what do you do if you like someone. but get almost nothing in return - or at least not as much as you give?
i accept + tolerate the way my friend is and don't expect the impossible. i like him lots. even kind of love him. never put pressure on him, just be there for him. but what you do when you get nothing in return (almost)? i feel down. i was desperate once, but then gained some distance. now i'm much better. but i think about giving completely up?? let him do the working. this would be so much "not me" still... i'm just sad and disappointed. he does not give much effort. he is a little "egoist", but a nice one, one i used to care about :)) but now i'm just powerless. little sad and disappointed. what would you do??
2006-10-24 22:02:27 · 12 answers · asked by india18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to tigrecub8: thanks. well, i actually DID date him... might explain a lot. so this is worst you say ;) ? yes, you are right. that's probably why my disappointment is so big. broken heart first + sadness. we have talked in the past and things got friendly and good. but still i feel like he does not appreciate me. feel like i spoil my feelings on him and there is nothing coming back. i don't expect. but i would appreciate it to just know i do him good -by being just here. but i get little signs that make me a little hopeless. he does like me, but takes my effort for granted and does not care too much i guess... well... thank you anyway your answer was good, take care :-)
2006-10-24 22:27:35 · update #1
In my personally opinion I feel though any person that has made you feel as though your powerless or depressed is not worth your heart.
If you think about it, he's acting like this now and you are not dating, if you started dating him it could possibly be worst. Alot of people treat others a certain way because they let them, I recommend backing away from him, and then maybe dropping the friendship. Good Luck, I know it's a hard decision with the way you feel but neither your friends or relatives should make you feel as though you feel.
2006-10-24 22:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tigrecub82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've already solved your own question. If you aren't receiveing anything in return then you should just give it distance. Because ultimately you have to make him realize that you arent gonna stick around forever he either has to make the commitement or not. And if he's stupid enough to decide not to make the commitement than thats his problem, you have to make sure that you are treated right and you find someone who will return your affection. Im sure it's disappointing when one's affections arent returned but luckily there are always other fish in the sea!
2006-10-24 22:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look for friends who enrich my life and I try and avoid those with nothing to give. On occasion, I have consciously chosen to be there for someone who, as I saw it, needed support. I have also had great friends go through rough spells in their life and I have chosen to stay by them. If you are hoping for a romantic love type relationship, I would run away from this guy. If you are talking friend, my advice appllies
2006-10-24 22:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Libby 44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is right for you. find the right distance so that you feel better in your self but unless he hurts you on purpose don't loose a friend. life without friends is not life at all. Look for love in other places. Remember if he's not interested in you it's his loss.
2006-10-24 22:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by aranrlackey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing. did you ever try to tell him what you feel? give up if you want to, no ones stopping you. is he committed to give the same to you, did you oblige him? He's not your boyfriend right? i mean, he's just your friend? if that's the case, let me just tell you this, he's not even your boyfriend and you expect him to give his soul or something???? i got it from a movie, but it does apply to you.
2006-10-24 22:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him wherever he is and whatever he is doing. it seems that that guy has got no emotions for u. so better stop playing around him. have ur own life and make him clear that u have a better life without his presence.
remm, u are a girl, be strong and determined. we girls should be powerful enough to crumble them under our toes. be strong..be a lady!!
2006-10-24 22:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't happy and feel like you deserve more. Friends should make you happy. You should find someone that will make you happy.
2006-10-24 22:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by monkeytreee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the first palce.. you don't have to spoil him by your friendship...... for me,,, i want to chher up... lay down your pride........ and being sad can make you depressed all times... you have to makeyousrself happy even if their is a emotional problem in your heart.. pray to God!!!!
2006-10-24 22:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by seven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignor them, leave them.
I have same problem as you.
I have few friends now mayb 1 or 2.
remember no one is perfect. you are not perfect.
live life. simple!
2006-10-24 22:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would look out for better friends and also would not spoil relationship with him. and then once i find my real friend then i would distance myself.
2006-10-24 22:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋