I lost my husband on Feb 10,2006
his family and all of our friends,have nothing to do with me or our children. I am still the same person. I was just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on why this happens. it happened when
I lost my first husband too. It is like we were never together. were together for 11 years. he died
from 13 mo battle with cancer his family and our friends were close then. now me & the kids no longer exist. any ideas?
THANKS FOR YOUR HELP
I think about this a lot.
2006-10-24 23:22:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FRIENDS OF OURS TREAT US THE SAME WAY.
2006-10-24 23:32:49 · update #1
probably because you remind them of him and that he is gone. Its a painful thing for a family to deal with maybe that is the only way they can right now.
-NmD!
2006-10-24 23:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of your friends and family were probably more comfortable with your husband than you. Think about it. That eliminates a lot of people from your life as much as it hurts you to think so.
You have to find new friends, create new objectives to attain for yourself. Get into new projects like hobbies through, say, Micheal's or some other group hobby shop. Join church groups, most have suppers for singles, dances. Try and get into groups that are for singles or like yourself. Pull yourself up and out. The friends you had before that really liked you will be there for you, the others, well, just let them go honey and good luck.
2006-10-25 06:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is a painful reminder to people of what they have lost but on the same hand you have to make sure you are making a effort to include them in the things you do..... if they still resist explain to them the way that you are feeling and in honor of there lost family member hopefully they will realize the error of there ways
2006-10-25 06:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Justin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you, and this must be terribly lonely. The only thing I can think of is that your presence is a reminder to them of their loss. It sounds terribly selfish, because you and your children also have experienced the same loss. Have you made attempts to contact them and spend time with them? Or are you leaving it up to them to contact you? I would invite them all over for dinner and see how things go. Good luck to you and God bless!
2006-10-25 06:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot worry about what other people do and think.....you can only control what you do and think. You are alone and need to take care of yourself and your children. Perhaps you need to pay attention to your behavior and how you relate to people. I am sure there is more to the story that you left out. Stop whining about life and move on and make some personal changes.
2006-10-25 06:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand u. You have a family of ur own. Just stick together and get on with ur life. As time passes, everything will be normal again.
2006-10-25 06:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in-laws suck. Pardon the bluntness. I would still visit my nephews and nieces no matter if my siblings were dead. They are the living part of them and to ignore them is downright cold-hearted. By withdrawing they only show that they did not love your deceased husband.
You may try to contact them directly, perhaps they feel they need to give you time to overcome your grief.
2006-10-25 06:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by Julio Cesar C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your losses,dont sweat the inlaws.Show them you guys can do well without them.
2006-10-25 06:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is usually like that in most families
2006-10-25 06:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should keep all hopes from Almighty GOD, not from any other. Then we will be very happy.
2006-10-25 06:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by jolly boy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋