now or else image when he's actually 16 yrs old. Once he leaves home at 18, who's problem now does he become? If you don't discipline now, you'll regret it later. Do you want him to be a stand up person or a person who's in & out of jail?
If your boy doesn't respect you now whats going to change as
he gets older? I'll tell you its NOTHING! All because his mom didn't teach him about his actions & consequences.
As for breaking things when he's mad, just act like its not important & turn away like you didn't even notice. Look
& see what this boys reaction is. If he see's you not paying attention to his breaking things this novelty is going to wear off.
What this boy is looking for is a reaction to his actions!
It's just like a bully at school.
Make sure you teach him that there are consequences to his poor choice of actions or behavior.
Don't let him become a problem for society once hes of age to move out.
Bottom Line!!
He's your child, your the parent!
Do your job.
Nicole
2006-10-26 02:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by littlevada32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for the closest behavioral center.. This kid needs help he might have ADD or some kind of issue that alone you are not going to control.
The earlier you do it the better for him and the easier is for the therapist to help him... Do it for him he is not like this on purpuse something has to be wrong.. If he feels that he can acomplish things for some reason he is going to act violent and bad so people wont expect him to do well... a behavioral center is the answer.. you can also talk to the school counselor and go from there.. good luck.
2006-10-26 00:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer a mean approach to bratty kids. It is in their best interest.
First, take away every toy and book, no tv privledges, no gameboy, xbox whatever he has. If he wants entertainment, he can clean. Give him a bucket of soapy water and a sponge. For every day he is good, give him a book to read.
If he bites, kicks, hits, I personally say give him a milkshake laced with valium BUT since that's not legal, when he gets into a 'rage' like it sounds. Give him something called 'coffee milk'. Caffeine has the opposite affect on kids, and give him a drink 50-50 coffee and milk, make him drink it, add a little sugar if necessary to sweeten (very little). He should calm down somewhat.
You may have a bratty kid on your hands, or you may have a kid with a real, tangible illness - such as adhd, or even a form of autism or something. You need to nip this in the butt now, it will onyl get worse as he gets stronger and his sense of power and control get bigger as well.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this - believe me, I know exactly what you're going through.
2006-10-26 00:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get him tested, yes kick that asss and BE the parent. How could you possible let a 6 year old control you? Are you guys afraid of him? WHy does he talk like a 16 year old? Is his name Damien? I mean really. Your going to need professional help at this stage because you obviously let it get out of control.
2006-10-26 00:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This little boy needs more than what you can provide. He needs professional medical help and now. Your headed for real trouble. but this didn't happen overnite, this boy has been allowed to get away with this behavior now that it's out of control your asking for help. If he's that bad I'm sure someone has suggested help before now and it was ignored.. Best of luck to you and your son.
2006-10-26 01:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by MKM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Physical discipline is what you need. Spare the rod, spoil the child. Either you get him under control now or the system will later. He will appreciate it when he becomes a responsible productive man. The world isn't going to let him throw tantrums and get his way, he need to be prepared to face the world. Time out is for wussies and you are raising a man. Remember that!
2006-10-26 00:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kids dont naturally behave like this...all their behviour is learned unless he has a medical problem...i know this sounds harsh but have you had a good hard look at your parenting techniques...there are parenting classes and specialist parenting classes available...its worth putting the effort in...i have children of my own and i work in a school...i also used to do art therapy in a community centre with children...many of the children i dealt with there were uncontrollable at first glance but all most of them needed was some good attention and some way of feeling like they were able to do some positive things for themselves...i looked at your question...first off you called him bad...he is not bad at 6! if he does the thing that you say it means that you have not established respecful ground rules that you can all follow and that you stick to...say what you mean and mean what you say...does anyone in the house lose their temper??? sometimes you have to do the nasty job of looking at yourselves as parents to see where you may be going wrong...if you hit him it will teach him that its ok to hit...and you have more problems...i could go on and on by i think you probably understand what i am saying,lol...i hope this helps...if you need some more advise please feel free to mail me i may be able to access info on parenting courses in your area...good luck ;0)
2006-10-26 01:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does he talk like a 16 year old? Where has he learnt his behaviour? I have a six year old son, and he is lovley, but thats because he knows he would never get away with behaving that way.Take away his toys, put them in bin bags, and tell him when he behaves he can have them back. When this behaviour occurs, warn him you are going to lock him in his room. If he then carries on, lock in for five minutes,if he carries on when you let him out, do it again. be persistent and stick to it. Do you praise him when he does good things? Let him know that bad behaviour doesnt gain him the attention he obviously wants, and that good behaviour will.Just dont let him do it! He is six years old, take control, speak to him on his level, never raise your voice, as he will know he is getting to you.
2006-10-26 01:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time he bites/hits/kicks you, do it right back at him (not too hard obviously), then sit him down and tell him his behaviour is not appropriate. Get his diet checked out in case its food intolerance, and just be very firm with him. Send him to his room when he's bad, deny him privileges such as TV, sweets. Good luck to you.
2006-10-26 01:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
please get him checked out fr. the Dr. he MIGHT have
ADD, ADHD or something else if he always acts like this.
if not, then you need to let him know who's boss,
NOT HIM, go to the Super Nanny web site for some tips.
One of know of is when he does not behave correctly
tell him & then take away one of his privledges ( movies,
computer ) for that night, tell him he can have the privledge
back when he behaves the right way PLUS
act the way you want him to act, nice, kind, kids learn alot from the adults they are with.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-26 00:59:29 · answer #11 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋