after having a long term relathionship, is normal to get married, why men 're scared?
2006-10-24 23:35:50 · 8 answers · asked by alfa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is a game of "Know me" and "Show me". If a girl finds a guy who she feels that she knows very well and thus she feels very comfortable with him & if he seems to be a desirable guy based upon what he has shown her, then she may feel inclined towards marrying him, thinking she has a pretty good match and a pretty good catch.
Likewise, if a man is dating a woman who really seems to have it all put together (attractive, confident, supports him, takes good care of him, and doesn't create too much drama, and provides him with memorable intimacy (sex?), etc), he will be more inclined to want to keep her (including marrying her).
However, you have to keep in mind that both of the people who are candidates for being married must be ready to stop "playing the field" and settle down. Just because a person has been in a long term relationship for a while does not mean that they are ready to settle down. I have been in many long term relationships & I still feel like I need to continue dating. Only the man or woman, in question, knows the answer to this all important question-------> "AM I READY TO COMMIT TO JUST ONE PERSON FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE"
Also, there are men "& women" who are afraid of marriage. And there are many reasons for this, such as:
1. Not Ready To Settle Down
2. Subconcious Fear of Marriage Due To Having Witnessed Divorce of Parents
3. Fear of Losing Personal Assets (Money, House, Etc.) if the Marriage Were to Fail
4. Fear of Unknown or Unexpected Problems Which May Present Themselves During a Marriage
5. Fear of repeating past failures, such as prior failed marriages or bad relationships.
The right time is when both people have come to the realization that they are ready to make certain sacrifices in order to have a closer relationship called marriage.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-25 00:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by should i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chocobu - Not at all for me.
I only ever wanted sex with one woman because I believe that's how it is supposed to be. Men are afraid of giving up the freedom to do whatever they want with their time and money. Once you are married you have to make decisions about time and money based upon someone elses needs and not your own. By our nature humans are self-centered and therefore relinquishing the checkbook and schedule to make someone elses life more important then our own is VERY Hard.
2006-10-25 06:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the men are not scared. But they are scared of their partner getting in to unnecessary troubles. When they are too much fond of their fiancee then automatically scared if not they are bothered.
2006-10-25 07:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Muzammil S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't a right time as in a length of time. but both of you have to be absolutely, completely sure. I was with my husband (EX!!) for 5 years before we got married, but he changed after. I wasn't completely sure. So if he isn't sure then dont push it. there's alot to be said for romance, passion and love without rushing commitment.
2006-10-25 06:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by purple_butterflyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not!! I have just asked my girlfriends father for her hand in marriage and I have organized a meal on Friday night at her favorite restaurant to ask her and I have bought a ring with one months wages.
Lets hope she says yes...LOL
2006-10-25 06:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by druboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not always some people find it better to go on as is. it takes two for a marrige if one is not ready then wait if you love him .
2006-10-25 06:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my thinking is that maybe to them, having to have sex with only one woman for the rest of their life just scares them too much...
true guys?
2006-10-25 06:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Dore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are not yet ready..
2006-10-25 06:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ fijiE_pUnk ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋