My boyfriend and I have been together since last September. We have talked about having a family together from the beginning and fell in love quickly. He has to be out of town for business a lot now.
Anyway, last Thursday he told me he would be here Friday morning and so he told me I could sleep at his house so that I would be there when he got home. I live two hours away from his house here. When I got there I saw a print out of his emails back and forth to a woman from a dating site in February. He was obviously leading her on a little, and never mentioned me. I left and drove home that night and didn't call him. The next day he figured out I found it and drove to my house to talk to me. He told me he met her for lunch (for two hours) and then sat on his tailgate and talked for "the afternoon". I emailed the woman and she ended up calling him and not emailing me back. He said he didn't answer or call back but I don't believe him. What should I do besides "dump him"?
2006-10-24 20:16:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add she emailed him first and when he asked me what he could do about it I did say "call her back on speakerphone and let me listen" but he just said "I'm not calling her back."
2006-10-24 20:23:44 · update #1
I am not a vengeful person... He still wants to be together and said he would "be willing to work his a$$ off to make it up to me"... it just feels different to me.
2006-10-24 20:32:00 · update #2
He sounds like a real player. If u want to stay with him, that's up to u but don't be surprised if he pulls this trick again on u.
2006-10-24 21:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you met him on the dating site also, or did only he sign up? Do you know what date he signed up? If he signed up after meeting you, you might have to dump him. If you were dating others as well, then you should be understanding about it.
Also, he did ask you what he can do, and you told him that you would feel better if he called her. So he really isn't doing everything he can to make you feel better. Obviously they spoke about it and it wouldn't be so wierd if he called her back and just said something along the lines that he appreciates she letting him know and that he and you have talked and are dating now and are working things out. That's it. If he doesn't do that, you would have to really wonder why.
If he hasn't gone off the dating site, he could be meeting woman in other cities. So you have to know what kind of man he is.
2006-10-24 21:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously a cheater, even if its not physical yet. Think about it, its probly not the first time, its just the first time he got caught! He was obviously not smart enough to even hide it, did he want to hurt you, or want you to find it? What was he doing at lunch and contacting other women? Cheaters get a sick little thrill out of their secret, and deceiving the one they supposedly love, and for some reason there are women out there who like being that secret lover, so even if you talked to her and no matter what he might tell her in front of you, they will do it anyway. Why would you want to stay with this guy who obviously doesn't respect you? You deserve a lot better and there are a lot better men out there! Not to mention what you can catch from an unfaithful lover!
2006-10-24 21:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't your boyfriend. He is probably juggling girls all over the place.
If he can't stop the personal sites...he isn't mature enough to be a boyfirend for you or anyone.
Be glad you caught him now and not after you are married with a baby and a broken heart.
Move on......quickly
2006-10-24 20:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if there are children involved you have to think about them. If you guys do not have children. then stay with him and get u a friend on the side let him see how it feels. I would even call the lady myself and see what's up. i'm positive she will be more truthful than your husband
2006-10-24 21:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not just leading Her own he is Playing you and her and leading you own too...He is the kind that wants his cake and eat it too.This kind of guy needs to be single....Don't let him bring you down with him...This is call mental abuse...And it will hurt your self esteem...And destroy a part of you...You may never get back because of this jerk...Now the both of you SHOULD no by now you both are being played...Drop the loser and find a winner they are out their and mark this up as a blessing And a less ion
2006-10-24 20:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably take some time out to really consider if it is worth staying. Can you forgive him? Really think it over, because if you DO, you can't bring it up every time you get angry, or feel insecure about something.
Give yourself some time to think about it.
2006-10-24 21:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy, that you found out their relatioship earlier, even before you have a family together. Is'nt it a blessing in disguisse.
2006-10-24 20:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dumping him is good but getting even is better - show him you don't deserve a dishonest & unloyal lover. Enjoy your new found freedom. Go out & meet new guys, go on friendly dates, & watch him rot!
2006-10-24 20:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by lette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is harsh. I say, make him call her in front of you and go from there.. Wow.. Men, never cease to amaze me how messed up they can be. I'm so sorry..
2006-10-24 20:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Gina C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋