My BF sister has just arrived to live by us. She's got into quite a pickle and now rings my BF constantly crying he's beginning to use our money to pay her debts and she has begun going out with all our friends. She does the he's my brother so he has to look after me act and he falls for it everytime I can see what shes doing its so frustrating!!!
2006-10-26 00:01:49 · 6 answers · asked by BIGMOUTHSTOPTALKING 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds to me like she's trying to break you two up. Have a chat with your b/f, be nice about his sister, but tell him you're not happy with how things are. She should sort out her own debts and stand on her own two feet. Your b/f sounds like a lovely guy, but she's abusing his good nature.
2006-10-26 00:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's horrible.
i think that from that you said, She's probably jealous of you. Because of what you have with your boyfriend i.e a close relationship and lots of friends around you. It sounds like she what's to be in your shoes and have the things that you have.
if she starts wearing the same clothes start to worry, until then tell your boyfriend in a calm way how this is effecting you and how you want to spend more time together without her. Tell him that your are not comfortable feeding her lifestyle after all if she has got her self into debt why is she still going out let alone with your friends?
If he still gives her money, keep separate accounts and make a budget for all of your joint expenditure and then he can support her with his own money.
If after talking it through with your boyfriend he still does listen you may have to put it down to experience and move on. You should come first in his eyes.
Good Luck!
2006-10-26 07:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your b/f about this? And the both of you need to have a heart to heart with his sister. She needs to get her own life and stop taking money off of your brother as this can cause friction in the future.
2006-10-26 07:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to pack it in and tell him to grow a back bone!
my man can be the same! he has 2 sisters and 1 has 3 kids and always on at him to borrow cash, lifts etc etc... but since ive been with him hes not as bad and she never asks probably as i live there and doesnt want to upset me! stuff that hes my brother stuff.... tell her how it is! good luck!
2006-10-26 07:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything depends on the man .... He should see all these and stop them .... If family is so important for him ( he is blind about these things ) that is no good , because his family will always interfear in your relationship .... If it is a "real" man he will change this situation ...
2006-10-26 07:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by alina d 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell your b/f how upset you are .good luck hun
2006-10-26 07:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋