what do you do if you like someone. but get almost nothing in return - or at least not as much as you give?
i accept + tolerate the way my friend is and don't expect the impossible. i like him lots. even kind of love him. never put pressure on him, just be there for him. but what you do when you get nothing in return (almost)? i feel down. i was desperate once, but then gained some distance. now i'm much better. but i think about giving completely up?? let him do the working. this would be so much "not me" still... i'm just sad and disappointed. he does not give much effort. he is a little "egoist", but a nice one, one i used to care about :)) but now i'm just powerless. little sad and disappointed. what would you do??
2006-10-24 22:01:03 · 7 answers · asked by india18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
p.s. he is actually more than a "friend".. i did fall in love. he did too. but he was the one putting up a little distance but still likes me i think. circumstances were bad (i did not know then) now have to either tolerate or (after heartbreak and all this stuff) give up.. what do i do..
2006-10-24 22:12:59 · update #1
i am sorry for your friend do not care about you.
but i am sure that some day he will gather you.
my advice for you is-
01 let him know about your feelings for him. the iner feelings of any is highly respectful. it is what really beauty is. the beauty inside you is the feelings for him should not be kept inside.
02 try to understand him is he really do not like you? or mabe he is little bit shy (like me)or maybe somthing not serious. find it.
03 try to communicate with him.
i wish you both wil gather. bye
2006-10-24 22:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by bangla answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is a 2 way street. It sounds as if you're friend has gotten used to you doing all the work in the relationship so he's gotten pretty slack. The fact that you say you've been doing better since you got some distance from him speaks volumes - I think you've outgrown the friendship & you should get more distance. If he really wants to be your friend he will make a big effort to keep you in his life, otherwise it's time to move on & find peope who are happy to give you something back for being friends.
It is sad but there's not much more you can do to save this friendship & people do grow apart over time.
2006-10-25 05:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to ensure that he does like you in the way that you like him. If not then you are just wasting your time. Ever thought that he thinks that you are just too close to get into a realtionship with you. He might just think that you are too close of friends to distroy it with a relationship that might fail. Don't look at it as a bad thing you should try talking to your friend about how you feel and get some feed back. Maybe things might work out better but i think that you should let him do some more work because if you do everything then he wouldn't have room to do anything. Try to give the guy some time to think about this situation and deal with whatever he says. Don't loose your friendship either not over something like that if yoour think that your friendship is special.
2006-10-25 05:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is disappointing ... but so are you ! You can't be in a relationship if you look for rewards. Just do what you WANT to do and be happy to do it. All relationships are about giving. If you ever get anything back, it's just the whipped cream on the sundae of life. It may be difficult, but any expectations from another person are always doomed ! If it's too hard on you, then sever your ties. That said, it IS difficult if you are feeling USED.
2006-10-25 05:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it if he is your friend and tell him how you feel and if he values the friendship like you do then he will put forth effort to make you feel better but if not try to get over it and find a REAL friend. P.S never let anyone make you stoop to their level or make you do something that you know is not becoming of your personality always be yourself
2006-10-25 05:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie-Pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalo dear hota hey - its ok, relax and work more study more life will get back to normal
2006-10-25 05:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by mysterious guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r quite in my situation. just b wat u r. or else u just don talk with him. i mean if u don talk he'll miss u n he'll want to talk with u. he'll then realize ur importance in his life may be. if this doesn work then sit with him and talk abt all the probs clearly n calmly.
2006-10-25 05:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by DrAmA QuEeN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋