How long would she stay quiet on me? How long should I leave it for? Anything I should/not do? What would she say when she gets back in touch? Will she get back in touch?
Anyone have previous experiences?
Thanks, I've never experienced this!
2006-10-24 22:29:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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Everything was fine the week before, we were in touch as usual (we usually txt each other everyday) and we're very close. She txt saying how she couldn't even touch another bloke when she went clubbing on Saturday. Said she didn't know what was going on with herself. When I asked her to meet up this evening for a quick drink she said no. Then she said she wasn't sure when we'd meet again and that she'll get in touch. I asked what the matter was, she told me that she's got a lot on her mind and don’t want me to contact her. We didn't argue or fall out over anything.
What’s going on with her? This has really surprised me!
2006-10-24 22:30:50 · update #1
PREVIOUS INFO FROM OTHER QUESTION:
P.s. thought this might help. We have kissed once, but she decided just to remain friends (I respected her decision and we've remained close friends). Everytime I mention a girl that I'm interested in she changes the subject straight away and does not seem comfortable with me telling her who I'm interested in (no dirty/sexual info). Also she always tells me that she’s not after any other blokes or that she didn’t pull anyone when she goes out. She's told me that the problem is NOT about another bloke-she’s made that quite clear to me. I'm male. Couldn't touch a bloke e.g. didnt want to chat anyone up/find anyone attractive/good enough (she's not gay-(trust me) from our conversations.
2006-10-24 22:31:13 · update #2
I still have feelings for her-not sure if she knows this though...
2006-10-24 22:32:07 · update #3
She has got bck in touch saying she is fine, but not sure for how long.Hopes that I'm ok. How should I reply?
2006-10-24 22:49:42 · update #4
Perhaps she has feelings you don't reciprocate and need time to get her head straight!
2006-10-24 22:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Both of us! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, especially as she didn't state why. Perhaps you could write her a letter? I know its a form of contact, but everyone enjoys a letter...just ask her if its something you have done, and explain to her that you are feeling the way you are and that you need to know what is going on. Maybe she has feelings for you, or maybe she is trying to figure some things out. There could be a million and one reasons but its not very fair of her to request this without giving you a reason first!
You should make an attempt to find out why, although if you decide to email/write/text, whatever, and you still don't hear after the first attempt, I would suggest waiting if you are really that close, because anything other than that she might view as harrassment
2006-10-25 05:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Resolution 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you - and for more than a friend but doesnt want to go further incase things go wrong and she loses your friendship. But her feelings for you are stopping her seeing other blokes and she doesnt want you to see anyone else. She needs time to herself, to think things through. You must give her the time and she will be back in touch soon as she'll really miss your texts/chats. Its tough for you but you need to do as she says an leave her be. If you contact her she will see it as being hassled and weakness on your part that you cant do without her.
When she does contact you again you need to be open and frank with her. Ask her straight WHY she is behaving like this.
Good luck x
2006-10-25 05:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she perhaps is interested in you but doesn't want to be! Just give her time - do not contact her - do as she asks and when she does get in touch do not ask her about what went on, let her tell you when she is ready - tell her you are interested in her if you are - do not play the good friend and end up loosing out to another bloke.
2006-10-25 06:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have previously experienced this, if u r a male then may be her parents have come to know about u . See their r many things that matter, let some time pass then she'll contact u, girls can't stay away for a long period of time, she luvs u
2006-10-25 05:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a break from you.
She's either bored stiff of you (no, you wouldn't have necessarily picked up on this) or she fancies you and it's doing her head in.
The fact she's politely asked you leave her alone for a bit is a good sign. I just stopped returning my 'friend's' calls when it happened to me.
Leave her alone, if she wants you in her life she'll get in touch. If she doesn't, she won't.
2006-10-25 05:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ermm that sound really odd! I've never done that before...well how long have you not contacted her for? Give it a week or so, and then maybe send her a text or something, saying that you're confused and hope you two can meet up or just chat sometime...
I'm not really sure this has got me stumped!
2006-10-25 05:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Queenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because your a bit of a scary stalker, your obsessed with asking about this girl and its a little weird....if you on any normal level give a s**t about this girl LEAVE HER ALONE, shes trying to remove you from her life in a nice way, get the hint buddy, move on let her be happy, and try to be happy your self.....
2006-10-25 05:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sadbh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you'll find its the other way round mate! I thibk she likes you more than she lets on which is why she told you that shoe couldn't b with any 1 else! She's now expecting you to run to her and if you really do care for her in that way TALK to HER!! Explain that you'd like to meet up to discuss something, but do it in private not in a bar
2006-10-25 09:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by madmoo0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Leave it go, she may have developed other interests and you may not be able to or want to change it. We all have other interests as we develop and mature. As long as you know you didn't do anything wrong to upset her and it wasn't your fault to correct, leave it go my friend, you may be the better for it.
2006-10-25 05:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with worker spouse it's really hard to see some-one often that doesn't feel the same for you. Or she doesn't return your feelings and is distances herself from you to save your feelings. Humans are such complex little beings.
2006-10-25 05:35:35 · answer #11 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋