Wife cheated on me with a married man. I would just like to know if I could do anything to get the bastard in some trouble.
2006-10-24 19:46:34 · 13 answers · asked by dragoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It used to be that you could sue the adulterous party for their part in the break-up of your marriage. I would check, but I think that most states have no-fault divorces now, which is really a shame. I think people need to take responsibility for their part in the break-up of their marriage. That's why there are essentially more divorces now than marriages. So sorry for your loss. But, it does take two, so it's not all him. Some friendly advice? Don't let this consume you. Your emotions will be going through a rollercoaster ride. From anger to sadness. From beating yourself up to wishing you could beat them up. Find someone who can take you through the stages so that you don't become bitter. Use this time to examine yourself, making sure you don't make some very bad choices. And though you may not believe this (or want this), it IS possible to mend ANY relationship, even if just one of you wants to. Just a thought, anyway. How do I know? My husband cheated, and we worked it out. Forgiveness is hard, almost impossible. But it IS do-able. <*)))><
2006-10-24 19:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my opinion. I believe that most cheaters will never be able to change, but that doesn't apply to everyone. It IS possible to change, but it takes a lot of work. In most cases, the saying that a cheater is always a cheater is true.
2016-05-22 12:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly urge against pursuing that course. With that said…
If you divorce your wife, you can name him as co-respondent. If your lawyer is a meat-eater, he can make his life a living hell.
You can sue him, but you will a) have to show (quantifiable) damages and b) that he was actually the cause. Unless your wife is a minor or somehow incapable of taking care of herself (mentally unstable, highly medicated, retarded, etc.) your chances of wining are minute – at best.
You can look into where he works. They may have company rules which preclude amoral (moral turpitude) or illegal activities. Push it, and you might get him fired. You can also deal with his wife.
2006-10-24 22:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Is revenge really so sweet? You have given the both of them all of the power over you. They control your emotions now. Not you. Move on. Let it go and forgive.
You can choose to dwell on it and be miserable and you are right now. Or you can find another way to go. Forgiveness. Just take a look at your questions and answers. You are obsessing on this and you are the only one that is gonna suffer in the end. She will move on and so will he and you will be stuck in anger, resentment and misery. Your choice, but is it worth your soul?
2006-10-24 19:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naaa.....
HEy EMOTIONAL kinda stuff is no considered in LAW or Constitutional affairs...
But is that be a High Torture or Beating of the other person...
Or it finally leads to Depression of the bearer it may lead to some sue stuff...
2006-10-24 19:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by tanishk_tanay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always try, might end up costing you though and you'll look like a fool the second time around-
Sleep with his wife!
2006-10-24 19:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by jasesez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in the state of Iowa. I imagine where it happened at, and the situation as well. Some company's will fire you for doing that with another employee, but that is about the extent of it.
2006-10-24 19:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of states have statues on the books for this type of situation. ususally, it is called loss of consortium. you will need to talk to a family law attorney to get the details on your state. your first consult should be free, usually, the fine or punishment is very minor, but states like VA will absolutely enforce their laws.
2006-10-24 19:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by ca belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuantely no. You wouldn't get anywhere with it... I'm sorry to hear about what happened though. Maybe do a background check up on him... pull up some dirt.
2006-10-24 19:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Dumb question. Get over it. She wasn't happy. She acted out. Her choice. Now your choice is whether to stay or go. Make her feel loved again or get out. No point wasting years and energy on pointless revenge.
2006-10-24 19:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋