My hubby really wants to have another baby?

Question

& so do I. But I am not sure about the timming. Our daughter is 4, our 19 month old is in speech theropy & can not yet talk or communicate. I want to be able to help my son as much as possible, & some docs say he may never talk. Also he is wants a baby so he can have another girl, but what if it is not. Every time he brings it up, he gets very cold when I tell him that I am not sure yet. What do you think

Answer 1

I think he,s scared about your son,s out come with speech therapy and he wants to prove to you he can make a regular baby again,Tell him,Your son,HE

Answer 2

Leave him alone. You have a 3 month old baby you need to concentrate on. Having 2 babies in the house is very stressful. Most people wait until their first is at least 1 or 2 to have another anyway. Your husband said "with the stress of it all not just yet". That's saying he wants to wait. He said that about the condom because he's okay if it does happen, but if not then it's okay too. My advise is to wait if there is stress on your family or your husband. He just went through an ordeal, along with you, watching you have a baby. It's very hard even on men to support a woman, knowing there's nothing he can do for you in pain, worrying if you're even going to survive the childbirth. Give him some time to recouperate and calm the stress.

Answer 3

hi there you really have to make this decicion together you seem to be stressing out ,which wont help you at all you need to take a big step back and have a good think on what youre home life is like is youre husband always there helping you with the kids or is he the kind of father that has something to do with the making of the kids then sits back and does sod all and leaves you to get on with it ........if he is the kind that leaves you to get on with it ........i really can understand why youre being so unsure of things .....but if he does help and support you then heres my next point youre little girl will be starting school soon so you will be able to have time for youre son and the new baby ....if thats what you want ..and youre little girl will get her time when she comes home from school and believe me you will be suprized how much a wee thing of 4or 5 years old is willing to help,now as for youre husband sit down with him and go through it all over again with him and tell him how you feel and if he starts any crap tell him how can you want anotherchild when youre actin like one !! he wont like that but he might take note and wake up a few brain cells !!?? i hope that doesnt sound to hard on youre husband .......good luck with son and i hope things improve for him ,mind you there are other ways that he will communicate with you ....my younger sister cant talk ,but by god can she get her point across......you take care xx

Answer 4

He could be more understanding, but at the same time, he may be thinking - if not now, when? How long will you make him wait? You said yourself your other child may never get better, and I'm sure his condition is not causing you to neglect your eldest child, and wouldn't cause that for a new baby. I say go for it; a little sister might help your youngest, you never know!

Answer 5

my mum had three of us in three years, not intentionally and we turned out well. I have two children 9 years apart ( have pso) and wished i had had mine closer together.

It may take sometime to conceive another child, if you really would like another go for it. Your son is still very young, there is help out there for him which you are getting, children are very good at adapting and a younger sibling would be good for him.

At the end of the day it is down to you what you would like, but there are no guarantees that it is going to be a girl. My cousin has 4 boys and finally for them a girl !!

Answer 6

wen u both want a baby i think u can go a head and tell u r hubby that he should take care of u r son if he wants another baby.and many babies start to speak only the in the age of 5,6 so dont worry u r son ill surely speak.

Answer 7

I think it's smart of you to want to put your efforts into th 19 mos old before moving on. You need to expand you're explanation to him and come to a compromise that you'll will try to have a baby when the doctor gives you more info. on his condition good or bad.

Answer 8

no offence, too many people in this world as is, DONT name it michael if you do,dont start thinking your gonna do it better this time, be sure if you can, and finaly consider the obvious. its your body-you make the call.

Answer 9

Best advice...........deal with the kids you have. It aint cheap nor is it easy to rationalize.

One possible problem at a time..............seems prudent.

Answer 10

good things are worth waiting for