Surrogacy!!!?

Question

What do you think of women who have babies for infertile couples.

I am asking for myself as im about to become one and no it is not for money!

Answer 1

We thought about it as we'd tried unsuccessfully for ages and been told IVF was our only option (which doesn't always work and we couldn't afford it - you only get one go on the NHS).

We both decided against it though.

I just couldn't face the idea of some other woman having my partner's baby. I already felt like a freak and totally unwomanly because I couldn't conceive - and didn't even knowwhy as there is nothing really serious wrong with me. The idea of watching some wonderful, fecund "normal" woman get pregnant by the man I love would have killed me. I wanted to experience pregnancy and birth for myself and feared I never would

He also said he couldn't face someone else having his baby.

I probably would not have coped with it and wouldn't have wanted the baby as it would have been his and hers, not mine. I also would have worreid that he's have fallen in love with the woman who was having his kid - as he'd never have that experience with me.

Amazingly I managed to get pregnant naturally (now 33 weeks)

I think its an amazing thing to do and I feel they must really love being pregnant - I've found pregnancy really hard and couldn't go through it for someone else!

If the recipient couple can cope with it then its great but I think its a brave woman who can watch some other woman have her beloved's baby and then bring up a baby that looks just like her hubby and another woman.

Answer 2

I think its a wonderful gift but not something every women could do. I personally couldn't do it, I was a young mum only 17 and now pregnant with baby number 3, Pregnacy is a amazing experance of mother and child bonding, as long as you can emonionally attach yourself then its great. I just think it would be to hard to let go. I dont mean to sound negative I just hope you have really thought this through, I watched a movie once about it and it was to hard for the birth mother to detach herself, it was such a amazing true story, I found it very much how I would feel.

I am 22 weeks and I am kept awake at night because bub won't sit still, I just think well its all worth it all the aches and pains, plus all the wonderful experances that its going to be wonderful to finally meet the baby thats doing all this to me. I couldn't give the baby to someone else even if it was agreed. Make sure you really know what your doing.

I wish you all the best and hope its all perfect.

Answer 3

I think its the best thing ever.
I am a sperm donor but what i hear you are about to do i got to applaud you, regardless of whatever the reasons if in your heart you want to help these people then you yourself trully are a wonderful person.
I know that if i were a woman i couldnt do it, it helps others and i believe that its an option you choose to undergo and the law would earn more respect if it supported Life changing things such as surrogacy, i hope all goes well throughout your pregnancy for this person.
you eraned my respect with such a choice and good luck may you get all the help you need and once again good luck through the pregnancy.

Answer 4

I think they are wonderful people. I have one girl 3 and one on the way and i cant imagine what my life would be like if i couldnt have children. You go for it girl make someone very happy just try not to get too emotionally involved it could be very upsetting having to pass the baby over after you've carried it for nine months. Good luck

Answer 5

Maybe I'm weird or selfish, but I think there are quite enough people on the planet as-is.

Is it possible that infertility is a species-wide way of saying that we've overpopulated the earth, and that we're simply outsmarting ourselves with all these ways of forcing the issue?

Why can't infertile couples find it within their hearts to love an abandoned child? Why must they draw on the love for humanity of a surrogate to feed their own egos?

Medical care is also at a premium in this country, if not the world. There are people already here who suffer and need treatment, while our medicine men work hard to come up with ways to bring yet more people into the world.

I think you are a very loving and giving person, however your giving is misplaced.

Answer 6

I think it is a lovely thing to do for some1!

I personally couldnt do it as i would be attached to the baby after carrying it and giving birth to it. I would find it very hard to let go!

Good luck and i hope all goes well you will make 2 very happy new parents.

Answer 7

that they are amazing women who care and nurture the baby for 9 months only to give it away. i'm not sure i would be able to do something like that. in my opinion those couples who cannot have children are those that would make the best parents so i don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Answer 8

You are very brave i couldnt put my body through 9 months of pregnancy only to give the baby away at the end

Answer 9

i think its wonderful.
me an hubby cant have any more children due to me having to have a hysterectomy when i was 23.
we have none together and it makes us very sad.
we are both in our 30's and been married 3 years.
if we could afford it we would definately try a surrogate mother to have a baby for us.
i think its an amazing gift any woman can give to another woman

Answer 10

I think they are great wonderful. I'm not sure I would be able to do it .. but thank god there are women out there that can and will...although it always depends on why she is doing it, if its because of money I would be weary but I think its not unreasonable to pay expenses and a bit more.