2006-10-24 20:44:34 · 13 answers · asked by dajyde 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
They are either ashamed of their situation (they think they deserve it or are ashamed that they can't handle it alone) or they are afraid that when they tell anybody they will be abused even more severely...
2006-10-24 20:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several Reasons.....
They may be afraid of being found out and harmed before anything can be done. They may also have been brainwashed in to believing that the person who is abusing them loves them and would never do it again. They may think people will not believe them or even look down on them for not handling a "personal" problem in a "private" way. On the other hand I have also witnessed a case of spousal abuse where the person being abused stayed and the abuser stopped after getting help.
These are just a few that I can think of off the top of my head. Look in some sociological articles or go to abuse websites, they have lots of information on why people stay.
2006-10-25 03:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they are adults in an abusive situation, the abuse usually starts out slowly and eventually it wears down their self esteem.
They will sometimes think that they deserve it or convince themselves that it "isn't that bad". Sometimes they are financially dependent and feel as though there is no alternative or that they will never find somebody who will love them. Also, they may be so afraid of the threats the abuser makes, like to take the children, kill them or the children, their pets etc.
With children, the abuser usually manipulates them into thinking that it is their fault, that nobody will believe them, that it's "normal" or that by telling it will cause shame or injury to them or their loved ones.
2006-10-25 03:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They find it embarrassing to admit that the situation is completely out of their hands and that they cannot defend themself. Or they are afraid of what the abuser could do to them for notifying authorities and getting them in trouble.
2006-10-25 03:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by beccysan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the abuse that occurred has caused them to become insecure and they tend to believe that they deserved the abuse and it was their own fault and doing. Mental abuse is the worst kind and the most difficult to prove.
2006-10-25 04:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by gwendalynnfuchs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the time they are threatened with recourse such as harm or death by their abuser.
2006-10-25 15:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our society doesn't treat victims well, and we seem obsessed with the rights of criminals. There are many reasons, children often feel they are to blame, some people are ashamed even tho they are not to blame.
2006-10-25 03:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
fear. that they won't be believed. or that the abuse would get worse. or that they think no one can help. or don't know who to turn to. or they have no where else they think they can go. or there are children involved. or they have been threatened if they tell someone.
2006-10-25 03:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they are afraid of the abuser.... and the abuser takes advantage of this fact....its a vicious circle
2006-10-25 03:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
they feel embarrassment shame and fear and don't wish to relive the pain and trauma that they went through.
2006-10-25 04:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋