Mom's going through menopause...HELP?

Question

My mom is driving me crazy. She's has mood swings, hot flashes (and turns off the heater) and is seriously loosing her mind. She's forgetting everything; to turn off the stove, shut off the water fascet, get her coffee out of the microwave... Is there anything over the counter she can take to help with any of these symptoms, since she won't ask her doctor. She's a nurse, but she's also one of those ppl who make up every excuse not to go to the doctor because she already knows what they are going to say. She also having a difficult time accepting the fact that she's going through menopause. For any women out there, who's gone or going through it; why is it such a hard reality to grasp?

Answer 1

Because it's the end of our girlhood. The end of things that used to set us apart from the boys. Just the idea that we could still have a child, if we wanted to, is somewhat comforting, even though we've convinvced ourselves that we're really too old to even think about the idea. We know that our body is shutting the factory down, so to speak, and we don't know how to deal with it. On the one hand, we're happy 'cause we don't have to visit the sanitary products isle at the store anymore. We won't miss "the curse". We won't miss much of what "that time of the month" did to us. But, to never be able to have a baby again. It can upset many women even more than they realize. Then, you got those hormones bouncing around inside of us, causing us to freeze one minute and roast the next. You get up in the night, sweating like crazy, while everyone around you has icicles on their noses. You cry one minute, then yell at the dog the next. Everyone walks on eggshells around you because they don't want to set you off, like some flesh-covered bomb. My mom was a nurse, so I know the boat you're in. She said doctors were idiots and didn't know as much as they pretended to know. That's why she's pushing up daisies right now, instead of enjoying her grandchildren. She treated her own illness once too many times, waiting too long to get help, then it was too late. She died of uterine cancer when I was 17. Put an arm around mom and tell her you love her, but you want her to at least look into some natural means of getting her through this very difficult stage of her life. Encourage her to talk to women who have successfully gone through the stages, with a minimal of collateral damage (all family members survived!). Tell her that you want to help her through this because you want to know how to get through it for when it happens to you. She just might remember that her job as mom isn't over, as she thought it was. She still has much to teach you. <*)))><

Answer 2

honestly, i've had the same experience but not with my mom..it's with my aunt when i came to live with them for a while when i was working. It's a really hard situation to be in because we can't seem to understand what they are going thru. I took up nursing in college..but my knowledge did'nt seem to help at all. It was like living with someone who's nasty and really mean. She always had her eyes on me and would often have this suspisions which is baseless and would often make a big fuss about petty things. It was like being in a war zone, only that there is no war.LOL!
But the main thing here sis, this won't be for years...people who go through menopause are having a hard time adjusting to the changes in their bodies. It'sd a complicated thing to explain but has something to do with hormones...it's like the hormones are in war themselves. Don't worry, this will come to pass. Just be patient with her and help her adjust. Don't take it against her because i am sure that she doens't like the changes either.
As for medicines, well, you can go ask a doctor yourself what's the best for your mom. Goodluck!!!

Answer 3

I would never disrespect my mother (God rest her soul) that way. I'm sorry I just do not find that at all humorous to prank a parent like that. Speaks so well for the son doesn't it?

Answer 4

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Answer 5

get some RENOVA ...it is over the counter medication..no hormones..and it will help. K-mart sells their own brand for a lot less...I think 6.00 for a package.
Be patient. Your mom loves you.

Priscilla
a 47 yr old mom

Answer 6

wonderlabs.com has valerin or black coshash is in some teas. Make you mom some tea to sweeten her up. It is like the teenage year when the frontal lobe of the brain falls off except we anciet instead

Answer 7

what ever she goes through...my advice is DONT let her go onto hormone replacement. there is just too much of a link with cancer - I know at least 5 woman off the top of my head who got cancer after hormone replacement. but she's a nurse so she would hopefully know that and would hopefully research thoroughly before thinking about that route.

Answer 8

I think my mom has been going through menapause my entire life. She will total blame me for stupid crap now and I'm 29. She finally went and got some what she calls her "anti-bit.ch" pills. lotta good that did for her. shes been on them for years. Shes still mental.

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Answer 9

well, now you know what she wentthrough when you were going through puberty. My sister swears by black kohosh, and st john's wort for her symptoms. I was lucky, I hardly had anything more than a little PMS and a few hot flashes

Answer 10

I am a genetic male...male to female transsexual...56 years old... going through menopause AND puberty at the same time. And you want ME to answer this question? (not joking. all above is true and medically documented)