I'm not single, but have a plane ticket to go and visit a friend and I don't know what to tell my BF, ????

Question

I really want to go, just to take a break, im tired. Just want to see the sea again and relax.This friend-100% friendship! But I can't tell my BF it's a ''boy''friend, if I tell him I need to tell him its a girlfriend. Its really stupid! I just want a break for myself. I know its wrong to lie and I hate it. I don't know what to do??

Answer 1

The first thing you want to do is be honest with him ,,,, because the last thing you obviously want to do is end your relation ship with him,,,,, If he found out by himself or through other people (which might be embarrassing for him),,,,,Then you'd probably have some tall explaining to do ,,,,But I see nothing wrong with you having friends that aren't a part of your relationship with him ,,,, I'm sure he probably has people he knows that aren't a part of his relationship with you ,,,, You just can't expect him to stop talking to other women simply because you two are going together but that's a two way street too ,,,,, He can't fairly expect you to fold up and become dormant to the friends you have that aren't a part of the situation between you two ,,,,, You gave two reasons why you wanted to go though ,,,,, to see the sea again and to relax ,,,,,, Why would he have to know anything else ,,,,,,, Especially if this friend is really only a friend and you don't intend intimacy with him or anything else that would compromise the relationship ,,,,,,Then you've done nothing wrong to spoil things between the two of you ,,,,,Another thing you might consider is once you are there then you might call him for a general chit chat and just as an aside or by the way thing ,,,,,, you could just tell him ,,,,,,that " Oh by the way you ran across so and so and talked to him for a little while" ,,,, Any questions your boyfriend asked about it would give you a window of opportunity to tell him that your friend is only a friend and that's it ,,,,,,That would most likely disarm him and put his mind at ease and maybe prove to him that your intentions about your friend was pure and innocent because you bothered to mention it to him at all ,,,,,(Big question),,,,, Wouldn't you expect the same thing if your positions were reversed ?? But that if you didn't mention it ,,,,,,, just might give him cause to be suspicious ,,,,,, If he does take exception to it though then maybe it's time for you to take another look at him and desided just how closed minded he is ,,,,,, I can see where this would be a hard nut to crack though ,,,,,,, But it's your call ,,,,,,,, no one can make it for you ,,,, I don't know how you'll rate this answer but I do hope this reasonning helps ,,,,, Good luck ,,,,,,,, Yoda said that ,,,,,

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with taking a break/holiday and we all need to do it, but seeing another "guy" and then having to lie to your boyfriend is not good.

What's more important - the holiday or seeing the other guy?
Then you need to ask yourself - where does my boyfriend fit into all of this?
Why can't he come with you?

I don't think lying to him is going to help. It's deceitful, and chances are, you are going to be filled with a ton of guilt on the trip and when you get back.

My suggestion. Either tell your boyfriend what you are doing
or ask him to come along

Better still, go on your own or wait until your boyfriend can come along too.

Good relationships are based on honesty and truth not lies
and deceit.
Holidays are good but they should never be taken to get away to see others behind your b/friend's back.

Be fair to him. What if he did this to you?
best of luck!

Answer 3

Oh girl, you are so lucky, I would love to go see my " friend". Tell your bf that you are going to visit family or old friends and that he can call you anytime. Have a great time on your trip and bring me back a sea shell.

Answer 4

the best thing i have always found to work , is to be honest. tell your BF that its a male friend that you want to go see. just explain to him what this trip will mean to you. everyone needs a break once in a while. in the end he will undrestand. he may not like it but never the less, every thing will be ok.

Answer 5

just be true and tell him the truth.Why unnecessariliy u r creating mess in ur relation.And ask him too if he likes to accompany u..

Answer 6

he should not put you in the position where you have to lie to him if there is no trust there is no relationship
you don't want the guilt trip ether

Answer 7

if your life with this one sucks that bad, kick him to the curb befoe you go.

Answer 8

All girls have a secret they will rather die then tell their bf, so die die don't tell, k?