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i'll make this as brief as I can..my gf of two years left me a couple days ago, she originally wanted a break and that lasted a month and I kinda pushed her away by always trying to persuade her to come back, what messed it up is my friend saw her the day she broke up with me and pretty much told her off.....now the day she broke up with me we were actually start talking again and seeing what would happen but that obviously ruined it for me and during the whole break sit we met up a couple times and had a good time which led to other things, when she broke up with me she told me she'll always love me and maybe one day we'd be together again...what does that mean to you? is she just putting me down easily or maybe now since i'm not going to try to presuade her to stay maybe she'll come back to me? I told her to take some time when she's not filled with anger towards me to reconsider everything and she said that she already knows the answer but fine...what can I do? what should i expect?

Answer 1

You answered one of my questions so I thought I'd comment on your question too. First of all, you said in my question that this girl completed you. I think a person should already be a whole person with or without a girlfriend or boyfriend. Don't let one person be what makes you happy in this life, or you will be terribly disappointed. Find other things that can fulfill you. Some people say their religion is the most meaningful, for example. Others say their family means the most.

As far as this question, I'd say that the girl just doesn't want to be with you anymore. She doesn't sound very serious if she keeps breaking up with you. If she is serious and is really in love with you she'll be back to stay. She may have found another person whom she's interested in and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I don't know how old you are, you sound kinda' young. There are a lot of other girls out there. I've been in a similar situation when I was 19. I was engaged to a guy (who also was 19). He tried to put me down 'easy' by saying we should 'date other people'. We had been together for 3 years. We had planned to be married when we were 20. Anyway, What he really meant was that he found someone else who was still married, 7 yrs older than he was,and had a couple of kids already! I was devestated. It took me a few years to get over that relationship. Like you, I thought he would 'always love me' and only me! 6 years after that break up I found another man and he is wonderful! Of course, I prayed a lot and wanted the right one! That break up was a blessing in disguise. That ex-fiance that I had wouldn't have ever treated me as nicely as my husband does. Waiting on God is always worth it. I'm no expert, maybe she will come back? But if not, then break those ties and do you best to get over it as quickly as possible. Like I said before, she doesn't sound very serious when she says 'maybe one day we can be together'. If you truely are in love with someone, you want them now and don't want anyone else. Why have a 'break'? That makes no sense. I know you are in pain and want to be back with her, but if she has broken up with you before,then I'd say this isn't going anywhere. It's much better to find out now then after you are married. It's not any fun going through a divorce and if you have kids then you can't see them much either. Best wishes! I'll be praying for you.

Answer 2

Just give her some time. My fiance and I did this one time...and it took us 4 long hard months to realize that we couldn't live without each other. Now we have been together for 3 years and are expecting our second child. The point I'm trying to get at here is that if she really loves you, she will come back to you no matter what. I hope that you two can work it out, you really seem to love her a lot. I wish you the best of luck with this. If you wish, you can contact me, and I will try to help you some more. I know this can be really hard. Good luck!

Answer 3

Women tend to have taken a long time in the decision making process when they finally do break up. Perhaps you need to be a totally different type of boyfriend in her eyes to reverse a long thought out decision. Or maybe she just did it on a whim...who knows. Good luck. I always believed that space after a break-up is the best and if it is meant to be re-kindled nature will take its course.

Answer 4

You cant do anything to convince her of anything other than her lying to your face by sticking around! I would expect her to pop in and out of your life which is fine but when it starts to get more than friends put your foot down. The reason why is that she needs to learn to respect your feelings. She might be put off by this and she might actually become very persuasive in any attempt to get you to buckle but stand fast. She needs to know that just because you love her and you are dating officially now she cant just swing by for a quick lay. In time she will begin to understand were you are coming from. This is essential for her as it sounds like she is acting immature. Rest assured she probably wants to get drunk and do stupid mistakes and doesnt want to have to apologize to you for her ignorance. Just give her the distance she wants. Find yourself a new girl or keep your options open. If she comes back around and you decide to give it another try just remember what you learned from before.

Answer 5

Women are hard to understand because women get confused themselves when it comes to love/relationships. So don't expect anything. If she goes back to you and you are still available then great. If not, don't sweat it, it was never meant to be.

Answer 6

take her to a holiday give her sexy lingerie, choclates, flowers whatever she likes and f--- her 6 times a day everything will be fine. Believe me.

Answer 7

its hard 2 tell i would says shes letting u off easy