my ex broke up with me 8months ago and still trys to contact me when i tell him i dont want contact....why does he do this? does he still have feelings for me and is there a chance that we coud get back together?
i cant have contact with him if he wants it over and i have told him that but he still trys to contact me and says he wants to know if im ok
what does this mean???
2006-10-24 23:12:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It means he wants it to be over, but he can't handle that it's over. It means he's having an "elastic band" moment - his feelings are too intense so he's pulling away enough to suit his fears, but staying close enough to know you ain't going nowhere!... It means he cares more than 'cares' about you. And from what you say, you do too.
Darling, listen to auntie sugarlove now - give the man his moment, let him have his "commitment freak out" time... when he calls, if you still want him, be wise and indulge his needs. The time will soon come rolling around when he will hugely indulge yours!... This sounds like a little more than "puppy" love. It sound like serious relationship stuff. So yes, I would say hope - why not? And let's not kid ourselves here honey, you are BOTH still mad about each other. He needs to hear your voice. So enjoy hearing his, in the quiet knowledge that every elastic band that stretches bounces back firmly.
2006-10-24 23:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it would hurt your new boy friends feelings if you renewed your friendship. Wither it is true or not. This will let him know that you have moved on, and he should do the same. Repeat your desire for him not to call.
It would boost his ego to think you are still pining over him, and as it was mentioned by someone else, he may have seen the error in his ways and would like to take up where he left off, until something better comes along. Even if you still have feelings for him, being dumped is not a good thing if it was not mutual that you and he should chill for a while and see others. There should be some significant groveling going on before you think about going back.
2006-10-25 06:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might jst be trying to be friends. If might be a good idea to take up is offer. No romanticaly, but just as confidences. Either that or he likes you again. You never can tell. He has something he wants toaccomplish if he's still calling you. try to either find out what he's after or try to be just a friend for a while. I know, my ex and I are now best friends but not romantic about it at all. Goood luck!!!!
2006-10-25 06:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by N/A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i have no idea why guys do this, my ex does the same he calls me every now and then to check up on me even though he was the one who decided that he didn't even want to be friends. his excuse for calling is that his mother misses me. as long as he doesn't push for anything and only wants to talk its OK. he does have feelings for you still otherwise you would have been out of mind for a long time already and as far as the two of you getting back together well now the ball is in your court and you can make the decision it all depends on how you feel about him still. plain and simple guys are guys, they have a hard time putting what they feel into words, you should start the opening of conversation to find out.
2006-10-25 06:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be wary of this guy. He sounds VERY POSSESSIVE and CONTROLLING - the fact that HE broke up with you in the first place should stay in the forefront of your mind - BUT ALSO, YOU have asked him NOT to contact you - if he did care about you he would LISTEN TO YOU and not harrass you by keeping track of you and your thoughts/movements. Look it aint hard for a girl to like a guy - even HITLER HAD A WIFE!!!! I once fell in love with a dick that was trying to put my little brother in jail. I also fell for a guy who treated me and my 18 month old son like absolute ****....but I still loved him... GET THE IDEA???? But those that we have feelings for are not always out for our best interests. Usually they are only LOOKING OUT FOR THEMSELVES.........
2006-10-25 06:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Pooroldpossum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to maintain a level of control over you, so that you can't ever completely separate yourself from him. I'd suggest that you stay away and refuse to respond to his attempts at contacting you.
2006-10-25 06:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by Freak Of Nurture 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what we can't have, maybe part of him misses you a bit or he just does it to aggravate you.
-NmD!
2006-10-25 06:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes not right change your #
2006-10-25 06:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by blueberry_coconut_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means the girl he dumped you for dumped him.
2006-10-25 06:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You looks to be more charming and entertaining.
2006-10-25 06:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋