My man is very stressed at the moment, working long long hours, and under alot of pressure. I am trying to support him the best I can, taking over all the household chores etc, listening to him talk, and trying not to add to the stress in any way. What else can I do to help him at this time? Men, what does your other half do to make life easier during the tough times?
2006-10-24 22:50:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-24 22:54:47 · update #1
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2006-10-24 23:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get snappy when they are stressed so I guess just letting them get the snaps out of the way would be good and appreciate why they are snapping but it seems like you are really conscious of his stress at the moment which is really nice. You could ask him what he needs and wants eg the type of dinner he fancies! How about running him a relaxing bath or giving him a massage. If he has weekends free you could always arrange a day out such as a country walk. It will help him escape life for a few hours! Good luck and well done so far!
2006-10-25 05:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by L B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel i was like that once having to work from 8am to 10:30 pm at night as i was self employed and had deadlines and targets to meet it was very stressful my wife was great just being there and sometimes she would organise something special like a meal at a restaurant and if i did not want to go she would say things like come on you will enjoy it and stuff like that.It gave us some time together and broke the stress a bit hopefully things will change for you both and he wont have to work such long hours and things will get better for you both good luck
2006-10-25 05:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by oG33MANo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has a stressful job and works long hours so we set a side one day of the week every week just for us. We use a diffrent theme such as the tropics and have a party just for us. Make a big dinner,bring out the special dinnerwear fancy glasses ect. We relax and talk give each other massages.I always dress up (so he's like WOW). It gives us time to connect. Also turn off phones hide your car so noone can interrupt you. It's nice to just be with each other and he knows I went out of my way to do it all just for him.
2006-10-25 06:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done most of teh necessary things to do and the worst you can do is to stop doing them, at least for now. The only thing left is to let him know that you were thinking about him while he was out there working. Let him know that you are supporting him to the full and that failure is not an option. Tell him you will be there for him till this 'cup' is over and assure him also that you are waiting for him to make it up to you when the stress is minimised.
Good luck Sister.
2006-10-25 05:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doing all you can already, Just try to make a big deal of the time you spend together, that always helps my other half, Ive been through the same situation many times, and bedroom time really does help men relax! Things always work them selves out so try not to worry about it to much. You'll both be fine. x
2006-10-25 07:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are doing a lot already and do not want to add to stress. You could try relaxing massages or if you have time go somewhere for a break to relax with him
2006-10-25 06:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what my bloke was doing and he said he needed a break, so im giving him space and time to sort himself out it might help i dont know. I think you should talk to him and ask him what he would like you to do, ask him if he needs space or if you can help him in any way, or you could get away for a few days together, clear your heads just spend some quality time together.
hope it works out.
2006-10-25 05:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by kxkx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cook him his faveourite meal, buy him a little present, have his slippers ready when he gets home from work and just generally pander to him for one night. He'll be glad to see that someone is there for him and that your thinking about him.
2006-10-25 06:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jemma A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some of his friends to call him up and take him golfing or something. A few beers after a fun day and he'll perk up. That's what my wife does.
2006-10-25 05:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by lataliano 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋