People online tend to do nice gestures-- Sometimes outta kindness, sometimes outta motive. Is it wrong to accept these gestures when you are clear you have no intentions and have made it clear to others? For instance, when someone pays for something without your asking.
2006-10-24 23:23:24 · 15 answers · asked by mzkarmelbrown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are uncomfortable with such gestutres then you need to stop being in situations where this will happen. I am not sure what you are referring to about being online. Perhaps you need to get off line and it won't happen.
2006-10-24 23:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a judgment call. The reason the giver gives is irrelevant. You can never know their true intent.
You need to consider whether accepting this gift will bother your wife/husband.
I would not be very concerned if some one bought my wife a pack of gum. I would be very concerned if some one bought my wife thong underwear.
If in doubt, ask your husband how he would feel if you accepted this gesture. Be sure you tell him the truth about who the person is, and the nature of any contact you've had with them.
I'd be uncomfortable accepting even a pack of gum from the guy my wife was having cybersex with, but OK if it was from someone she had just been chatting with.
I have never heard of anyone on line who would buy anything expensive for someone without expecting something in return. Even if you've made it clear that you have no intentions, accepting a gift like that implies that you may be interested.
Be careful out there.
2006-10-24 23:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are descended from animals so it is only natural
Marriage was invented to keep the human race in check and to maintain the social order, also monogamy is unnatural amongst most animal species, that is why certain laws are in place to protect and stigmatize anyone that strays out of these conditions.
I guess its okay to stay with one partner, but don't tell me everyone does not from time to time become attracted to other people and wish they could have sex with other partners. If you say you have never, then you are a liar.
If all this was not true what would happen if your partner died at a young age, do you stay celibate for the rest of your days.
2006-10-24 23:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with anyone on line if you are married. Why would someone pay for something without you asking? I would question their motives. Put yourself in the other person's shoes, if your spouse was accepting "gestures" from other people on line just how comfortable would you be with that?
2006-10-24 23:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
genuinely, love is conventional with no gender. as far as your further information there, that would want to be like saying do not enable your baby do something different (like say a lady playing football or a boy doing gymnastics) no count number how a lot they want to because they could get teased. young children are recommend and everyone receives teased about something or different quicker or later of their existence. Is that a reason to save that youngster contained in the foster equipment particularly than be position in a loving abode that in order that takes position to have 2 moms or 2 dads? NO way! it really isn't any reason, i have heard from some those who the foster equipment is genuinely terrible! no count number the quantity of teasing i imagine that having 2 moms or 2 dads will be more effective perfect than staying contained in the equipment. EDIT: except some type of counseling became set up for ALL young children that were teased i don't think of that would want to be straightforward. Like I suggested all of us get teased about something or yet another at one aspect or yet another. I had to have glasses contained in the 2d grade and became teased unbelievably. That and many years later i became between the first human beings to *ahem* improve and that i wasn't customary so particularly of believing it they (the different young children) determined that i became faking it. Does that recommend I might want to are turning out to be counseling to assist me by it? no. I were given by it because of my father and mom, not some stranger that were given a level from a school. I were given by it through those who loved me. If the teasing takes position i imagine it really is going to be dealt with as a relations, not as if there became something mentally incorrect with the youngster.
2016-12-05 05:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to obey your instinct/spirit. There is a motive behind every move of individual and you can't do anything about that. Just have a clean mind.
Good luck.
2006-10-24 23:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello: where do you think this is leading to? why would they do this? who are they? don't they have a life? Lot's of questions, few legitimate reasons. Stay away from them sweetheart or someone will lose in the end and it's not going to be them.
2006-10-24 23:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't wrong as long as you are accepting as a friend not as anything else... i know a married woman who went out as a friend with this married guy well he had other ideas and she was not gonna take it so now she is staying away from him, its OK just don't let anything happen and be honest with your spouse
2006-10-24 23:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, then obviously you have doubts. Nothing is worth jepordizing your marriage over. So you need to make a decision.
2006-10-24 23:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Karen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny things relax the mind.
2006-10-24 23:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋