like when a person is being possessive with another person? why so?
2006-10-24 21:24:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because when you have to control another person, you are afraid that if you don't they will laugh at you, or leave. Then you would feel stupid, or be alone.
That can't be allowed. Oh no!!!!
A confident person feels that their partner will stay because they enjoy being around you, and because they have enough interesting stuff in their life and love themselves enough (not conceit, a healthy, warm self love) that they believe that someone could love them. Perfection is not required, or even important. I'm here, love me if you want, if not, well,
I will move on, my best to you (is the attitude of the confident with good self esteem and self love).
http://www.feelinggood.com
It is all in the books on that site. "Intimate Connections" in particular. If you feel lovable, you will be (are). A person must make it possible for someone to love them. Don't watch them struggle.
Help them!! And in so doing, help yourself.
That was pleasant, but I'm hungry now, and am gonna make some pancakes.
Do you want some? Syrup or Jam?
Just kidding. At 5 AM, it's too early. TTFN.
BTW, controllers can turn agressive and abusive. They can hurt. If you are controlled, get out now! If you are controlling, see a therapist, and be honest, before you destroy more than one life, one of which will be yours.
2006-10-24 21:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Sweety
Jealousy and possessiveness are a sign of "insecurity" and control. It is the most common early warning sign of abuse.
One of the biggest problems people report in their relationships is having a partner who is too possessive. Possesive behavior is a sign that the relationship lacks trust or that the possessive person is very insecure. When you act possessive you are sending a clear message that you do not trust your partner and that you are handling that mistrust by being controlling.
2006-10-24 21:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by raveeshrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I defiantly think it is a sign of insecurity. I think that basically people are insecure in their relationship so they feel the need to "protect" the relationship from "outsiders". By doing that they come across as possessive. I personally don't mind a little jealousy, in fact I kind of like it...as long as it is very minimal. I would never stay with someone who try's to control me. Remember if they are possessive over just a girlfriend, imagine what he'd be like as a husband.
2006-10-24 21:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somewhat right. Possessiveness is a sign of insecurity.
Possession is a form of domination and control, stemming from selfishness. The possessor manipulates objects and others for his own purposes. Many issues of abuse come from co-dependent relationships, where one person feels the need to control the other. It's a lot like closed a fist, trying to keep a butterfly from flying away.
2006-10-24 21:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Viren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
It shows that they are insecure in the relationship and lack the confidence to trust their partner.
It can often lead to abuse and Emotional minipulation.
Many people who are insecure or possesive look for partners that they can control. It is often through a cycle of abuse and abandonment isssues.
Either way it needs to be sorted out before it gets worse.
Too many women think that it is a sign of affection or love but this is a very dangerous assumption. It does not have anything to do with the women. In fact it shows how little the person thinks of you. your just something that belong to them not something that has become part of their life and needs to be cherished.
2006-10-24 21:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by Faz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know [not merely think !] that possessiveness is not only a sign of insecurity, but also the sign of a built-in inferiority complex concerning one's own capabilities to win the trust and faith of other persons !
...Right from Sigmund Freud's days, all psychologists have agreed only upon this one point.
2006-10-24 21:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by IndyaBelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possessiveness is a mask for a fear of loss, abandonment -- which is an insecurity -- either real or imagined, yes.
Possessiveness is a 'damage control' type of behaviour. If I can't make someone love me, I will control them by being possessive-- which will keep them from leaving me.
2006-10-24 21:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer -"Yes".
Possessiveness is just jealousy in another form. Jealousy is only because you don't have enough self-confidence to believe the other person could possibly want to stay with you, then all the fear arise, then the jealousy, then the possessiveness.
2006-10-24 21:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Phil Ossofer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
possessiveness is a sign of love, but its the beginning of insecurity
2006-10-24 21:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes controlling men are often very insecure in the relationship. By being controlling they feel better and stronger. I think we should euthanize all controlling men and dissect their brains so we can understand them be. Don't you agree?
2006-10-25 11:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋