This man is 39 years old from India and work in hospital in Saudi Arabia. He proposed my friend to marry her. He told my friend that he's never been married.They've never meet in person. They met online through dating site.They're writng each other everyday back and forth for about a month or so now.
My friend is 53 years old widow and has three children of her own. Now how this relationship going to turn out if she cannot give him anymore kids. According to my India friend an India man accustomed that a wife can give children to her husband. If not he'll find another woman. My friend told this man about the situation and he said to her that he does not care about the ages different and if she can't give him children. I just wonder if this man married and has children and just want to come to united states. I just want to know what do you think regarding this situation. Is this really true and honest love?
2006-10-24 21:03:10 · 28 answers · asked by rauma_raumamary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope... i don't think so. Words on a letter can be very deceiving!
2006-10-24 21:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by beccysan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They really need to meet and get to know each other. Just sounds as though he is trying to get into the country. I believe that they would need to prove they had met at least twice before the authorities would even consider allowing him to stay in USA after marriage. Also their age difference would be a cause for Immigration to suspect him. You can check with immigration via the web.
I know this as i was planning to marry a man I met online. We did meet up before we made plans though and sadly real life does not always match up to the online fantasy. Fortunately 2 yrs on... he and I both found partners in our own country and now happily married.
2006-10-25 04:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by mermaiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not true love, it's true stupidity.
Your friend probably gets a boost out of that internet romance but it's not real. More than likely this man knows exactly what to say.
Even in the rare chance that he's telling the truth, they need to spend a LOT of time together in person!
Seriously, what's wrong with finding a man living a bit closer to her? ;)
2006-10-25 04:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by sirinae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds fishy.
You might conceivably be able to fall in love in a chatroom, but marriage is a commitment that needs you to know a heck of a lot more about a person first. How on earth can they know whether they can live together for 30 years or more without even having met?
If he really loves her, then if she expresses her doubts he'll tone it down and be happy to meet her and get to know her. If they still want to go for it then, good luck to them!
2006-10-25 04:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by gvih2g2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been around the blocke a few times and these relationships almost NEVER work.
The man is wanting to get in to the country.
He is looking for a vulnerable woman. And he found one.
I sure hope she hasn't sent him any money or given him her bank account number so he can deposite money....then he cleans it out.
I have had so many men from overseas tell me that they love me, want to take care of me, and they want to marry me. I know they are just wanting to get in the country.
I am 56 yrs old and I get 24 yr old guys from india who want to marry me.
I am concerned about your friend.
Show her this
2006-10-25 04:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Will marrying her get him a visa or some other sort of legal papers? Does he have a job in our country, or one that will transfer here? I'd say... if he wants to be with her, he should come to our country on his own, and establish himself on his own... then if he still wants to be with her, I'd say OK, that's cool, it wasn't because of something she could give him in terms of legal status in this country. He could be one of those professional internet scammers, or worse, someone with terrorism interests who just wants an easy way to get into our country. She should be very cautious, as the CIA and the NSA could be monitoring all her communications with him.
2006-10-25 04:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by pair-a-docs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience he is after a VISA. She will be even more miserable after. It's sad to say but it happens a lot. I and many of my friends have been victims like this also. However there are the occasional diamonds out there so tell your friend to be careful and keep looking.
2006-10-25 04:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by John T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's seems to be something really wrong with it and the idea of him wanting to come to the US is not far fetched at all. Your friend should be more cautious and not just take anyone's promises as if they were true. Besides, she doesn't even know him.
2006-10-25 04:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way can it be any sort of love and she should not fool herself thinking that it is. She should just chat on line and not let herself believe that anyone is interested in this sort of situation. He is after using her for something and I would not let myself hang around long enough to find out what it was.
2006-10-25 07:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It is fine that they like each other and have developed an emotional attachment, but they need to interact physically. They may be totally incompatible after they experience each other in person. For example, one may be neat, the other messy. Little things can become big things if they aren't taken into consideration, and the little things won't be known unless they spend physical time together.
2006-10-25 04:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dear oh dear - why do people never learn. There is only one way to truly fall in love and that is is too actually MEET someone - not read words from a piece of paper. xx
2006-10-25 04:05:55 · answer #11 · answered by starlet108 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋