my boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago and i am still not over it!!?

Question

my ex-boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago and i still find myself crying myself to sleep at night. every time i see him i want to cry. so to help i just ignore him which ends up making it worse. i want to talk and be friends again but it herts so much still. what should i do?

Answer 1

Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes

Answer 2

Happened to me once and it took me so long to stop crying at night. I know it feels like the end of the world now but the pain stops...as cheesy as that was. I also ignored my ex but then I apologized and we said we'd still be friends. We were for a while but eventually we moved on with our lives and now I have found someone even better! Good luck

Answer 3

From my experience w/ ex's, it will never be the same. Unless there's something still there. Sure you could be friends, but there's always that akwardness. Right now the best thing you could do is give it time. It's never fun being dumped..haha..ya know, it's gonna happen more and more. It's life ya know. Next time ya run in to him, give a smile and a wave be strong (i know that's the cliche thing to say, but it's true). So move on, as hard as it is...it will get better. There's no time limit on the heart. But if you dwell on it, it's only gonna keep hurting.

Answer 4

Ooh! K, dont be this girl. or should i say THAT girl. Come on, I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but he is obviously using you because you give him an ego boost. You're the safe place to go. I'm not saying he doesn't care for you, but it's obvious not in that way. Trust me, I've played my share of games with the boys, and I would rely on certain ones to go to when I wanted to feel better about myself because I knew that liked me and would tell me what I wanted to hear. You need to tell him to stop and remember his girlfriend, and that you're not some "love on the side". And if he wants to treat you that way, he needs to man up, dump his gf, and treat you right. Otherwise, its time to move on? <33

Answer 5

Find a way to move on with your life. My wife left me 22 years ago and I still have dreams about getting back with her. I have lived in the past and my life has been nothing but hell. It has caused me to be a drug addict and alcoholic. I am just now clean and sober and trying to get on with my life.Don't let this happen to you. If he broke up with you then it is probably over. Let go and move on. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

i know how you feel.

maybe u let urself dwell too much on him.

do find something that would occupy ur mind. a very challenging one..

y not volunteer, or spend some time on improving urself, like really invest in yourself.. be better, or be the best that you could be, so that the next time you bump on each other, you wont look like the loser.

and more great boys would want to be with you.

=)

Answer 7

Avoid speaking to him for a while. Let yourself grief over your break up. After you are done grieving and have move on, that will the time you can start talking to him again. Only start communicating when you are ready. Good luck.

Answer 8

Get over it. It's not like you were married to him for 20 years and he walked out after the kids went off to college. Or worse. There are so many nice guys looking for love that it's amazing how girls/women are so good at not seeing them. Must be some dysfunction of having two xx chromosomes.

Answer 9

my wife left me 5 yrs ago and i still cry about it,still hurts like hell. but some days are better then others,because the world doesnt stop just because we're sad.it sucks i know it ,it hurts worse than anything,just try to grow from it try to be strong and allow time to heal

Answer 10

from my personal experience I can tell you it will pass!! I know it seems like it won't but it will. oh, if he is your first love...I'm sure he is.. and if he doesn't like you! just get over him... which again will take time. especially if you see him all the time. but it will pass. it will take time but it will pass. oh also crying is good cry as much and as often as you like....Im a guy and i did this and got over it now I happy with someone who loves ME and whom I love very much! Yippie!