we started chating online and i like her, i asked her if we should meet and she said she's gonna think about it, and i also asked for her picture, which she sent, and i also sent her my picture, the following is the e-mail she sent me and the reply i sent her, do you think i did the right thing?
Jwaly to san
Hi there,hope i'm not bothering you.You won't believe what happened! i wrote so well it seemed like a miracle.It was evrything we discussed in the class,you don't know how excited i am to be relieved at last,only one subject left.
I've been thinking about what you said last time.I need to tell you something.The pic that i sent is not me,i honestly didn't have a pic of myself then.I look nothing like that.I'm new to this chat thing so i was a bit sceptical about it at first.Evrything is true about me except for that.Eish i feel so bad for doing that to you,pls forgive me.The other thing i'm not sure about you coming here,it doesn't seem right.Let's give it some time.You see i only wanted a friend,i don want us to rush.
If you want us not to continue anymore ,it doesn't matter(that will be fine with me).As much as i wanted to be your friend so much(i enjoyed chatting to u so much & i felt so relieved after chatting to you,your honesty & sweet msgs) it's gonna be a problem for me.I'm very sorry for wasting your time.Bye
San to Jwaly
Hi, I'm glad that you wrote well, i knew you were gonna do it, one more exam and you are home free, keep up the good work and continue studying hard.
I understand that you only want a friend and i honestly respect that, i don't want to pressure you into anything, you should do something because you want to do it, not because someone tells you to. But what i don't understand is why you lied about your picture, i mean you could have told me that you are not ready to show me how you look like, I think that's better than lying, the problem i have is a lot of people have lied to me time and time again, including my ex-girlfriend, she also took advantage of me by lying to me, and when someone lies to me, then it means that that person is taking me for granted and doesn't respect me. I liked you because i though you were a genuine person, i'm not so sure anymore. You have to understand that i value trust and honesty very highly.
Your last sentance "As much as i wanted to be your friend so much it's gonna be a problem for me", i'm not sure if you are saying its gonna be a problem if you are my friend or if it's gonna be a problem if you are not my friend. And it seems to me that you don't want us to continue chatting anymore "that will be fine with me".
I know that you only want a friend and i can be that friend, what i want is an honest person, that's all. I hope we can still chat tomorrow so we can discuss this further.
Good luck with your last exam tomorrow, you are gonna do great.
Till next time.
2006-10-24 19:59:56 · 10 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I know she lied to u in the beginning, but atleast she admitted it to u.Its obvious that shes new at this and doesnt trust ppl on the net(which is a good thing). I think ur mail was fine.I think she feels that ur rushing the friendship a little too much.Just give her some space.
2006-10-25 05:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is interesting that u ask this. I have a friend who is so much more comfortable talking with me by chatting than she is face to face or even on the phone. I say that this is a good e-mail from you and I hoep it turns out well. Talk to eachother about the lying and other issues about each other you might have. If it is just an online relationship than honor it as such and don't push the meeting.
2006-10-25 03:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by tcountry69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want anything other than a chat buddy and if you really wanna be real with someone, go outside in the real world and meet a person face to face. Most people so not act the same on the computer as off.
2006-10-25 03:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the wrong thing...Really, you shouldn't just start posting personal emails on the web like that. Especially if they're from a girl who didn't even want to send you her picture anyways. I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate you publicly posting any feelings she may or may not have.
2006-10-25 03:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by ksm_52180 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it took an enormous amount of courage to write that email and you should be commended for that. As humans we want people to like us and we often pretend to be something that we are not in order to achieve this. You are a wonderful person and I wish you luck with everything you endeavor, God bless.
2006-10-25 10:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I knew more people like you. You were honest without being cruel and left it up to her to make the next move. It was the right thing.
2006-10-27 12:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Shanna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing Bud, Don't lie about yourself..........they're are plenty of women for you out there, the internet is a smorgasbord for men and women.
Secondly, learn to use the spell check, and use better pronunciation.
Third and last, get use to being single..............you'll be good at it!
2006-10-25 12:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by battle-ax 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you did a wonderful job at this and like u say everyone should be honest
2006-10-25 05:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by fran m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably does not want to meet you because she looks NOTHING like the pic she claimed was her.
2006-10-25 16:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by Priscilla M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay online friends....sounds like she does not want to meet you in reality.
2006-10-25 03:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋