And she is upset because I wont have sex with her I am sorry but, that's disgusting....Am I wrong for feeling that way I just can't do it but, I don't like to upset her
2006-10-24 23:28:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
personally i think you are wrong, she is still the woman you loved and is carrying your child you should be making her feel special and loved and not show your ignorance she has been carrying your child inside her for 9 months so think about her feelings its not going to harm the baby and if she wants to make love then just think about all the times you have come home feeling horny and wanted sex and the times she hasn't been feeling like sex but has still made love with you, stop being selfish and give her what she wants.....sorry if that's not what you want to hear but its what i believe
2006-10-24 23:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by leanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex at 9 months is fantastic, sometimes it can even bring on labour. Maybe she isn't actually wanting sex to have pleasure from you but to see if her labour will start, you can't be disliking her body any more than she does.u wouldn't want her to start to hate being pregnant and get depressed just before the baby comes. Talk to her, give it a go, just remember being pregnant is the start of a new life, its about the joining of TWO bodies making something so special. Just think how you would be feeling if it was you, she is probably getting very anxious about the birth and wants to know that you are close and will be there for her. Think a bit more about her and her feeling and stop being a typical man and just thinking of the sex.
Good luck with the birthxx
2006-10-25 06:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think it is disgusting? Is it because you are not attracted to her pregnant body or is it because you think it is wrong to have sex because there is a baby in there? There is nothing wrong with having sex. If she and the baby are well and the doctor has not told you to abstain then it is okay. You will not harm the baby or your girlfriend. She is probably upset because her body has gone through so much change. If she thinks you dont want to have sex with her because you find her unattractive, she will feel devestated. Reassure her that you love her, that she is sexy, and show her that in other ways too. If you dont want to have sex, you could pleasure her in other ways. Just remember she is very emotional, all those changes to her body can be hard to cope with. Good luck!
2006-10-25 06:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it disgusting? It it perfectly normal for father-to-be's to loose there libito during pregnancy as fathers are worring just as much as the mother to be. It is normally beacause your worried about the up coming birth and how your life will change after the birth.
Are you not atracted to your pregnant girlfriend?
Sex helps the cervix dilate, it wont hurt the baby at all more help to start the labour. If you don't want to have sex thats fine but you need to be sensitive when telling your girlfriend as she will already not feel sexy, and the hormones are at a peek. Just really think about why you don't want it and without hurting her feelings try to explane to her why.
Good luck and I hope you get over it soon and not go elsewhere.
2006-10-25 07:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is what part are you disgusted about, her being pregnant and out of shape or you having sex with her and she has a human inside of her. All men have there reason for not wanting to do it but for your girlfriend you need to try and make her feel love as much as possible and tell her the true reason why you can't. But I would say this think before you speak.
2006-10-25 08:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by msleya2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong; a little heartless, but perfectly understandable. Keep in mind that her emotions are driving her crazy, and you are supposed to be there for her unconditionally. If she feels rejected by you, that intensifies her stress level exponentially. Ask yourself how your self esteem and body confidence would hold up if you looked the same, and the one person who should love her no matter what finds her unattractive. That hurts. Her stomach will flatten out eventually, but the memory of your inconsiderate distatste (no matter how justified) will stick with her a lot longer that the baby fat. She's not allowed to have ANY sex for at least a month after delivery, and that's if everything goes well. I say take what you can get while you can, and try to see it from her perspective.
2006-10-25 07:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Carla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this late stage in her pregnancy she will need to feel loved by you more than anything before the baby comes because believe me she wont feel like it for weeks after the birth you both will be tired there is nothing disgusting about having sex with your pregnant girlfriend she is at her most beauitifulest stage in her life and gentle love making is so magic and will mean a lot to her as she will feel so attractive to you.
2006-10-25 06:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by vicky s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I feel *really* bad for your girlfriend. My husband thought I was the sexiest when I was pregnant, especially the bigger I got! He still talks about wanting me to be pregnant again, because I was so beautiful that way! Pregnancy is an incredibly beautiful and sacred time in a woman's life. Trust me, there are plenty of men who'd be more than willing to make love to your beautiful pregnant girlfriend. Many men find pregnancy extremely sexy. If you really can't bring yourself to do it (please try)...try the angle that you are worried about the safety of your baby. Tell her everyday how amazingly beautiful she looks...and continue this practice after the baby is born (she'll fell much less attractive with a deflated stomach). Good luck.
2006-10-25 09:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. You must be my ex-husband.
What's wrong with you? Quit thinking about yourself. Do something for her.
AT THIS pt, I'd be upset if I were her, too. Upset that you can't just do a little something for me -- and more importantly, WHY -- when I'm carrying your child for YOU for nine mos. (which, by the way, isn't half the joy it's cracked up to be in the magazines!!).
Come on. If you don't like to upset her, don't. Do it -- and do it with a smile.
2006-10-25 06:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong about it, however it is a bit harsh to be saying that it is disgusting, most men see pregnancy as a beautiful thing, but i am sure if i were male, i dont know that i could even get it up seeing my wife "Larger than life" dont worry, just explain that it is different than you thought, and perhaps you are worried about her figure.
2006-10-25 06:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by the mumma 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋