Always unhappy at work?

Question

I just step into the working society. I am totally unprepared for backstabbers, liars, mean boss who treat staff like dogs. Sometimes i will cry secretly in the toilet and at night. I don't know why~ but i feel so unhappy having to work. Money doesn't give me the motivation. I know one has to work to keep ourselves occupied but i feel so lost in my direction. Even if i quit i might not be happy. So i live in fear.... i don't know what tomorrow might be. Anyone feel the same too?

Thanks for all the answers. It really brighten me up to know that this situation is not going to be forever. Whether i'm happy or not will depend on myself.

Answer 1

hi yep I do I work with some nasty women and i'm 40!1 sounds like your young were you bullied at school and feel the same way now as you did then?
Get some counciling if you think some old fears are hanging around hyponotheraphy for confidence is great I have it twice.
Keep the job til a new one comes

Answer 2

There is always different type of people in your workplace but you have to learn to copw with it. No matter how many job you change, you will still face the same problem.
Basically you have to learn to defend yourself against backstabber, liar etc which is not an easy task. Quitting your job is not a solution to resolve this problem. You have to take things one at a time until you have enough experience and you can start considering a move which may be beneficial for your career.
Hope it can be some use to you

Answer 3

yeah ive been there, i really truly hated a couple of my jobs and i used to dread going in every day. when the alarm would go off in the morning, i would just get this sinking feeling knowing i had to face another day.
I think you should start looking for another job...not every place has the mean boss and backstabbers, i mean there's always going to be some people you dont like but thats life, just talk to them for work purposes and only when you have to.
If its the actual work you hate too, why not try a different career direction, you could start a course at night or online.
Also if possible in your situation why not travel for a bit - it puts everything in perspective.
The one thing that used to keep me going was the fact that i knew i was going to get out at some stage.So whether your studying something to change career, looking for a new job or saving to travel..just the fact that you know you are being pro-active to change your situation will make you feel better, and you can remind yourself every day that you wont be in this job forever.
Also maybe you should go have a talk wit your doc, cos it sounds like its really getting you down and they may be able to help with the stress - just even talking to them about it will make you feel a bit better i think
good luck

Answer 4

you need a different job!! I have been working for at least 30 years, you may find this hard to believe, but I have only had 3 jobs in my life where the boss was ok, 2 where the drama was almost none, and my present job, where the work load is demanding, but my boss is great, and I don't dred going, and don't leave stressed....been there one year and 2 months, that's all....worked at a place for 4 years prior, when my boss died unexpectedly, and owners wife took over, drama started, this job popped up, and I took it. Look for a better job while your at this one...I don't particularly like working with a bunch of women myself, there is always drama in the work place....where I work, I don't have to thank god!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Don't quit your current job, but start looking for other jobs that fit closer to your interests. Yes, unfortunately the workplace often does have backstabbers, etc. People who are so insecure in themselves that they have to make sure others are put down in order to ensure their own position of value. Sounds like you already know you're valuable, but lack the life experience that will allow you to understand that we humans coexist with a vast myriad of different personality types. Our choices are... learn to understand them and work with their styles, or become vicious and conniving and out-beat them at everything, or hunker down in fear and change jobs every other week. Personally, I'm not against changing jobs especially when one is new to the workplace, but my best advice is... it's easier to get a new job when you are already working than it is to quit, hunt the classifieds or the job service agencies, and explain in an interview why you quit the previous job. Just don't take it personally when others behave in the only ways they know how, stay above the lies and mean people, and realize that not everyone knows how to creatively relate to others. You're going to find that great job, and even if you don't like all your co-workers you're going to be able to work with them professionally because you know that professionalism and understanding will reign. You express yourself well with your words... please let me recommend to you that you work just a little bit more on your written technique; this will help you in future jobs, and in constructing your resume. I am impressed with your ability to succintctly state your emotions. You will go far in life.

Answer 7

Firstly, you need to identify what is your problem? What cause your unhappiness at work? Fear? Anxiety? Insecurity?

Suggest you seek professional advice from a counselor to identify your problems so that you can treat them accordingly and move on with your life. You are still young, the road ahead is long.... take control of it, don't simply let fate or fear stop you from leading a life that you deserved.

Answer 8

be strong.

try to make allies at work. get emotional support from family/friends.

i'm going to enter the working society soon. kinda anxious myself. i try to distance myself from backstabbers and liars (and surely not everyone is like that), but i guess you'll have to put up with the boss (if you want to keep the job).

Answer 9

My Friend,
I have an answer for you. You have to be positive towards life. I would advise you to grow confidence in yourself. I am sure this phase of life will go away with time, but you must start loving your work. As and when you start enjoying your work you will start liking your boss colleague and others around you.

Thanks and regards. Do write to me should you benifit from my ideas. Bye Saikat Banerjee

Answer 10

sounds like your depressed - go and see your GP and explain how you feel.
you probably need a change in direction/career - in which case, be proactive - change what you dont like in your life. its your life, its up to you to make the changes to be happy.