Had an "open relationship" with a gorgeous GF once, we had a "don't ask, don't tell" policy b/c I was so busy & she's a nympho. Had a great relationship w/lots of laughs & fun & travel, & a lot of mutual respect. Some of my friends showed interest in her & I was OK so long as they didn't "hog" her. We maintained a great friendship after I moved away. I never felt jealous, & she spared me her details (sure, I would have felt jealous if I had seen her in action). I'm not kinky at all either.
Only time I felt very jealous was when another ex flirted & slow-danced w/a guy in front of me all night, & I got over that pretty quick.
Never been jealous when someone was promoted over me or owns more goodies.
I experience most emotions from anger to joy, etc., but jealousy/envy is basically missing. Also missing are feelings of loneliness & boredom.
Other women have told me this is because I don't deeply love, etc., but I don't I believe them.
Am I abnormal?
2006-10-24 21:52:45 · 15 answers · asked by Babyface 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are above normal. Jealousy and envy have nothing to do with Love. You might need to try to find a partner that feels the same way or she may try to make you jealous. My wife and I share a non jealous relationship and are deeply in love. I would consider this a gift more than anything else. I have had women even jealous of my family. Those were the women that ended up cheating on me and leaving. Stay the way you are. Sounds like you are a pretty whole person to me.
2006-10-24 22:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by kstfas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really lucky if you don't feel jealousy. Jealousy is the fear of loosing something and is based on possessiveness. Wise people know that you have to let things and people enter and exit your life freely in order to have a happy life. But most people hold on to old things and people that no longer serve them out of the fear that nothing better will come along. I aspire to eliminate jealousy, loneliness and boredom and to be fine with whatever and whoever I have.
BUT, only you know if you were able to be cavalier b/c you do not really care. The lack of jealous feelings alone isn't the measure.
2006-10-24 22:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only abnormal if it gets in the way of your life and it sounds like it does not???? and jealousy/envy are such bad feelings I would be happy if I didn't feel them sometimes and wow no boredom or loneliness either, I would think you are super human not abnormal.................and do you feel like you have loved deeply????? and if you do the other women are probally just jealous cuz you got it so together
2006-10-24 21:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not abnormal! It is a good thing that you don't get jealous. It just means that you are not insecure in yourself. I do think that it also has to do with how much you care for these woman. I believe that once you find someone you really love, you wont be wanting to share her...lol
2006-10-24 21:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep a little abnormal to not feel jealou, but according to the details you have given, your relationship seems not very serious, so i guess she's not the girl you've planned on spending ur life with, i mean i think you are not actually serious about her-so it's ok not to feel jealous as long as this is an open, fun relationship.
2006-10-24 21:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you haven't met somebody who you can't afford to lose yet. In other words, maybe you haven't really been in love.
Maybe your life is great nowadays and you like it so much, which is a good thing.
And it's okay to feel the way you feel. Not being able to get jealous is really a rare thing, but don't be surprised when you do someday because it's in our nature as humans to be jealous :)
2006-10-24 22:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by girliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that right now you are endangering yourself you are a time bomb baby and when you explode its going to be big. From experience I didn't know how to show my feelings and I would get angry and keep it inside for a very long time and when someone constantly bothers me then I got crazy and really violent. Please don't let this happen to you and don't be afraid to express your feelings. You are not abnormal but you are too easy going show how you feel and don't be afraid to feel probably you are holding back too much for whatever reason. You would feel better inside trust me.
2006-10-24 22:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you are abnormal or anything. You dont know how to love. Thats your problem. You cant do anything to increase your sex appeal like what you do in GTA San Andreas by typing cheats. You have to improve on a whole to overcome ur present situation. I am sure tht u wont understand me now.
2006-10-24 21:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by aruk2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're unusual and probably all the luckier for it. I couldn't have an open relationship, like you did, but you knew what you were getting into and handled yourself well.
I think you are fine because you know exactly where your boundaries are and what you want from life.
Yes, you are unique and I'm a fan of yours!
2006-10-24 21:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by sirinae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that you are abnormal, just not that into them. I think that one day you will find a woman that you truly love and when you do you may start feeling jealousy.
2006-10-24 22:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋