Lastnight my two guy best friends from college (I haven't seen for two years), were in the area so stopped by to see my new house where I houseshare. Liam my boyfriend was here, and i introduced them, we sat in the lounge, but Liam was not happy at all. He said its coz one was my ex, but that was 2 years ago & I never slept with this ex, so why is he being so weird??
Anyway I woke up this morning with a note, saying he had bought wine for us to chat lastnight & i was to put it in the fridge and that i would be pissed off if the situation was the other way round & that he will see me in a few days......WTF??
(I met his ex when he wanted to go Iceskating with all his mates and she was there, and he knew she was there??!!!)
2006-10-24 23:06:37 · 29 answers · asked by Tamara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How could he possibly be mad at you when you look so gorgeous????
2006-10-24 23:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear, this is why they call it EGO.
You should feel quite chuffed actually, because he got so jealous he could not contain it. In all honestly & kindness, I think the situation with the iceskating was different because she wasn't IN YOUR space, if you get my meaning...
The fact that this other boy is your ex means somewhere there are "SEX FILES" floating in this other guy's mind - even if you didn't do it, you were "with" him for a while, and that, if a guy really likes you, is justifyable jealousy fodder.
If you care as much as he does, you just be your sweet self with him, tell him you understand he was upset but that really this guy means nothing to you anymore. And please, don't let exes into the house on your new man's territory - it is not polite, no matter how much you say you are friends. Neutral territory is best, and ALWAYS with your new man.
Blessings to both of you!
2006-10-24 23:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a tad paranoid. I wouldn't give him too much of a hard time about this but he has to get over the fact that you BOTH have had ex's.
If he did have a night in planned, then it's probably that issue that he's more annoyed about and the fact that one of your ex's messed it up just makes it a lot worst.
Do you normally plan nights to stay in & talk?
He'll mellow out and then maybe you can both talk later in the week .......
........ bloody hell, just checked out your previous comments and he sounds a right bundle of laughs.
He could just be a sad-lad & no matter what you do he'll continue to sulk etc. If he's been like this since you got together, then I'm thinking he'll always be like it. It'llbe very unlikely that you'll be able to change his behaviour, so I'd start thinking about the long-term and if you could cope with this guy for ever!
2006-10-24 23:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by nickthesurfer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under these conditions a man and his wife should be aware of the possible grave consequences and, through wisdom and understanding, repel any danger which could threaten their marriage or even their lives. They only need to be a ware of the potential danger and be able to think clearly in order to overcome their problems.
A man should give up his fanaticism and extreme jealousy. He must act logically. He must be aware that convicting his wife of adultery is not a trivial matter, and that such an allegation needs definite proof.
Keeping such things is not right, but this is a mistake that most young people commit and it is not a thing to be seriously concerned with.
If a woman is seen conversing with a stranger, although she is not right in doing so, this isolated event cannot be held against her as a proof of her unfaithfulness. This is because she might have thought it rude not to pay heed to that man, or he might have not been a stranger but a friend of her father or brother.
If a woman makes a compliment to a man, although she should not, it may be out of simplicity and therefore cannot be indicative of her unfaithfulness.
If a woman tells a lie about a relationship, or hides her letters, it may be that there is a good reason for it or she may fear her husband's groundless accusations.
If a woman has grown cold towards her husband, it may be that she is upset with him, that she may be ill, or may have other problems.
In brief, for all situations which may indicate symptoms of unfaithfulness, one can find tens of good reasons which render the possibility of any wrong doing as void.
2006-10-24 23:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I just think that ur boyfriend is jealous and possessive, he doesn't like the idea of u having guy friends, BUT he must realise that u have a past and u had a life before u met him. Dont worry about it, u did nothing that was wrong. U were with friends that u had not seen in a ling while and there is nothing wrong with that. Stay strong!!!
2006-10-24 23:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Base blonde 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are naturally more mature in the head than men, hense he's a jealous little boy who cant measure up to your maturity. Get the wine poured down your neck and track down your ex who visited last night - I bet there was still chemistry there after 2 years and admitt it - You had wondered 'What If' last night hadn't you??? Go for it, Forget the toe-rag with the note...
2006-10-24 23:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex, you haven't seen for 2 years knows where you live, this means you are still in contact with him, you don't say how long you were together for, you boyfriend to me would feel very insecure, to him you still may have feelings for your ex. He also had plans for last night and they got trashed by your ex, You also have a connection with your ex by all your memories. I tend to agree with Liam, sorry.
2006-10-24 23:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur boyfriend sounds like a right drama queen! a real laugh a minute! tell him christmas is coming up and there`s a panto on in town and that u`ve heard that they`re looking for someone to play grumpy out of the 7 dwarfs lol. or u could buy him a dummy for xmas but be carefu in case he keeps spitting it out lol. i don`t think i`d be able to stomach going out wiv someone like that. u must have the patience of a saint!
2006-10-25 00:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't meet his ex in his home. Why don't people get this??!! Saying hello to an ex when you run into them somewhere is just being polite. Having your ex in your home is crossing the line. You should apologize for being insensitive to his feelings and understand that this is not appropriate in a relationship.
2006-10-24 23:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some guys feel insecure, and also as he had arranged plans for you last night, he may be upset that he had to change his plans to accommodate your friends. Probably his ego is bruised, send him an email telling him who much you love him, and ask him to meet you for dinner tonight, somewhere quiet so you can talk. Or offer to cook dinner for him yourself.
2006-10-24 23:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God!! He sounds like a right moody, whingey bloke. He's obviosuly very insecure. Its his issue, not yours so don't beat yourself up about it. I'd be glad of a few days rest from Mr Moody.
2006-10-24 23:41:54 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋