how can an indian women take divorce?

Answer 1

A recent study reveals that women are opting for divorce if they feel they are in an untenable situation. And they are happier with the decision. Hyderabad Times finds out more...

Divorce is a painful and unhappy experience for both parties involved. That said, it is also true that where in the past the majority of women would bear it, today they are asserting themselves. It is, therefore, not surprising that a recent survey conducted by European Sociological Review has found it's the working women who have a higher chance of divorce than homemakers. Having fought at workplace for survival, growth and identity, isn't it natural that these women have higher expectations from both their partners and themselves?




Psychiatrist Shakila Naidu throws some light on the trend. "Financial independence is the biggest difference between the two groups of women. Financial dependence has been linked to submissive attitudes. Also, there was a certain amount of social stigma attached to those who rightfully asked to be acknowledged as individuals. Nowadays, the girl's family encourages her to end a meaningless or painful relationship, as a support system is already in place," she explains.

However, some argue that since the working-woman is on a financially sound footing and is more confident and satisfied – professionally – shouldn't they be more understanding about various life situations? Says Shakila Naidu, "Sometimes, the contrast between the woman's smooth professional life and compromiseridden personal life is too much. This leads to a sense of dissonance, which dissipates only once things get resolved either ways. There is a sense of loss but for this woman any compromise on the personal front would be anathema."

Marriage counsellor Kamlakar validates the findings of the study saying, "Most couples who come for marriage counselling are working couples." He feels that men, too, find themselves in a dilemma. "In keeping with the times, men want a smart working wife. On the other hand, the innate archetype is still alive and they also desire to be revered and waited upon by their wives." The best way to deal with the scenario, according to Kamlakar, is to try and figure out the expectations of both parties and be comfortable with each other before tying the knot.

In the 'honeymoon' period, couples tend to camouflage any feeling of unease or discomfort with one another. But soon, the rose-tinted glasses come off, and reality bites as the couple starts to fight over money and property. Does that mean the working-woman is materialistic? Another recent study suggests that post divorce, 18 per cent of men are unhappy but only 14 per cent of divorced women feel the same. Says Kamlakar, putting things into perspective, "It probably means that women are emotionally stronger. While working-women get over their feelings of dependence, men, owing to years of 'returning home to hearth and wife,' find it difficult to break clichés. As a result, even post divorce it's the men who find it harder to adjust."

Shakila feels that parents are increasingly encouraging their daughters to challenge stereotypes and take up different roles and occupations. "Independence training starts young," she says.

Milind Gokhale, an advocate, feels the law needs to change with times, "Most of the laws were suited to the era they were framed in. But today women have become smarter and are misusing the law against men. A woman can file a case of harassment against a man and action is taken immediately."

So, while alimony issues are still prickly with men claiming that women get away with a preferential treatment be it in terms of law enforcement or alimony, women are justifying the trend as both liberating and long overdue.
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Answer 2

Male 28 about to marry I Have seen your last post... don’t take any decisions with haste. I agree with you that **** is really bad habit but 70% of men do that. You can find the difference between answers given by male and female.. Females are seeing it as a great offence and suggesting you to take divorce. Males are telling it is natural... yes i to feel, it is natural but it is abnormal for a guy who is in 30's. I don’t know, why this difference between males and females May be he need counseling (your counseling). You can’t find a guy, who doesn’t have interest to ****. I am not telling you, by keeping affects after divorce in mind. It is better to divorce rather living with a guy, whom you don’t like. Take time and think again…. ALL THE BEST… GOD BLESSES YOU…

Answer 3

What do you mean by How can...do you mean they should not or do you want to know the procedure.
Its is a painful experience for any body to break a relationship but if the relationship is strained beyond repiar it is better to quit.

Answer 4

Divorce requires women to take charge of finances

Just as most people don't get burglar alarms installed until after they have been victimized, often it takes some type of major life change or transition to cause some people to become active participants in their own financial lives.

Divorce is clearly a major change that can act to force previously financially uninvolved women to take action. For many women, dealing with the financial impact of a divorce can be initially terrifying. Financial decisions made during a divorce may affect her for the rest of her life. This is a crucial time for women, if they have not been involved with their personal finances, to step up and become very involved.

There are certain steps women can take before and during the divorce process to help ensure as sound a financial outcome as possible.

One of the most important aspects is your mind-set. The financial side of the divorce should be approached as a business split-up. You are likely to make better choices and decisions the less emotional you can remain.

It helps if you are armed with solid information. If you are able to do some planning before you start the divorce process, you should begin gathering as much information as possible about your family financial situation. This includes documenting all that you own, owe and spend. Not only is it important to know what assets you have, but also that you understand them.

You should also understand the impact of your divorce settlement on your future lifestyle. There are many excellent books available and/or you may consider hiring a professional to spend some time helping you review your situation. You may also consider getting the support of a good friend who is financially savvy to assist you through the process by attending meetings and reviewing documents.

As you begin working with your attorney and/or mediator, make sure to maintain an active role in the process. Remember, no matter how good your advisors are, it is still your money and your financial future. You have a right to understand everything that is taking place with your case and, if you don't, to keep asking questions until you do. Keep a file for yourself of all your financial documents (your advisors should never have your only copy.)

This is also a time to continue educating yourself on financial issues that may be new to you. Read as much as you can, take classes and/or workshops. Many local high schools offer adult education classes on personal finances. The Lilac Tree, located in Evanston, is a not-for-profit organization that works with women going through divorce and offers workshops specific to divorcing women, covering legal, financial and emotional issues.

The more you are involved in the financial decision making during the divorce process, the better your chances are for ending up with a settlement that will make long-term sense for you.

Although it is not always possible, the best way protect yourself financially during the divorce is to be well-informed ahead of time. You should never sign a tax return that you haven't reviewed or that you don't understand. Similarly, you should understand investments and loans that are entered into during your marriage. Unfortunately, I have seen women leave a marriage in financial ruin as a result of being unaware of business dealings their husbands have entered into during the marriage.

You should also make sure that you have credit in your own name, not just in your husband's. This will be a lot more difficult to obtain after the divorce. In addition, if you are not employed, you should always have access to some money. Some women have found themselves cut-off financially by their estranged husbands.

Once your divorce is finalized, it is important to begin the financial planning for your new life. You may have investment decisions to make, planning to be done for your retirement and your children's education and a changed cash flow situation to adjust to.

Certainly women should not wait until there is a major change in their financial situation (such as death of a spouse or divorce) to become as financially involved and responsible as possible. There is no question that the sooner you start planning for your finances, and the more active a role you take, the better off you will be financially in the long run

Answer 5

find a good divorce attorney & file your papers in the court of law with convinsing reasons, that's it.

Answer 6

Through court.

Answer 7

Where do you want to take it to ?